- Gender and Relationships
5 Thing to do after a divorce
1. Take a deep breath and relax
The very first thing you should do is take a deep breath and let any negativity simply flow out of your body when you release your breath. The divorce is over and you survived! Now is the time to embrace your life and leave any negativity that was involved in your divorce behind you.
2. Do something just for yourself
You marriage has ended! All that stress and negativity is now only a part of your past (unless you have a kids and still have to deal with your ex-spouse). Now is the time to simply do something fun for yourself to celebrate (or prepare yourself for future interaction if kid are involved). Call some friends and have a night out on the town, take a vacation, go party, do whatever it is that makes you happy and embrace your freedom.
3. Consider your new life and plans
You have relaxed, left all that negativity behind you, and had some fun; so now it is time to think about your life and your future. You are now free from the ball and chain so consider was there anything you wanted out of your life before your marriage that you never got. Is it possible you can still make that wish or desire a reality?
4. Make sure you are safe from a vindictive ex-spouse
Depending on how your divorce came about and how things ended make sure you are safe from your ex-spouse deciding to be vindictive. Make sure any shared passwords of accounts that belong to you are changed. This includes anything from bank accounts to social media. The last thing you need is your ex-spouse sending your friends fake tweets and messages from your social media and/or email accounts. To this end, make sure all of your friends and family are aware of your divorce and pre-warned if you think your ex-spouse might try anything with them.
5. Lastly embrace your new life
Whether you wanted this divorce or not it has happened and it is time to leave it all in the past. Do not let your divorce be the rock that keeps you from reaching your true potential and happiness. If you have kids and you have any sort of shared custody, agreements see if you and your ex-spouse cannot keep a coordinal relationship for the sake of your kids. Most importantly though embrace your new life let yourself enjoy life without pulling your past behind you on a chain every day.