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3 Things You Shouldn't Forgive Him For

Updated on July 30, 2011

Some people will say turn the other cheek no matter what someone does to you. I suppose in theory this is a lovely idea, but in reality it's just not humanly possible in every situation. I think there are things even a saint couldn't forgive. Sure, you might be able to forgive someone who isn't particularly close to you for doing something relatively crappy, but if your boyfriend has done something really horrible to you, do not allow yourself to be sucked further down into what is sure to become a neverending abyss of pain and turmoil. I say this because even though you might think yourself capable of forgiving certain things, it's virtually impossible to forget the really bad experiences, and this will eat at your consciousness until there is nothing left. Read on for 3 things you should never forgive him for.


1. Physical abuse

I'm not going to sit here and tell you that physical abuse is a clear sign a man doesn't love you. Why? Because I don't think it's necessarily true. I think it's entirely possible that someone who loves you could bash your face in once in awhile in a moment of psychosis. But do you really want to be with a psycho just because he loves you in his own twisted way? Whether he really loves you or not, this is the behavior of an unstable person who cannot control his emotions and therefore you should never give him a second chance to hit you. I believe there are relationships in which a man hit his woman only once and never again, but statistically speaking it's quite the long shot. Don't gamble with the odds, you deserve better.

2. Cheating

This is, perhaps, the most difficult thing to forgive. Many women try it, but I don't think any of them really manage it in their heart of hearts. The disintegration of trust will eat at the relationship, possibly leading to more fighting, mistrust and even paranoia. It's a lose-lose situation for both people, because she will live in constant fear of being cheated on again, and if it really was a one-time thing for him, he will never be able to come out on top and will always feel as though he's living with a cloud looming over his head.

3. Theft

This should be a no-brainer, but some of us choose to ignore the signs and continue to give more chances because we don't want to believe we've invested so much time in someone who could steal from us. Well, let me just say, I have been there and I know this firsthand. What's important here is that I ignored the earliest signs this was happening with small things. I told myself I'd misplaced something, that I was mistaken. But when the bigger things went missing, it was clear I'd been deluding myself. So when your instinct tells you he's stolen something from you, don't ignore it. And never, ever forgive it -- not that you really can. I tried. If you can do it, you're a better person than I could ever hope to be!


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