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25 Reasons for You to Forgive and Forget

Updated on August 10, 2012

To Forgive and Forget

The phrase "forgive and forget" refers to the action of forgiving another person for doing something hurtful and purposely forgetting that particular action. When you forgive and forget you can experience great benefits for yourself.

Here are 25 reasons to forgive and forget:

25 Reasons:

1. Life is too short to hold on to negative feelings.

2. Negativity holds you in the past rather than living in the moment.

3. You are able to move forward when you forgive and forget.

4. You do so for your own mental health rather than for the other person in the relationship.

5. Your blood pressure likely lowers.

Be free. You are able to move forward now.
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6. See photo above.

7. Your headaches may disappear.

8. Holding on to hostility can create tense muscles; your physical body suffers.

9. When you release negativity, you free yourself to experience positivity around you.

10. You graciously forgive the other person rather than spewing anger; you remember graciously.

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11. There are so many people in your life who have not done wrong by you.

12. You have so much to be grateful for today.

13. Ask yourself if the other person deserves a second chance.

14. You do not need to be a victim; you can stop that feeling now.

15. You have more room for compassion when you let go of anger.

16. You may inspire other people to do the same.

17. You may have read the situation differently than it was intended.

18. There is already so much negativity in the world. Why add more?

19. You open yourself up to new relationships.

You Free Yourself When You Forgive

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20. You become stronger in your sense of self.

21. You learn from the experience.

22. Matthew 6:14-15 says: 14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

23. Rest in the good around you.

24. Because you can.

25. Your days are worth more than harboring resentment. Smile and move into the present!

Move into the Present When You Forgive and Forget

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      Kenneth Avery 3 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Christy,

      I truly enjoyed your hub. You have been told this in your life, so I know I am not the first. You have a natural gift for writing.

      I wish you would pursue writing a book--non-fiction or fiction.

      I voted up and all of the buttons on this hub because I could feel the creative energy in your words.

      The lay-out was excellent. Presentation superb.

      I left you some fan mail and now I am following you.

      Would you do me one favor and look at one or two of my hubs and become one of my followers?

      I appreciate that so much.

      K.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      I don't easily forgive and forget. However, I'm trying hard to alter my attitude. Christy, you give valid reasons.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      A wonderful & uplifting read! It is better to forgive and forget rather than be resentful and unhappy. Your 25 points are valid and true. Once again, a wise & sensible hub. Way to go!

      Happy Birthday!

      Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up & shared on Facebook

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      Thank you for sharing so many reasons - and reminders - to forgive and forget. Voted up and useful!

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      Subhas 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

      HI Christy! With the adaptation of forgive and forget in life, one reaches the point of umpteenth happiness and calmness of mind which is otherwise always disturbed. So, with this we actually favors ourselves. You have written a very great hub.

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      the sarge 4 years ago

      Oh so true, had a friend that we had a conflict, but I forgave her for all the things she said and did to me. Made me feel better, but to this day she never forgave me for what I said in anger.

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      Mary 4 years ago

      Christy I forgive and forget... the forgetting is very important... because I am stubborn! I refuse to let that person who hurt me also control me and my emotions... so I forget them!

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      Christy Birmingham 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Sweetie1, you are right that the process is not easy. But then, not many worthwhile things are...

      Thanks Dana, Dghbrh, Jen, and Rajan for stopping by to read and comment. Take care.

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      sweetie1 4 years ago from India

      It is better to forgive rather than keep burning in fires of anger and self pity. But I don't know if it is very easy to forgive and forget, because in many cases lots and lots of emotions are involved and not possible to forget all the memories though they do get dim with time.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Some fine reasons to let go of the past feelings and move on. You are right this life is very precious for holding on to negative emotions.

      Voted up,useful and beautiful. Shared this hub.

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      jenbeach21 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Great hub! I wish more people would take your advice and let go and forgive.

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      deergha 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

      Well job done, Very nice hub.. Votes useful and interesting. Sharing too

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      Dana Strang 4 years ago from Ohio

      These are very simple and very true reasons. This is a must read for anyone harboring resentment. Perfect for the holiday season. Why go another holiday angry when you can forgive and forget. Sharing.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thank-you Docmo, Sunshine, and Shruti for the comments here. I enjoy the encouragement of comments here and am pleased to share the important message of forgiveness. Take care.

