- Gender and Relationships
5 Mistakes Women Make When Dating
Whether you need someone by your side at all hours of the day, are a single parent and meet someone who comes into your life and you push co-parenting, or you are so used to being alone and doing things alone that you stubbornly reject help when it is offered to you, dating can be an exhausting adventure!
No one likes rejection, and no one likes to be labeled as "crazy," or be that person someone runs from because of pressure. For some, dating is a breeze but for others, not so much. Hopefully these tips can help demonstrate why and how these situations can lead to dating disasters.
1. Have High Expectations
No matter how you guys started talking, or how you guys met, when things are just starting out, it is wise not to have such high expectations. That will lead to disappointments and do nothing but waste your time and make it even harder for yourself to date someone else. We all know that when we first meet something we feel a strong connection with, we tend to wander off and daydream of the two of you so happily together, but the truth is, people can turn on a dime! So don't "put all your eggs in one basket," so they say. The best thing to do is approach the situation lightly and take baby steps. What is meant to be will always find it's way.
2. Be Clingy and Needy
OH LORD! So we all know there are a lot of people out there who need to be stuck to their s/o 24/7! But when you're in the dating world, I'm not so sure if this behavior would qualify for making something lasting unless both people are the same way. BUT...this doesn't mean text him repeatedly until you get an answer back when he could be working or busy. Trust me, when he wants to contact you, he will contact you. If you send him a message and get no response, don't jump to conclusions unless this is a re-occurring thing. Then it may be possible that he is just trying to blow you off. The signs will be a little more clearer once you've dealt with someone for a month or so. But even then, patterns can change at any time.
3. Stubbornly Independent.
If a guy wants to take you out on a date and he seems like he would be someone you would really get along with, why turn it down? I, personally have trouble with guys paying for me. I haven't been taken out to dinner much and chances are when I did, I would pay my own way. I get a funny feeling when someone offers to take me out to dinner. Weird! I know! There are also the independent women who don't like to ask for help or who are used to doing it all themselves that they don't seek help from a man or let alone, anyone for that matter. If you have a man in your life, I believe you are suppose to work together as a team. Besides, sometimes you just need to give yourself a break every once in a while!
4. Push Parenting
For those who already have children, no matter if their biological father is in their life or not, no one, no matter male or female should be pushy for your child to accept someone new as playing the parental role in his/her life. Especially if you have young child(ren) at home. It's going to take time for someone to warm up to them to the point where they feel really comfortable. There really isn't any precise time limit on this though. It will happen when it happens. Or even in some cases, it might not happen at all! But the main thing is your child looks to you for guidance. It is crucial not to let someone into your child's life who is not good and good enough for the both of you.
5. Lose Sight of What Is Important to You
For example, if Saturdays are your days with the girls, keep that routine! Don't give up everything you like to do when you weren't with anyone. That will cause you to lose your own happiness and we all know its great to get some time to yourself or do the things you enjoy doing on your down time. Some people push everything aside and focus solely on that new person that came into their lives. Granted, it is VERY exciting and very hopeful that you are or have found Mr. or Mrs. Right. Don't let anyone keep you from your own happiness.
I have seen certain scenarios like these happpen, and it just makes me think about how it is people are going about dating and then sad when it doesn't work out as they had hoped.
I had a co-worker contact me for advice before, asking which guy she should give a chance to, and the answer was pretty obvious even though she couldn't see that. She said she kept messaging him because she hasn't heard from him and that her men tend to disappear after they spend a weekend with her. Needless to say, she tends to think the world revolves around her and that could be a turn off to some people.
The trick is, not every experience is going to be exactly the same, but I believe there is someone out there for everyone you just have to be patient and no wear your heart on your sleeve so to speak. Which also is why I included that as #1 on the list! Sometimes things don't work out as we would like them to.
Maybe the person you met or are talking to hasn't truelly revealed their true colors yet. It all depends on the person, but it's important that you don't get discouraged because maybe the one you're meant to be with, is going through something as we speak and fate will step in and lead that person to you or vice versa. Anything is possible!