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5 Reasons Why You Should Not Be In a Serious Relationship With Someone Twice As Young

Updated on April 6, 2016
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They say that love is blind, but that doesn't mean love as to be stupid. Sometimes we do a lot of things in the name of love without thinking the whole thing through. We make commitments because of love, we make sacrifices because of love, we may even give up our own lives because of love. But what many blind lovers fail to realize is that love is not a one way street. In order for love to really work, both partners have to be in it whole heartedly, not 70:30, or 50:50, but 100:100. Having a full, honest and workable relationship has many factors associated with it. One of those factors is the age gap. They say age is just a number, but try skydiving at the ripe young age of 90 and you may just end up landing in a pre- dug grave. Age is not just a number, it is a factor which helps to determine the generation gap that is workable when we venture into serious relationships. People marry other people younger than them or older than them everyday, but those numbers may be workable. But what about a man who is 70 years old tieing the knot with a 25 year old beauty queen. Or a cougar being involved with a 22 year old jock even though she has began to use dentures? Do you think these relationships are workable? Or these younger folks are just love scammers and down right gold diggers? Well, for persons who believe age is just a number, here are the factual reasons why you should not be in a serious relationship with someone twice as young.

1. 98% Are Only In It For Your Money

It has been proven time after time that when much younger people venture into relationships with much older people, there has to be some financial advantage. Most if not all younger women who seek older men has already done all their background check on the individual. They know more about their bank books than the person themselves. If the older person was not wealthy, they would not have ventured down that path as there would be nothing there to benefit them. What these older persons must realize is that if the wealth runs out, so will that younger person. This is a simple equation, no money equals no love.

2. Your Health May Be At Risk

It is all good when you are say 40 and the other person is 20. You can go party away, drink all you want, go catch the biggest fish, do all what your age allows you to. But what happens when growth occurs, now you are 50 and that person is 30. That person will still want to do all the exciting things which that person age permits, but you are now entering your tone it down times. The younger person will want to drag you along and just may put your health at risk. Your heart does not get any younger and the older you get, the less strenuous activities you can endure.

3. The Inevitable Cheating

So you believe Viagra is all it takes to keep your young maiden in line? you better think again grandpa. People will always be people, young girls are attracted to some elderly men, but mostly studs which are in their age group. A 75 year old man has nothing sexually over a young 28 year old hormone hog of a man. Not only does the young man have a much more attractive body, he may have that natural stamina to satisfy the lady. In short, the younger person will eventually become attracted to another young person and then your young maiden or stud will eventually cheat on you.

4. They May Do Things To Speed Up You Kicking The Bucket

So Senior citizen Widow Mrs. Helen Marley as inherited 50 million dollars from her late husband's business. Mrs Marley is 76 years old and is rich. She is lonely and needs companion. It is a known fact that Mrs Helen Marley suffers form intermittent heart problems and cannot manage too much excitement. Here comes this young stud who is a great actor. He acts like he has no knowledge of Mrs. Marley's money and spends his money on her instead. He even buys gifts and jewellery. But that is just a tiny investment which he knows has to be done for her to gain his trust. So now stud jock is going in for the kill, he has been around her for one year. He begins to get bored of her and now needs to move on, but not without his return on his investment. The couple end up getting married and now the jock has his hands on her money. He now begins to indulge in strenuous exercises with her, They jog everyday, but one day during jogging, her heart goes out. Now Mrs Marley is no more and that is no big deal to the stud jock as the timing couldn't be sooner.

5. May Cause Division In Family

Even though everyone is entitled to their own choices when it come on to their love life, family members may have a problem with a younger person being with their mother or father. Can you imagine a child of say age 26 who has to call her father's new wife of age 25 her step mother? Many times a rift develop between family members and even though some will just accept it and move on. Other would reject it and will disassociate themselves from the Union. The reason being is that they believe that the person is too young and is only in it to gold dig, and once they dig enough, they will simply move on. Many of these family members have a right to think that way, because most of the time, that is exactly what happens.