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      shruti sheshadri 5 years ago from Bangalore, India

      Beautiful :) life is soo short for silly incidents isn't it? forgive and forget indeed! love the message :) voted up :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I stopped by for a reminder course. I'm still trying! ;)

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      Mohan Kumar 5 years ago from UK

      Profound insight on the simple yet difficult act of forgiveness shared so wonderfully in these little thought nuggets. Shows the nature of your heart and its infinite space ... Well written and so , so true. shared.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thanks Dancilla, I think it is an important message.

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      Priscilla 5 years ago from El Paso

      Very good hub, the message is really good.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Thank-you epigramman for the kind words here. I think there is a lot to be said for forgiveness and it is more about us than the people we forgive. Your compliments here are wonderful and nice to connect with another Canadian writer too!

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ....regal, profound, soulful words to live by - my fellow Canadian - and a list of thoughts and ideas so important to consider and learn from on a daily basis. Love your selection of hubs here - there is something for everyone - and you are what I call a hubber's hubber - and that means top of the line!!

      sending warm wishes and good energy to you from lake erie time ontario canada 3:15pm how was your summer and what kind of weather are you expecting out your way during this winter?

      I was in the lake for a quick dip the last two days but my time is coming to an end as I think I will pass today - it's cooler again and a return to fall

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      Buddha was wise beyond his years~ Thanks for stopping by Chuck!

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      Chuck Bluestein 5 years ago from Morristown, AZ, USA

      Buddha said "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Vellur, I do agree with you. Thank-you for stopping by today and for the lovely fan mail as well.

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      Nithya Venkat 5 years ago from Dubai

      A great hub, forgiving is the best thing to do. Life is short let us all enjoy and be happy.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @BabyFerlyn, You sum it up right! Positivity is important. Thanks for the comment and welcome to HP!

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Raymond, your comment is wonderful my friend. Here I see again your pure kindness and realize that we are meant to connect. We help one another and share wisdom as well. Take care my friend.

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      Raymond Alexander Kukkee 5 years ago

      Christyb, you are right on, 25 times over. Beautiful, my friend, and well done, and inspiration to anyone to examine how they are treating negativity itself. Smile, for our very own Christyb shows us why we should forgive all upon the road of life... ~R

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Deborah, I am not able to offer a blanket statement here but I do bring up the point that we can not change the past. How has the "betrayer" acted since the incident? Is there remorse or efforts to make amends? Ultimately it is up to your friend. Thank-you for your comments and for taking time to think on this issue. Take care.

      @Posh, I appreciate all of your comments. So nice. It is good to have you back at the HP community.

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      Deborah Neyens 5 years ago from Iowa

      Aren't there some things that are just unforgiveable? I ask this in all seriousness because I am struggling with this question now. My good friend is dealing with a betrayal so horrible it's affecting everyone in our close group of friends. I don't know how I can forgive the person myself, whom I also considered to be a good friend, much less see how she possibly can forgive him. And forgetting is out of the question. Maybe it's just too soon and too raw to even think about forgiveness now.

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      Steve Mitchell 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire

      Christy,

      You are an inspiration. This is another fine hub, well done.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Rahul, my sentiments exactly. Thank-you for the comment and pondering of the issue.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      all in all... great reasons quoted here.... the best for me were no.2 and 3

      Negativity holds you in the past rather than living in the moment.

      You are able to move forward when you forgive and forget.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @CloudExplorer, I do believe that there is enough negativity in the world. Let's do our best NOT to contribute more of it! Thank-you for your wonderful comment, votes and support here at HubPages.

      @Olde Cashmere, I am pleased you connected so well with my hub. To forgive and forget is a powerful concept and we do have to power to release the negativity. Take care.

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      Mike Pugh 5 years ago from New York City

      Wonderful and uplifting tips here for folks to learn from, I try the art of positive thinking myself, and things tend to work out for the best, and I liked the one about no longer thinking of negative things, cause your right it harbors past issues and does more harm then good.

      Yet another awesome hub of yours & inspiring too voted up on all levels accept for funny. Nice one!

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      Olde Cashmere 5 years ago from Michigan, United States

      Beautiful topic to cover as it can free many people from negativity. This is a wonderful hub and I thank you for sharing this powerful life changing message. Voted up, useful, interesting, and beautiful :)

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @girishpuri, your comment is very wise. Thanks.

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      Girish puri 5 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      To get and to give creates many problems, but forget and forgive solves all the problems, nice share

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Jackie, yes you are right. The person's face can carry worry and pain. Good observation. Thanks for the comment.

