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6 secrets of a long distance relationship: How to maintain happiness in long distance relationship?

Updated on August 28, 2012
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Love is the most beautiful and eternal feeling of this world. There is no doubt that the real zest of love is to live together but there are very few who are lucky enough to hold their beloved ones in their arms throughout the life. Sooner or later, most of us have to suffer the pain of long distance relationship due to some unavoidable circumstances. The period of long distance relationship is the most testing time for any relation.

We have heard from most of the people that long distance relationships don’t work. But trust me after reading this hub, there will definitely be a change in your thinking. If you are also one of those people who are suffering from the pain of long distance relationship and finding yourself clueless on how to maintain your long distance relationship? Then just take a long breathe and read this hub and there will definitely be crackling solutions to your problem.

Now, let me come to the main theme of the hub and let me sail this ship to the destination.

Communicating every day is the biggest tool to maintain your healthy long distance relationship

Most of the long distance relationships don’t work because people just don’t able to communicate with each other daily. Remember just a single good morning or good night can work wonder for your long distance relationship. When you communicate daily with each other then, there remains an ambience in the relationship.

Remember, that communication doesn’t mean just to be formal in your relationship but to share all the sorrow and happiness of your whole day with your beloved one. This will help you to maintain the firmness of your long distance relationship. Just keep one thing in mind that more you communicate in your long distance relationship stronger will be your relation.

Maintain trust & avoid jealousy in your long distance relationship

Trust is also one of the most indispensable things for maintaining a long distance relationship. Remember that you are not living together and you can’t make doubts clear by face to face interaction. In my view, love is the closest synonym the word trust. So, if you can’t trust your partner then this means that you never ever loved your partner.

Also, there comes a word, possessiveness and for me this is the most important word in a relationship. Possessiveness is always good for the betterment of your long distance relationship as it gives the feeling that you are expressing your deserving right on your partner. But the real problem starts when this possessiveness is mixed with jealousy which can destroy even the strongest relationship. So avoid jealousy and show possessiveness to have a rocking long distance relationship.

Truth & honesty are key elements of your strong long distance relationship

Two bodies and one soul is the simplest definition of the love in this world and I am sure most of you are familiar with this definition. This definition is not a hypothetical concept but has a deep meaning for those who can understand it. Now, suppose if you and your partner has have one soul then how can you lie with your own soul? This simple means that if you are in a deep love with your partner then there is no place of lie between you.

This path of truth will also develop the habit of honesty in you. Trust me, once you will have the truth and honesty in your relationship, the flower of love in your long distance relationship will blossom like never before.

Stay positive and sail the ship of your long distance relationship to the destination

People who always maintain the positive attitude can face any problem in their life. It is said that there is always a solution to every problem in this world but there is a need to approach it with right positive attitude. Positive attitude is one of the main secrets of a great personality.

In a long distance relationship, there will be lots of instances when you will face lots of problems in your relation without any solid reason. At that moment your attitude and approach towards the problem will be tested. Whatever problem you face just keep telling yourself that you can go through this hurdle easily and love your partner very much.

Remember, sometimes a small misunderstanding can lead to a painful break up just in the absence of a positive attitude and right approach.


Little surprises are the stepping stones of a cute long distance relationship

Imagine a situation when you are calling your beloved one in midnight to your partner for just saying three words I love you or missing you. Although these two or three words seems very simple but they will be of great weightage in expressing your love.

Little surprises always act as condiments in your long distance relationship which just make your relation more tasty and beautiful. Use your creativity to give little surprises to your loved one and it will work wonder for you.

Keep your emotional bond strong enough to compensate the weakness of physical bond

Physical attachment and emotional attachment are two pillars of a strong relationship. But as in long distance relationship, there will be no physical intimacy as two creatures are far apart physically. So, make the emotional bond between you so strong that you can overcome the physical need between you.

I have seen many couples who live apart from each other from so many long years but still the bond of love between them is as strong as the bond between night and moon. The only reason for such a strong bonding in their long distance relationship is that they have superb emotional dependency on each other.

Last but not the least, it doesn’t matter that you live with your partner or you live a long distance relationship. The only thing which matters is that how much the bond of love between the two souls? So, if you are in a long distance relation, then follow the above secrets and you will be go through it easily.

If you have anything to say then just feel free to jot it down. I will be happy to gather your views


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      Aman Thakur 

      6 years ago from India

      Hello DDE,

      I am glad that you found my points helpful and valid.

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      6 years ago from India

      Hello Rainpurplewine.

      Thanks for the appreciation and your valuable comment.

    • DDE profile image

      Devika Primić 

      6 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Long distance relationships are not for me and you have mentioned such helpful tips thanks

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      6 years ago from ATLANTA,Ga

      I never was one for a long distance relationship, but occasionally you will meet someone whose worth the time and effort. Great hub.

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      Tamara Wilhite 

      6 years ago from Fort Worth, Texas

      While the internet has led to many people falling for someone far away, this advice is also relevant to migrants struggling to stay connected to a spouse miles away.

