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5 Questions a lady should ask her man
Everyone has the good and the bad part. The person with whom you choose to spend the rest of your life should be able to enhance your strengths and work on your weaknesses. He should make you feel like not only the best version of yourself, but the truest version as well.
There are several questions that you need to ask whoever you are into a relationship with. Before you venture into any relationship, make sure you understand the true purpose of that relationship. This will give you a sense of worth and a vision to achieve a goal in your relationship. these questions should not be asked on the first date, but maybe on the second or third as the case may be!
What are his plans for the future?
It is very important to know the plans of the man you are willing to go into a relationship with. Where he sees himself in the next few years ahead is a very important question. His response will determine if he has the right plans or not. The more interested you are in asking these questions, the more information you will get from him. When you’ve known what his plans are, you can then know if you can fit into his plans or not.
Relationship with His Mother
It is important to know his relationship with his mother. This part should not be underestimated, he’s relationship with his mother tells how things will go in the future - yes! It doesn’t mean that there will not be some challenges or misunderstandings, but you’ve got to know how he sees his mother and their relationship as mother and son! When you’ve asked him that question, and he replies something like; “we are not in good terms”, then know that it is a danger signal. A man who has no good relationship with his mum will have little or no respect for women. Even when he accepts that he is in good terms with his mum, you will discern from his attitudes towards you.
Why Does He Want You?
This question should be asked in politeness and sincerity, with smiles on your face, in order to avoid him getting you misunderstood. There must be something that attracted him to come for you. Do your best to know what that is. This will help you create the right foundation and reason for that relationship to workout. Each of his answers will reveal a lot more about him, whether he’s serious about the commitment, or he just want to use you to fulfill his lustful desires.
His relationship with God
If you meet a man who has no solid foundation in the things of God, you’ve got to be careful with him, have nothing long term to do with such person. You may say “I love him, and I will do my best to change him”; this may not really work by your own personal effort. It could cause a problem. I’m not saying that you can’t date a man who doesn’t go to church, or who has a different belief system than you. But if his core beliefs don’t match up with yours, then there is likely to be a problem, so watch it!
What Does He Do For A Living?
Every man who is ready to make a relationship interesting should have a good and sincere source of income. If he has nothing doing, then he has to find one and get busy. Don’t make him feel you are asking because you have personal needs to be met, make him see you as someone who is interested in his well being. It will make him develop great love and respect for you. In the normal sense, if he loves you, he has to meet your needs, but there are hard times, and there are good times, use your feminine power and wisdom to balance the equation, and you will get the best out of your man!