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6 Ways to Get Your Boyfriend Back

Updated on January 21, 2014

How to get your boyfriend back

Ways to get your boyfriend back

Tip#1 Remember, recall and review

Three words should come to mind before anything else: remembering, recalling and reviewing. Arguments weren’t born out of nowhere and it usually arises out of simple differences that couples fail to resolve. Numerous values, unique social differences, strong beliefs, understanding and expectations are usually pre-set in the minds of each individual from the culture and up bringing they grew up with. Simply remember the person’s individuality, recall how these factors impacted the relationship and review what the troubles truly were. By doing so, you should start understanding why it ended in a break up in the first place. What follows is determining if these differences can be overcome.

Tip#2 Affirm yourself first.

Break ups are never easy to deal with and it can be hard to accept if love is deeply invested. Do you really want to get your boyfriend back? Be certain that this is what you really want and not just because you are attached or dependent on him. Portraying a level of neediness will only annoy him, so you need to ensure that you project a level of confidence and you are fine without him.

In some cases, unconditional love blinds women from recognizing incompatibility which result in desperate actions. If you were being wooed, would you choose someone desperate or would you prefer confidence?

Tip#3 It’s all about the right timing.

At an early stage of a break up, it can be assumed that in many cases, most men still contain feelings for their ex-girlfriends -unless of course it wasn’t a serious relationship in the first place. Try to find out if he still cares and if so, take advantage of this time to get him back!

In those situations where he just needs some space, be disciplined and don’t smother him. Try to keep yourself busy to prevent yourself from getting in touch with him as it could make things worse. He will truly appreciate the respect you will give him towards the break up and it could possibly make future reconciliations easier in time. Who knows, he might just make the first move and get you back too!

Tip#4 Make amends.

Make an effort to make amends through things that may have lacked in your relationship. For example, it could be as simple as taking a bit more care of yourself, making yourself really attractive for him, surprising him with his favourite food or simply bringing him chocolates or flowers. Although they may not like to admit it, men do like to feel appreciated and spoilt from time to time.

Tip#5 Stay true to your yourself.

To get your boyfriend back, you need to be yourself! In many cases, people can change over time. When a relationship develops or even becomes too comfortable, some women can change who they are, whether they have become more dependent on their man, or they don’t have that independence when they first met, or they just tried to do what they could to please their man. Although you thought you were doing it for the right reasons, somewhere along the way, you changed who you were which is not the same person as when you first met. He fell in love with you for a reason so show him your true self and remind him of the person he fell for at the beginning.

Tip#6 Be bold and strong.

Don’t be afraid to make a move because if you truly love him, you should go for it! You should know if it feels the right thing to do however don’t forget the reasons why you broke up in the first place. If the reasons were things that you can’t change, if they repeat you will end up in the same position so be strong and YOU make the call if you know that it can’t work. If after trying to reconcile that you don’t feel like it is right, be confident in yourself that you can walk away as there will be someone out that who will love you for who you are.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 4 years ago

      Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you is my motto.

      Generally speaking an ex is an ex for a good reason. Most people who want to get back with their exes tend to romanticize the past and ignore the issues. Unless one of them has made a 180 degree change there is no point in getting back together.

      Having said that if someone has to change their core being in order to make a relationship "work" then it's a clear sign they have chosen the wrong mate for them self!

      In order for him or her to be "the one" they would have see you as being "the one". Naturally if someone dumped you they didn't see as being "the one".

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde