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24 Things Men Like in Women more Than Just Good Looks

Updated on July 24, 2017

Things Men Like in Women More Than beauty

Contrary to what women might think, the things men like in women often have nothing to do with looks, bra size or hip size. Wearing clothes that accentuate your body is nothing new. Myles Munroe wrote,"Marriage that lasts a lifetime must be built on a foundation that will not rot, erode, or wear away over time. A successful, happy, and fruitful marital relationship must be on principles that are permanent, not temporary; forged from things that last, not fade away. Physical attractiveness won't do it. External beauty fades over time. Hair turns gray or white or falls out, skin wrinkles, muscles turn flabby, waistlines enlarge, teeth come out, eyesight dims, hearing diminishes. If you have built your marriage relationship on physical attraction, what will you do when the physical attributes that initially drew you together disappear?"

While every man is different, there are certain things about a woman that will make any man stand up, take notice, and make him decide he wants to get to know you on a deeper level. If you want to win the right man’s heart, you need to know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you to wanting and needing you on a deeper level. The women men decide to share their world with are the ones who will mother their children, help their plan lives, pick them up when they’re down and make them better men than they are right now. In fact, although physical appearance is the first thing noticeable, when it comes to settling down, looks often come in last and count the least. They're just looking for a good woman: a woman who's down-to-earth, sweet and sensitive to his needs.

A good listener

Most men appreciate women who are able to just listen to them when they have an emotional problem to solve. Just sitting, listening and showing that you care. You must be patient as well as understanding. The ability to listen and really hear what's being said and offer your advice at the end is one of the things men like in women because it shows you are supportive.

Good driving skill

Men like female drivers with good driving skills. When they are tired and the woman is to drive they will be rest assured they are safe. It is also adventurous to sit in the car relaxed and watch the woman make that engine purr through the highway.

Accomplished and fulfilled

Women who actually enjoy the things they do are more attractive and more pleasant to be with. It’s not about being extremely beautiful, having a good job, an impressive profile. It’s about you being happy about whom you are as a person. They love to see you being yourself. it’s about being positive, about knowing that you’re a great woman who deserves great things.

Enjoy your food

Eating healthy food and trying to cut down on unnecessary #calories is one thing; obsessively counting them is something completely different. While it is good to be conscious of what you eat, being excessively fastidious won’t really impress him. Being able to go out to a restaurant on a date, to relax, to have a good time and talk about your food in terms of how good it tastes instead of the calories content will be more acceptable.

A good cook

There is a general saying that, “the way to get to a man’s heart is through his #stomach.” Men love women who can cook tasty meals and women who would be willing to learn to cook for them. Eating out all the time is not a good idea.


Although fake girls may turn a lot of heads and probably get a lot of free drinks, most men would never choose such a girl for more than just a casual romance. Things artificial have short live spam. Try to be your real self all the time. Men will love you for what you are.

Ready to compromise

Every #man feels better when he knows his woman is ready to work hard to find a solution that will be acceptable for both sides instead of insisting on her way. So, you should be ready to compromise, because although men like beautiful women, they are some non-physical qualities that are far more important. The ability to compromise makes for a much longer, happier, and more fulfilling #relationship.


Men want to know that you care for them, not by repeating “I love you” until they can’t take it anymore. Show it by your actions. Take care of him when he’s sick or tired, surprise him with gifts once in a while, listen to his problems and show you care for his welfare.


A sense of humor is also one of the #things men like in women, especially in women they are planning to settle down with. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start. You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable. Men love women who have senses of humor and don’t take life so seriously. There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun. You laugh uncontrollably with your friends, so laugh with your man.


Men like women who are strong, not those who crumble with the slightest touch. Life is not always a bed of roses, so when challenges come, your man will be happy to know that there is a strong rock by him, in spite of your femininity – a #woman he can count on.

Emotionally mature woman

No matter how much partners are in love, eventually there’s going to be a situation that comes up where they will see something differently and misunderstand each other. How will you respond to this and share your feelings? The best things you can do for your relationship with him is not to blame or criticize the man, but to share your feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps your man better understand you. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman. No man likes a nag. If you let your emotions get out of control, this will create problems in the relationship On the other hand, if you can present your feelings to him in a calm manner, you will win his respect and make him feel like you are the kind of woman he can take serious. He’ll see that you can handle things with a cool head rather than become dramatic.

Motherly instinct

Most men love women with maternal instincts. A man wants someone that will take care of him and he also wants to know that the woman he chooses to have a family with is capable of taking care of their kids in the best possible way.


Every day is a struggle to get through and having a confident woman by his side is appealing. There’s something sexy about a confident woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws. Knowing you understand your worth is innately appealing. Just because women like makeup doesn’t mean that you must wear all the time. There are times that the man will like to see in your natural state. A man loves it when a girl doesn’t take two hours to #look perfect when he is late for an appointment. A man wants a #girl that is so confident in herself she doesn’t need anything but herself.


What men want in a girlfriend is a woman who can stand as his equal. Intelligent women are ones who have a keen interest in making the world around a better place. So be the smart, savvy woman you are. Stimulating conversations make a man respect you. To him, it's a total turn-on. The decisions we face in life can often present us with uncertainty and having someone insightful by our side can help us make the right ones.


A man wants to be your knight in shining armor and he wants to treat you affectionately, but allow him the luxury of treating you with romantic dinners and surprise gifts without having to demand them of him. Your man will be relieved that he doesn't have to try so hard to cope with your greed and surprisingly, this will inspire him to rise to the occasion when he doesn't have to dedicate his whole paycheck to prove his love for you.


One of the first things to go in a relationship is the spontaneity. You get stuck in fixed schedule in your relationship you’ll lose the spark you had when you first started dating each other. It could be fun to spontaneous once in a while. Men love a woman who can do things spur-of-the-moment. Do things differently sometimes to add spice to the relationship.


Men love to be active and to play. Guys like a girl who laugh at their jokes, but isn't mindless and isn't always serious about everything. A real man wants a woman who is playful. Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there. Biting remarks and snappy comebacks are just the witty displays to keep the spark between you in your relationship.


It's not all about your looks; it's more about an air of sexiness and confidence that will draw his eyes to you when you enter the bedroom. Embrace your femininity. You shouldn't just strut around the bedroom in lingerie and initiating sex. There is no doubt that a woman who is affectionate will entice men. She’s very warm and welcoming to a man. Big hugs and hugs from behind, playing with his hair or rubbing his shoulders or back are popular. Men are very physical human beings. Cuddle with him and nuzzle up closely to him and kiss him randomly. Many men admitted they melted when their women wanted to cuddle with them. It evokes this feeling of being wanted because men aren’t as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion and attraction.


Honesty is the habitual observance of truth. If a man can't trust you, how can he ever have any successful relationship with you let alone marry you? It is the most important virtue in character. Keep things open and honest in your relationship. One deception unavoidably leads on to another, until you are entangled in your own snare. Falsehood is difficult to be maintained.


Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a dependent woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful. If you over-depend on him, he may break up with you. Allow him to go out with friends and go to play games in order to relax. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship. The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world. Don’t drop your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him. And then, when you are with him, spend quality time with him. Endeavor to have fun and give your attention to him.


Men love to be breadwinners and head of their families, but they also love a woman who can plan that life with them. They don’t want to have to make every decision alone. They need a visionary, women who can see beyond the immediate. Ultimately, a woman who is willing to contribute to the survival of the family, will earn the respect of a man. When things get tough, she won’t be so easy to quit and walk away. Ambitious people, in general, usually figure out how to make things work.


Character is who you are. Where you go, whom you go with, what you say and how you say it reflects you as an individual. Be yourself. Character is the thing that counts most. Sidney Newton Bremer wrote, “An absolute surrender, consecration, and devotion of self to all that is better and purer and truer, is the secret of character building.” Men love it when you get dressed up and feel beautiful, but know that you don’t need to change from your real self in order to gain their acceptance.


In our contemporary society, many women fail to show respect to men in their lives all in the name of women liberation. The success or failure of most relationships has often been as a result of lack of mutual respect. How you present yourself says a lot about who you are. You can’t respect a man if you don’t respect yourself. Respect the man in your life.


Humble women exude compassion for others, putting others’ happiness before their own. It is only the shallow-pated who strive to attract attention by pretentious claims. The ocean depths are mute; it is only along shallow shores that the roar of the breakers is heard. Wise women show humility in order to protection and attract men. A man knowing that you have the desire to put him first is very impressive. The mark of truly successful relationship is absence of pretensions. Be humble.


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    • Chuksm profile imageAUTHOR

      Anthony Modungwo 

      3 years ago from Benin

      dashingscorpio thanks for your comment. I mean that beauty enough does not sustain relationship not that it is not necessary. After the initial infatuation wears off, what keep the relationship going are the listed attributes. It is no secret that many beautiful women have had many divorces because their looks was not enough to sustain their relationships when they lacked characteristics the make relationships work apart from their physical appeal.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      3 years ago

      I believe having "good looks" or a man being physically attractive to a woman is still for the most part the impetus that causes him to want to approach her, get to know her, take her out and spend his hard earned money.

      If he found her "physically unappealing" he probably wouldn't invest the time getting to know about all her other wonderful traits.

      Ultimately men want all the traits you mentioned in a good looking woman.

      One man's opinion!


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