Making Sure He is in to You

One of the most elusive things in life is finding that special someone and next is how to maintain the relationship. There are a number of things that women have to keep in mind for ensuring that love remains in the relationship. In order to sustain the romance, keep these principles in mind:

1. Strength

This is less about physical strength, this is more about mental strength. A woman who cannot stand up for herself, or stand behind her convictions can be seen as unappealing. The fact that a woman can hold her own, in this day and age, is very attractive as well as charming. Also, there is the notion that; “Desperation is the worst perfume.” Any sign that you are in dire need of a man will scare him off, especially at the beginning of the relationship. Don’t be afraid to stand on your own two feet. Times are different. We ladies sometimes ignore the fact that men's attitudes have changed over the ages (alright, not all of them, but you get my point). There are guys nowadays who are looking for capable partners, who view and respect women as equals. If your special someone is this type of man, then you can be fairly certain he's looking for a strong woman who stands beside him and not some meek damsel who stands and walks 2-3 steps behind.

2. Self-Confidence

If self-confidence attracts a woman to a man, it also works the other way around. Being sure of yourself is seen as a plus. But make sure you don’t shove it in everyone’s face. That is also unattractive and not cool at all. Self-confidence means making a decision and sticking to it. If you’re not confident in your decision, you’re not confident in yourself. If this is going to be serious relationship and your special someone is looking to go serious, remember that he is looking for a reliable partner, someone he can count on. Your sense of confidence in yourself and your abilities and principles will be assuring to him.

3. A Sense of Humor

Laughter is a highly attractive trait. It shows that you don’t take life too seriously. After all, most men don’t. You don’t have to be a comedian, being able to laugh is enough to get a man’s attention. After all, laughter and love seem to go hand in hand.

4. Passion

Sure, when that word passion pops up, most men think of the bedroom. However, if a woman doesn’t have passion outside of it, the relationship will falter quickly. That applies to both genders. To have passion may merely mean lighting up with excitement at something being mentioned and starting a conversation. That spark brings out that same spark in others. That, in itself, is a very attractive trait. It also means you believe in something, and this exhibits important traits such as commitment, faith and interest in matters other than your own self and your needs.

5. Personality

Sure, this may seem a given considering the first two points. A guy wants to date a woman with personality, not a complete dial tone. You are who you are, and if the guy you’re with can’t take it, he’s not worth it.

2011 Moira G Gallaga©