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7 Easy Tips For You to Become a Better Diner

Updated on October 30, 2015

Meet your waitress. Isn't she nice?

You  can help to keep her pretty smile intact by acting right and doing right.
You can help to keep her pretty smile intact by acting right and doing right.

You, the wife, and your boss and his wife

are heading to your favorite restaurant to have dinner. This is not necessarily a business dinner as it is a social dinner for you told your boss that when you had the money, you would treat him and his wife to dinner.

So last week, you were blessed with a big raise and bam! Guess who remembered your offer? Your boss did before you could surprise him with the dinner offer. Interesting. Maybe he engineered you getting the raise since his sister-in-law is over Human Resources. Of course this might be a coincidence.

Upon arriving at the restaurant, you feel resentful toward him for being first to remind you of the raise and you resent yourself even more for making such an offer to him recently. Maybe it was those last two Bourbon and water's you threw down to settle your nerves. Of course this too, just might be a coincidence.

The four of you are seated by a friendly waiter. Now from the time your waitress, "Sally," who looks like the girl at the top, acknowledges your table, you go from a smart alec to a know-it-all and finally an arrogant butt who is not liked. These foolish acts are not coincidences. These are you not knowing

The Seven Ways For You To Be a Better Diner

This is the waitress that every diner, male and female, dream of having. A wise diner will help her to keep being this nice.
This is the waitress that every diner, male and female, dream of having. A wise diner will help her to keep being this nice.
Please, DO NOT laugh like or act like THIS fellow when you dine-out.
Please, DO NOT laugh like or act like THIS fellow when you dine-out.

I published this photo

of a sweet, hard-working waitress doing just one of her tasks besides waiting tables. That's right. Waitresses do MORE than wait on people who are abusive, self-centered and arrogant. They are expected to fold napkins with silverware, empty garbage and other menial tasks. I know. My daughter before she married, worked at one of our local restaurants and gave it her all. Let me brag a second. She was so good at her job that her "following," or regular customers would be disappointed if she were not on duty that day.

1.) TALK IN A FRIENDLY TONE when ordering from a waitress. Why? Waitresses take a lot of verbal crap from a lot of so-called, "good" customers. Be different. Be vocally-kind.

2.) DO NOT SCOWL OR FROWN if the waitress should bring someone else's order before you get yours. You have never been in this work, so you cannot understand the pressure a waitress endures to please her customers, so chill, bro. Time is not ended and there, I promise, will be time for you to eat.

3. DO NOT SLUR YOUR WAITRESS to the people in your party while she is bringing your orders or taking your orders. "This would sure make a great place for a restaurant," said in a gruff tone by you is not going to make anyone happy. Including your waitress who by the way, is going to the kitchen and crying her eyes out because of your immature behavior.

4. IF YOU ARE GOING TO TIP then tip. Please do not vent your anger or vengeance on your waitress by allowing her to see you start to place a five-dollar bill on the table as her tip only to jerk it away and laugh like a jackass when she walks toward you. Hey, pal. Waitresses work on tips, not hourly wages. Oh yeah, you have never had to do this streneous work, so I will save my breath.

5.) PLEASE DO YOUR BEST to leave your table as clean as possible. This includes cleaning-up where your kids have, without knowing any better, thrown most of their meal onto the floor and table. I know that you are not paid to clean tables after you eat, but let me ask you, "What has happened to showing compassion on others?"

6.) DISCUSS YOUR TOPICS IN A CIVIL TONE while you and your party are dining. No one in this restaurant will appreciate a loud mouth full of mashed potatoes that is being spewed toward any moving thing in sight. Talk quietly. And yes, laugh heartily, but do not drag other diners into your joke that you are enjoying a wee too much.

7. BEING INDECISIVE is not cool when ordering from your waitress. If you cannot make up your mind and keep your waitress at your table, she might leave the menu and check back later. Like I said, she works on tips and she would love it more if you knew what you wanted to eat.

PLEASE READ THE FOLLOWING: I give you, the ones who love eating out, an open challenge. I challenge you to do one or as many of these tips as possible the next time you and your wife or party want to eat at a restaurant. I promise you this: If you succeed at whatever tips you choose, your waitress, wife, and party will appreciate you . . .and isn't that worth the effort?

Have you or any member of your family ever worked as a waitress?

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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear annart, dear Friend,

      That is pretty low if you ask me. My daughter's restaurant did the same thing and at shift's end, divided the money--although one waitress did not pull down that many tips due to laziness. No, that is not right.

      Thank you for sharing this, ann, and do keep in touch.

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      Ann Carr 

      2 years ago from SW England

      Here the minimum wage is far too low and some restaurants cheat because they pool the tips, then add those to the wage to bring it up to minimum! How sneaky is that?!


    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, annart,

      I wish our country now or whomever is elected as president would get our Congress/Senate to approve a raise to minimum wage--for this is what most waitresses work on besides tips. And even today some patrons do not know this.

      Thanks for your very nice comment. You are so appreciated by me.

      Have a great day and keep in touch.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama


      Thank you so much for your comment. I have to agree with you. The help in both five-star eateries and this is a terrible shame. My daughter also can tell some horror stories of her days as a waitress at a local restaurant, but she made a lot of money and she bought her own car, paid her own bills, except rent, for she lived with us.

      But to be fair. I have been insulted by some waiters and waitresses who anyone could tell did not want to be working at all.

      Continue to keep me posted on what you are doing.

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      Ann Carr 

      2 years ago from SW England

      My daughter has been a waitress on and off for a few years, mainly because it's the only work that has been available to fit between her children. I've been astounded at her stories of customers who are abusive and rude. Some are lovely and leave generous tips; others are plain ignorant.

      The worst thing of all is that her bosses don't back her up if customers behave like that, because they want their money and want them to come back. Only once has someone in authority saved the situation by asking the customer to leave and banning them from returning. Then they complain to higher management and get a token for the next meal! Unbelievable.

      Fortunately, she has been studying to be a teaching assistant and is hoping never to work in a restaurant again!

      Great advice for being lovely customers. Basically, it's general good manners, courtesy and kindness, isn't it?


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      Vicki Green 

      2 years ago from Wandering the Pacific Northwest USA

      I don't think good wait staff get the respect they deserve. Being a waitress would be the last job I would ever apply for because I would probably be a terrible waitress. If I got flustered, I would probably forget an order or trip and spill food or a beverage on someone. Those that do a good job are talented in a way that most people don't appreciate.


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