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      Tyesha Sewer- Matthews 

      6 years ago from MOSS POINT, MS

      Love is all about balance because that other person can improve you and fill in your blanks. You can do the same for him/her too. Love is beautiful and will teach you how to play fair. Thank you!

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hello TyeshaMathews.

      Thanks for giving such an insightful comment. You have very clearly raised the point of keeping others away from the relationship. I also do believe that one should maintain the balance between the love life and other family life to have a strong bond in every relation.

      I am totally in support of all the 6 points you mentioned for the risks of involving others in your relationship.

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      Tyesha Sewer- Matthews 

      7 years ago from MOSS POINT, MS

      One more thing is to keep others out of your relationship because of a few reasons.

      1. Family and friends can over step boundaries

      2. Friends may have it out for that man/woman you love

      3. Single friends and family tend to have jealousy towards happy couples

      4. your personal issues with that person are between you two and we know friends don't always keep quiet. The whole town will know you and your lover are not on happy street.

      5. When you tell every time you and your partner have a spat, that makes his/her relationship with your family and friends end because they only see that you are hurt and begin to dislike who you love.

      6. keep your girlfriends at bay about certain things and watch them (guy with yours as well) because they will lie to you about your partner and break you up and try to hook up with him be hind your back.

      It is okay to share your success with friends but never get them too involved in your relationships because those closest to you will hurt you deeper than a stranger could.

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hi Ruchi,

      Thanks for standing by and posting your valuable views. I am extremely happy that although you and your hubby are physically apart but you both share a rock solid bond of love.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 

      7 years ago from Singapore

      Hello Aman, this article is personally very meaningful to me. My husband and me are living in different locations and need to do so for another one or two year. I think our love is growing strong as the days pass by. We like to communicate every day even though time difference between our places is huge. I agree with you that emotional intimacy increases in long distance relationship which makes the relationship even stronger.

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hello Jessa,

      You are really an inspiration and answer to those who think long distance don't work. Thanks for standing by and giving your views.

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      7 years ago

      My hubby and I are in a ldr for more than a year now, almost 6000 miles apart. The days are getting harder for us, in the end we still go back to why we are in this relationship anyway, we are determined to be together after all is settled. We are young and not rushing. I write about it on my blog and get encouragement from a lot of people. Here,

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hello Scribenet,

      Thanks for your appreciation and giving your valuable time to read the hub.

      I must say that you have very precisely summarized the hubs with your thoughts on long distance relationships.

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      Maggie Griess 

      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Great Hub! This advice works.

      First you do need to find the right person...not everyone has the emotional strength to manage this.

      Staying in touch every day is very important, plus truth and honesty make the cornerstones of this type of relationship.

      It is also a great test of your relationship... with the right person it strengthens the bond because both parties are committed to make it work.

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Thanks for the appreciation iguidenetwork. I do agree with you that luck plays a major role in the long distance relationship. But I also feel that one should also do his full efforts for protecting their long distance relations.

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      7 years ago from Austin, TX

      I've known many people close to me have had long-distance relationship. Some succeed and some do not, it's just luck somehow. Great and very interesting hub. :)

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Very rightly said Deepika that everything in a relation depends upon the commitment and truthfulness.

      Thanks for standing by and pondering your thoughts on the topic.

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      Deepika Mehra 

      7 years ago from New Delhi

      Great Content...thanks for sharing such a beautiful thoughts and suggestions. I must agree that if the relation between two peoples is true then no one can break them...whether it is long distance or some other issue...

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Thanks unknown spy for standing by and appreciating my work.

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      Life Under Construction 

      7 years ago from Neverland

      Bravo! you got it man! i think that's why we survived years of long distance relationship... :)

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hello Bharat,

      I think there is undue ego clash between you and your girl. There is a need of making a fresh start. The main reason of such behaviour is lack of proper communication. Just sit with your partner with an open and cool mind and discuss all the problems prevailing in your relation. Try to convince her that how much you love her and importance of positive atitude in the relationship. I am sure she will understand your situation.

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      7 years ago

      What if in a long distance relation the girl isn't positive at all and demands the guy to also not be possessive...?

      Its happening to me and I'm really confused... She openly says she won't agree to even small things which I ask her...

    • amanthkr01 profile imageAUTHOR

      Aman Thakur 

      7 years ago from India

      Hello relationshipdj,

      You very rightly said that support is the key element to maintain a long distance relationship. I am elated that you find time for reading my article and giving such insightful comment.

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      7 years ago

      I used to say that I wouldn't date someone that has different area code with me then my girl had to move away for school. I am actually finding long distance relationship to work for us. We were boyfriend/girlfriend before she left now we are engaged to be married

      One key important thing I see that help in our long distance relationship is completely supporting one another. The biggest thing is to be going through something while you are away and your partner is not backing you up. We find it so difficult nowadays for people believe in long distance or difficult for others to cope with it since they don’t know what to do. We even started our own site as part of our way to cope with relationship.

      Here's our story

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      7 years ago from USA

      Great info. I'm including a link to this in my newest hub.


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