      @Marc, the hippies tend to live on the smaller Gulf Islands. Here there are a lot of preppy types and trendy youngsters. Thanks for stopping by!

      @Lord, well I do not know... ummm YES! LOL you are a funny guy. Thanks for stopping by to comment and give me a laugh too.

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      Jackie Lynnley 5 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I know we can all look at someone we know to see what unforgiveness looks like and so we should all take a lesson from that.

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      Marc Babineau 5 years ago from Cornwall, Ontario, The Seaway City

      Oh, come on, you could only come up with 25? hehe, living on Vancouver Island, i thought you hippies were all about love and happiness?

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      Joseph De Cross 5 years ago

      Can you forgive me Christy for not coming in here and comment in time? I mean..you don't have to hold a grudge for 1 1/2 day delay..? Thanks for writing this! So true, by the way!

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Janelle, you are welcome, thanks for stopping by!

      @brackenb, How nice of you to write this!

      @TTombs, Yes let go and be open to more positive feelings. Thank-you for the vote and comment.

      @Levertis, Great analogy! I agree and appreciate the kindness of your comment.

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Cathleena, Yes we reap many rewards for the mind and body when we forgive others. I wanted to include the religious element as well. Thank-you for the compliments.

      @Teaches, Our body really does respond to emotional stresses. I am pleased you like the hub.

      @Vinodkpillai, Thanks for writing your hub as well for me share your work. I believe this topic is very important and I am pleased you enjoyed the read.

      @LoveDoctor, Thank-you!

      @Sunshine, Yes no need to beat around the bush when it comes to forgive and forget! Thank-you for the votes and great smile too!

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @emily, I really thought number one was important too. Glad you noticed why I placed it there. Thanks for your great comment and support at HubPages too!

      @Alecia, thank-you. Forgiveness really can free our spirits. Your compliments are wonderful and I appreciate it Alecia.

      @bmcoll, Please let me know when you write the hub and I look forward ot the read. Thanks for the vote and comment.

      @Bill, You are such a loyal reader, thanks my friend. I am pleased that you enjoy the hub.

      @MsLofton, Thank-you!

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      Christy Birmingham 5 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      @Suzette, thank-you for the wonderful comment. I have been through difficult circumstances in my last few years and am thankful for so many things now. I am happy to share my thoughts. How nice that you see the purpose of the hub and understand the true reward lies with yourself rather than the other person.

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      janellemendoza 5 years ago

      I like this. Thanks for writing this hub :D

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      brackenb 5 years ago

      Excellent hub - everyone should read it!

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      I love this hub. More people should let go and move on. Nicely done. Voted up and then some.

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      Levertis Steele 5 years ago from Southern Clime

      Forgiving is like exhaling after holding breath for a few days--so refreshing and free!

      Thanks for sharing these 25 wonderful nuggets.

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      Cathleena Beams 5 years ago from Lascassas, Tennessee

      I agree completely - Forgiveness frees us from the strongholds of bitterness. It is for our own benefit we forgive those who have hurt us. I'm glad you included Matthew 6:14-15. Great hub!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Great hub topic. It is amazing how a headache can be linked back to emotional connections such as unforgiveness and anger. Thanks for sharing.

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      Vinodkpillai 5 years ago from Hyderabad, India

      Fantastic hub! I particularly liked the format - listing down 25 reasons to drive home the value of forgiving and forgeting. Voted up and useful!

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      lovedoctor926 5 years ago

      Awesome hub! Good message on forgiveness.

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Excellent reasons! I like #24 "because you can" straight forward and to the point. UP! Awesome!

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      Suzette Walker 5 years ago from Taos, NM

      You are so right in this hub! This is an excellent hub for EVERYONE to read. It is true as you say, you do more for yourself when you forgive and forget than for even the other person in the relationship. You are wise beyond your years. Keep up the good work!

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      emilybee 5 years ago

      Great hub Christy. Number one is so crucial. Life IS too short so let's make the best of it :) Enjoying reading your positive, motivating hubs!! Voted up.

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      Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      Excellent hub! I think so many people would benefit from just letting go and moving on. I think there are things that affect us but forgiveness helps expedite that process. A great read!

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      bmcoll3278 5 years ago from Longmont, Colorado

      Very good hub. Very true stuff I think I am inspired to write one explaining what forgiving really is. I find most people in my life did not know. Voted up and awesome.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great hub, great reasons, love the message! Keep them coming and I'll keep reading them.

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      MsLofton 5 years ago from IL

      This is great and so true!!!