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6 Noble Virtues of an Ideal Wife - Qualities of a Good Housewife

Updated on September 24, 2014
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Anamika S. Jain has been a social media consultant for six years. She has written more than 200 articles on relationships and dating.

6 Noble Virtues of a Housewife as stated in Neetisaaram
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How to be a good Housewife?

Who is a good wife? How to be a good wife? What are the Qualities of an ideal life partner? What are the virtues she should have?

Wifely virtues are described in Tulasi Ramayana (Sri Ramacharitamanasa) Aranya Kanda verse 4 as advice given to Sita by Sage Atri’s wife Ansuya. As per the verse, ‘Devotion of body, speech and mind to her lord’s (husband’s) feet is the only duty, sacred vow and penance of a woman’. The 6 Noble Virtues a housewife should have are summed up in the verses (from Neetisaram or Neeti Saara or Niti Shastra) given below.

Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni

— Neetisara

Being a Good House Wife

Neeti Saara is a very popular collection of morals written by Telugu Poet Baddena aka Bhadra Bhupala who lived during the 13th century. Since this was written by an Indian keeping in mind the Hindu culture, it outlines the qualities an Indian bride should have.

Meaning of 'Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri; Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha, Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri, Shat dharmayukta, Kuladharma Pathni'.

1) Karyeshu Dasi: works like a servant

2) Karaneshu Mantri : advises like a minister

3) Bhojeshu Mata: feeds like a mother

4) Shayaneshu Ramba : Pleases in bed like the heavenly beauty Rambha

5) Roopeshu Lakshmi : Beautiful like Goddess Lakshmi

6) Kshmayeshu Dharitri : Having patience like Earth

7) Shat dharma yuktah: woman who has this six virtues

8) Kula dharma Patni : good housewife (a married woman who is not employed outside the home)

In short, a good housewife should

  • Be like a servant in doing the chores of the House
  • give intelligent advice like a minister to her husband
  • serve food to the husband as lovingly as a mother feeds her son
  • like a courtesan in the Bedroom
  • Beautiful like Maha Lakshmi and
  • Have the forbearance of Mother Earth

As per the last line of the shloka, a woman should have all the above said qualities to be an ideal house wife. It also means that the absence of even one quality makes a woman a failure as a good wife. Anyone hearing these verses on Patni dharma (virtues of wife) would know that it is from a man. As per the writer, being a wife is like a round the clock service to the family. This age old concept of how the wife should be has entered the mind set of even modern men and woman because of such a shloka. I might be ignorant here but I don’t think the writer thought of writing about 6 Noble virtues of an Ideal Husband necessary. Correct me if I am wrong. Is there a similar verse describing the qualities of an ideal husband? I doubt! However, the Hindu Dharma also has references about husband and wife relationship as ‘saha dharma chariNam’ which means sharing of dharma equally. It is also said that the results or fruits of the chores would be shared equally. As per Manu, ‘where women are honored, the Gods are pleased; where they are not honored, all work becomes fruitless’.

In this 21st Century, the role of a wife has completely changed from what existed in the 1950s. The Modern Woman comes across as a strong, independent and powerful individual who manages both home and office. Still her contribution and role in one’s life and family is often taken for granted. Her efforts are neither acknowledged nor appreciated. Thanks to the typical Indian male mindset. Even though the qualities outlined in Neetisaaram are for that of a housewife (a wife who stay at home), it is seen that most Indian Males expect their wives to fulfill the role even if she is a working woman. I know a couple who works in a Bank. Both the Husband and Wife go to the Bank together and come back together. But the wife does all the work before going to bank and does all the work after coming back from work also with no help from husband at all because according to him running the household is her responsibility. No matter how free, progressive, educated and successful a woman is, most Indian men see the household chores as a responsibility of a woman.

In this modern age, how far this six desirable characteristics or traits of an ideal wife are possible? No wonder, woman like me find some of these verses Male chauvinistic and patronizing. I find the expectation of perfection (Goddess Lakshmi in Beauty and Rambha in Bed) from woman degrading. Do these traits apply for women in this 21st century? A marriage is supposed to be an equal partnership between the Husband and Wife. Having said this I also agree that woman should thrive to achieve this 6 fold role to have a happy and successful marriage. I am a firm believer of ‘Treat your Husband exactly the same way you want yourself to be treated’. What you give is what you get in return. Give love, respect and care to your Partner and you are sure to get it back from him. Even Niti Saara has a similar verse, 'Do not do unto others what one would not like others to do unto oneself'.

Today's Wife and Mom : No offence meant, But this is the plight of most Women in this male dominating world where household chores and children are mostly considered as the responsibilities of females. Image Courtesy :
Today's Wife and Mom : No offence meant, But this is the plight of most Women in this male dominating world where household chores and children are mostly considered as the responsibilities of females. Image Courtesy :


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    Loveth Akudo Anosike 

    10 months ago from Enugu

    I sure believe a good homemaker is really someone who loves staying at home. Some people are entitled to what makes them happy. I think this kind of carrier is a choice

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    6 years ago from Indonesia

    "Being a Good House Wife". One big responsibility is raising up the kids

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    7 years ago

    1. Share work

    2. Seek advises in each

    3. Treat as Princess

    4. Love as Manmatha

    5. Heart as Shiva (Give better half {left side where heart is present} to your better half)

    6. Be a Bartha {husband} (meaning who take cares)

    Six fold for ideal Husband!! :)

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    Raj Mallesh 

    7 years ago

    Cool, If there is a women with such qualities, I'm ready to do anything for her.

    Ladies you should understand that any man will surrender himself for such a women.

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    Gaurav Gaur 

    8 years ago

    according to Hindu system, a family itself is a sort of business which need a financer, a manager, etc. and as a profit all the family memebers live happily and family grow positively, gain respect in society, etc.

    male work as a finacer as he go out to earn for family, whereas female work as a manager who takes care of internal deptt and manages things like food, etc from the araning of the males. male took the charge of external world, he do the public relationship sort of work, he gives safety to family from outside world and in the same way female give the family right direction from inside as she guide their childrens, support male as a minister, respect and help elders. so female work in itself is very important. but both male and female has to work together in a rythem. for which both has to respect each other. both has to be truthful and love each other. both has to respect each other desires. outside home husband has to take care of each and everything inside home wife to take care of husband, kids, elders and family.

    if we go deep 7 vachans of hindu marriage works and ideal qualities of dharam patni works. but only if taken positively by both husband and wives.

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    Wesley Barras 

    8 years ago from Anchorage, AK

    Here are my six

    1) Cook

    2) Clean

    3) Do Not Talk

    4) Give Great Head

    5) Smile

    6) Make Sure Fridge Is Always Stocked With Beer

    That is the six things men look for me a wife.....I am just kidding lol I actually do not believe in that but I wanted to garner a few "omg" and "what a pig" reactions. Good HUB btw

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    8 years ago

    Do you love reading books? me too

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    Mara Clemente 

    8 years ago from Borinken, Loíza

    Right there with ya Earth Angel!

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    Earth Angel 

    8 years ago

    Blessings! I don't know whether to laugh or cry Animika! Or maybe rejoice as these Six Noble Virtues are applied equally to men? Blessings always, Earth Angel!


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