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I don't want you the reader to get the wrong idea about Relationships with vast age gaps. There is no problem if a man has the hots for a youngy and both decide to do there thing. Many older men know that they are simply the sugar daddy and accept their role without animosity or jealousy. If you are a cougar, go ahead and get that young stud. But the minute you fall head over heels for that younger person is the minute you just got your heart broken. Go on, go ahead with your juvenile lover, have fun, have drinks, make love, but just leave it right there. Make the relationship a i scratch your back you scratch mine type of relationship. Nothing serious like marriage.


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      Madan 17 months ago from Abu Dhabi

      Good post but you need to factor in that men do not age the way women do. Also, the Hindu Tantra recommends sex and companionship for MAN with the younger woman for longevity and health, not to talk of the path to nirvana.

      I have so many older men -younger women marriages and all are not about money

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      Clive Williams 17 months ago from Nibiru

      @SayYesToLife. That's true, that is why the percentage stands at 98%. (Look at first reason)

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      Yoleen Lucas 17 months ago from Big Island of Hawaii

      Six years ago, a good-looking charismatic 22 year old guy moved into the boarding house house where I live. He immediately struck up a relationship with a beautiful woman his age. Six months later, he lost interest, and she went through the trouble of moving out to ease her broken heart. He tried to get into a relationship with another young woman, but she wisely refused. Eventually, he moved out.

      He returned 2 years ago, with a girlfriend 19 years his senior. He treats her like a queen. Living in a boarding house, she obviously has no money, so that's not the reason.

      My doctor brother told me it is common for people who have issues with their opposite gender parents to go for someone older. Not all young people are gold diggers.

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      Clive Williams 17 months ago from Nibiru

      @fpherj48, some older folks actually believe it will last forever. tsk tsk so sad and naive.

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      Paula 17 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      LOL! Oh Clive this is funny. I agree with your 5 reasons I suppose and especially about not going so far as to MARRY an old goat or a cougar who's well beyond her prime.

      The point is...everyone seems to agree that both the old goat and the cougar are fully aware of what they want and the young victim has evil motives themselves. So, in this case, since both people agree to the game.....go for it. It' not meant to last anyway!

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      dashingscorpio 17 months ago


      1. Most men believe if they become rich or successful enough they can have (any) woman they want. Essentially a short fat bald rich guy in his 60s with a 28 year old girlfriend or wife (knows) it's the money that brought her into his life. It's a "tradeoff" he was prepared for. Very few men are rich and stupid. :)

      Hugh Hefner founder of Playboy Magazine was 86 when he married his 26 year old wife and former centerfold model. I doubt either of them is "in love".

      Truth be told according to his age he should have been pursuing actress Betty White! Old rich guys pursue young women because they can afford them. Another factor may be many women their age have lost interest in sex. Viagra on the other hand has added more years of activity for men.

      As you noted: "Many older men know that they are simply the sugar daddy and accept their role without animosity or jealousy."

      2. If you were 40 and they were 20 when you met 20 years later you'd be 60 and they would be 40. Depending upon one's genes; age and health statuses will vary. Model Christie Brinkley is in her 60s and still can rock a bikini!

      3. The more money one has the more opportunities they have to cheat. Odds are the young woman the old guy is with was his mistress to begin with! LOL!

      4. Even people of the same age have been know to plot murder! :)

      5. No doubt about it children will always worry about their inheritance whenever grandpa or grandpa takes up with any lover let alone a younger one. More often than not the "family" is more concerned about themselves and potential loss of money than they are about their parent or grandparent. If you're old and rich (you) earned it.

      Life is a (personal) journey.

      Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Live like there's no tomorrow because one day there won't be!

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      Clive Williams 17 months ago from Nibiru

      @alwaysexploring, please share those diamonds

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      I was digging for diamonds, done got all his gold....Hee

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      Clive Williams 17 months ago from Nibiru

      LOL @always gold digger you!

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      Clive Williams 17 months ago from Nibiru

      hey franko....better leave those younger ones....they are money takers and heart breakers.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 17 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Dat burn! I reckon I'd better turn him loose, but I ' shore ' did like the old feller.....LOL

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      Frank Atanacio 17 months ago from Shelton

      Clive I agree with you LOL love the pic-pocket pic..LOL great hub