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5 Things to Do When You Think You've Lost Your Voice.
5 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU THINK YOU’VE LOST YOUR VOICE
Life is tough. Let’s face it, from the minute you get up in the morning you are faced with a barrage of decisions that you have to make and that is just for ordinary decisions like what to eat, what to wear and basically planning a day out at the office. There are more complex matters that demand your attention beyond daily living, maybe you have bills to pay that are mounting, relationships to nurture, self-care needs that need to be met, but you are honestly grappling for the time.
Yes it is so easy to slip off being on your ‘A’ game to suddenly feeling like you’re a whirlwind of giving time and energy to everybody but yourself. Between running around like a headless chicken trying to plug all holes, it is clear that you haven’t just lost your handle on time – but somewhere along the line you have lost something more important- YOUR VOICE.
Who am I?
What do I stand for?
What do I need?
What do I want?
Maybe this reads a lot like the ranting and raving of a teenager, trying to find themselves instead of the lament of somebody in their late twenties or early thirties.
These may sound like words that are foreign and unfamiliar to your own sensibilities, but the question remains are you willing to reach out and bring yourself back from beyond the grave?
Take Some Time Out
With everybody baying for a piece of you, the easiest thing that you can do right now is to simply take the plug out. No it isn’t selfish to go off the radar for a little bit. There are literally times when you need to take a deep breath, steel your nerves, grab a bag and head off into the sunset with little more than your own shredded sanity and a few sandwiches to keep us sustained. When your soul has the time to breathe, you will find that it will finally speak. When there is a constant external pressure being applied to your brain and sensibilities you are literally unable to focus on anything you have to take some time out to get out of your own way.
All these thoughts flowing around through your head, swimming and churning, so much so that you have become too inert and you are now living inside your head. Sounds familiar? When last did you step outside of your mind and have a conversation with a friend? Maybe you have grown so inert that you haven’t actually made any contact anybody in a while and your voice sounds rusty even to you. Which brings me to my point- journaling. The art of journaling allows you to get your thoughts out on paper. Once you see yourself in tangible ink on paper you are able to see who you are and what you are about even better. But it doesn’t have to be just words. Use your paper to doodle, to write out poetry to just get the essence of who you are out there for you to see. When who you are is tangible and in front of you, you are better able to take yourself seriously.
Say yes to life by all means, but learn how and when to say no and draw the line to people who threaten and intrude upon your peace. When you are able to look at yourself and your life and weed out the people and the events that are causing you pain, you will learn the value of ‘NO’. Too often we are all worried and stressed about what the next person thinks, so we bend over backward to accommodate them. The thing that we fail to realize is that more we say yes to others the more we say no to ourselves. Give by all means, but remember that the greatest gifts that you can give is to yourself.
Nobody can possibly know and understand what you are thinking to begin with. You are the only one who can comprehend exactly what happens in your life. Begin by understanding that you need to speak up for who you are and what you’re about or nobody will do it for you. For goodness sakes, say what you mean in a manner that people will understand. Don’t have impossibly flowery language for the simple things that you need and want to say. If anything you need to know and understand that life in all its raw, earthy and elemental state, is nothing more than your interpretation of it.
Just in case you might be in need of some inspiration to make your voice heard- take a listen to Katy Perry’s Roar.
Katy Perry- Roar
Cry: Get In Touch With Your Emotions
When was the last time that you truly cried? Not the inauthentic type that comes into your eyes, misting it over gently over just a few minutes, but a real, soul satisfying, deep retching sob that came from deep within. If you feel as if you haven’t cried in a very long time and you need to just let it go. We forget our sense of humanity. Sometimes all it takes for us to get in touch with who we are and what we are about is for us to have a good cry. When we are honest about who we are and what we do and we can admit to our wrongs that is when we are able to look at ourselves clearly in the mirror.
Speak in the only manner that you know. When you open your mouth to say the things that you have to – stop for a moment to notice your language. How have you composed the words that you want to say? Too often in life we are so caught up in pre-packaging our statements and what we want to say to the world that we lose the essence of who we are. We lose our voice. Ask yourself the critical questions. Find your voice!