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5 qualities to look for in a potential Wife!
Marriage is a life long commitment, and should not be entered in whimsically. Before you make a choice to walk down that isle, I encourage you read to thoroughly through this article.
The reality that we face presently is that about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. I wrote this article because I do not want you to become a negative statistic.
My grandfather passed away a few months ago and he managed to stay married for 60 plus years. He died in the arms of the Woman he has been faithful to for the last 60 years.
I'm, coming up on 3 years of marriage so I still have long way to go, but I think one of the keys to a strong healthy marriage is choosing the right spouse.
I will be writing about some key qualities to look for in a potential Wife, and ladies keep an eye out for an article I will be doing soon about what to look for in a potential husband. Just so you know I'm not just picking on the ladies.
Quality one: You want her to have similar goals as you in life.
When you decide to get married you and your wife will become one. What's yours will become hers and what's hers will become yours. So as far as the future is concerned you want a woman that shares your dreams, and aspiration.
And I don't mean that she does not have dreams of her own but she has to be able to support your dreams.
If you want a big family , you do not want to marry a Woman that does not want any kids. If you want to travel the world, it would not make sense to marry a woman that has no aspiration for adventure.
Me personally before I got married I knew that I wanted to be a Pastor, and so I was looking for specific qualities in my wife. She had to be able to support and handle the grueling life of a Pastor's wife.
I was not going to marry a woman that hated God and wanted nothing to do with the church. our Goals had to be similar.
Barrack Obama knew when he married Michelle that she was a woman that could back him up as he aspired for certain things in life. Every Woman cannot be the first lady of the united states.
Quality Two: Transparency is key.
You want to find a wife who is transparent with you. Honesty is critical in marriage. you want to Marry a woman that you can trust.
Relationship's are built on vulnerability, and transparency. When you can be honest and open with one another.
A lot of women are not comfortable being transparent about who they are because they fear rejection. People in general are not comfortable being themselves, and being open about who they are good, bad or ugly.
A lot of people hide behind a wall of insecurities and past hurts. If you can find a woman that is transparent and honest with you, you will find a wife that you can trust.
Quality 3: Relationship with God.
This is the most important quality. you want to find a woman in love with God. A woman that put's God before you. A woman that Love's God will never fall out of Love with you.
"We love because God first loved us". A Woman truly in live with God will have firm moral integrity. There life will be governed by a righteous standard, and your trust for her will grow on a Dailey basis.
A Woman that Loves God is a woman that prays, and a woman that prays is a woman that stays. If she is connected to God, she will be connected to you. Ask her how her relationship is with God.
I made a quote on Facebook years ago I said. " Yes she's pretty, but does she pray". Beauty without God is Vanity.
One of the main things that attracted me to my wife, was how I would go to the church at different times, and countless times I found her in the prayer room, communicating with the God of the universe.
Quality 4: She has to be attractive to you.
She does not need to pretty in the worlds eyes, like the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I am a firm believer that you personally have to find her attractive.
Your going to spend the rest of your life with this woman, and I would hope that you are at least slightly attracted to her. We can lie to our self all day and say that looks do not matter, but that's simply not true.
To say the outward appearance does not matter is to rebuke God for his creativity. I think beauty is inward and outward, and you want to find a wife that your physically attracted too as well.
Quality 5: A good Cook.
There's an ancient truth about men that remains true today and that is " You reach a man heart through his stomach." One of the reason's I fell for my wife is because she laid I down in the kitchen.
I am a true to heart millennial. I was all about the microwave until I got married, and take it from me you do not want to marry a woman that can't get down in the kitchen.
I'm joking , kind of.
In all seriousness though when looking for a wife if she is lacking in any of these areas be reminded that no one is perfect not even you. Always remember to have grace and let God be the final verdict.