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5 Tips on How to Get Your Boyfriend Back After You Cheated

Updated on December 13, 2012
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Do you want to know how to get your boyfriend back after you cheated? Did you just make a big mistake and now all you can think about is how to make things right and make him come back to you?

First of all, keep in mind that learning how to get your boyfriend back after you cheated on him will not be an easy thing to do. After all, you did betray his trust and finding out that you’ve been cheating on him is like a slap in the face. But with determination and lots of patience, you might just be able to pull this off.

Make him understand the reasons

The first thing you need to try to do is make him understand why all this happened. This doesn’t mean making excuses or putting the blame on him. But if you felt like it’s partly his fault because he hasn’t been spending time with you, then make sure he understands that. Don’t forget that it’s still your fault and you should be the one to ask for forgiveness but at least make him understand the reasons behind your actions.

Control your emotions

It’s essential to control your emotions especially when you’ve thought things through and trying to apologize for your mistake. There’s no excuse for cheating so accepting that you were wrong and saying you’re sorry is a huge step when trying to get him back. But when you’re having this conversation, you don’t want to end up in another fight so you need to keep your emotions in check.

Give him space

There’s a pretty good chance that he will not take you back immediately. No matter how badly you want him to forgive and take you back, he may need some time to think things through and deal with the pain. You should respect his space because if you keep telling him that you don’t want to lose him then you’re only coming off as a desperate woman. Perhaps what you both need is some time away from each other to realize just how important you are to him and he to you.

Cut off contact with the other guy

You’re respecting your boyfriend’s space now prove to him that you’re really serious about your apology and cut off contact with your other guy. Just because you and your boyfriend are on a break doesn’t mean that you can now call the guy you’re having an affair with. Your boyfriend may want to know where you are all the time and he may have some trust issues at first. That’s to be expected and the best thing for you to do is go along with him if you want to regain his trust.

Don’t rush him

As mentioned, he’s going to need time to think things through. You can’t force him to forgive you so take a step back and just let him be. When it comes to how to get your boyfriend back after you cheated, you need to be patient.


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      pam 2 years ago

      Hey, I need your advice. About a week ago my boyfriend and a mutual friend of ours went out. We had a couple of drinks and had a blast. Long story short I was told that I kissed a random guy in front of my boyfriend that night but I have no recollection of this. He spoke to me once explaining what happened that night but I can't remember anything. He refuses to talk to or even listen to what I have to say. I have even made an appointment for a polygraph test to prove to him I'm not lying about not remembering what happened that night. I am upset because he won't believe me, or would even consider the fact that something might have gone wrong or even that my drink was spiked. How do I go about getting him to talk to me so I can explain and prove to him I'm not lying?

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      monica 2 years ago

      After being in relationship with him for 7 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by reffering him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster He also help me to win lottery, his email: you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEM

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      TRACY 2 years ago

      My Name is Ms. Tracy Newton, I was married to my husband for 13 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2009 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to Dr.obadam, but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man obadam is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address obadamtemple

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      portia 3 years ago

      deeply hurt hope n pray that boyfrnd forgive after cheating on him love him so much

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      neha 3 years ago

      First of all thanx, I cheated on him by sexual chatting with other guy, but I did so just for fun & healthy flirting, but he read those conversation in my phone, he was Very upset, Very angry to was his birthday too that day, I felt so guilty, but still we Are in contact, but he is really not talking properly with, m sure I will get him back in my life as we both love each other so much, n i will never repeat such stupidity again in my whole life.

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      sophia 3 years ago

      we had been in a relation from last 1 year n more.. few days ago.. i accepted a frend request from a classmate of mine.. in dat he wrote that he likes me n wanted to propose me.. he even tried to flirt with me.. but i didn't did.. i just said once that "a hug was fine".. n "i m tired of my present bf now".. my bf read our conversation n broke up.. i tried out everything.. but i can't get him back..

      i love him a lot.. n even he loves me a lot.. but i want to clear this misunderstanding.. what do i do..??

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      shattered heart 3 years ago

      Thank YOU for thee advice , he broke up with me yesterday, so i still have a very long way to go. but i really hope everything goes well and works out for me , i am deeply inlove with my ex boyfriend , i just want to see him back in my life that's all.

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      dumbgirl 4 years ago

      So helpful! Thank you. I know I need to be patient, even if it's killing me. Can't believe I was this dumb to screw things up, and I'm hoping in time he can forgive me.