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7 Essential Ingredients to Being a Good Friend

Updated on April 23, 2015

Having a Good Friend is Priceless

I have learned over the years the importance of friendship, especially for women. I am lucky to have friends that I consider more like sisters and who are always there when things in my life aren’t going as planned (which is usually the case). These women come into my life, sometimes from things we have in common such as work, sometimes from our children and sometimes out of sheer luck. Not working outside the home leaves me depending on my friends for much more than a random conversation, they are my lifeline to the adult world and I use that lifeline often.

It doesn't always work out.....

Unfortunately not everyone is going to be your friend, in fact you may have friends that end up betraying your trust or just don’t belong in your life. It’s sad when that happens but it cannot always be avoided. Be a good friend and make sure you let people into your life that return the favor.


Be Worthy of Good Friends

In order to be worthy of the qualities that are found in a good friend you must first be a good friend yourself. Below I have listed 7 very important qualities in a good friend.

1. Listen. Being a good listener is an essential friend quality. A friend needs to know that they can count on you to listen to them when they need you to lend them an ear.

2. Be trustworthy. One of the quickest ways to end a friendship is to betray your friends trust. Be upfront about who you are and know that trust between friends is sacred.

3. Support. Even if you don’t always agree with the decisions of your friends it is important for them to know that you support them and always have their best interest in mind.

4. Let them know you care. Take some time out to do something special for them just like you would in any relationship. Send them a card, stop by or call when they are having a rough day and always remember their special occasions, such as a birthday.

5. Be good to their kids. One of the best things about the friends I have, is their relationship with my children. Be good to the people that are important to your friends, especially their children.

6. Don’t be a fair-weather friend. When things are going good for your friends be their number one fan and supporter, and if things in your friends lives aren’t going well you need to be there just the same. It is important for your friend to know that you aren’t just going to be around during the good times, that they can count on you during the good and the bad.

7. Accept that you are not going to always agree. This is something that not everyone understands. It is a myth that all friends think alike and some of the best friends in the world will be very different from yourself. Keep an open mind and respect what they believe in and how they live their life, you can learn a lot from friends that are not exactly like you.

Choose your Friends

Remember choose the right people to be in your life and treat them well, and you will find yourself surrounded by people that love you and will build memories that will last a lifetime.


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      Julie K Henderson 2 years ago

      Very nice. I am glad you mentioned being good to the children who belong to your friends. I've found this is an essential part of my friendships with those who have children.

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      eudociadavis 6 years ago

      Remember, the greatest gift is not found in a store nor under a tree, but in the hearts of true friends

      I love this hub.

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      Mandeeadair 6 years ago from California

      Carlene, I am so fortunate to have you in my life, you have all of the above ingredients :)!.

      Sylvia, Thank you so much for sharing and reading!

      Felix, Thank you, I do agree that nothing is like having a real friend. :)

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      Felix Zapata 6 years ago

      Nothing like real friendship and your article sums it all up. Like very much.

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      Sylvia Leong 6 years ago from North Vancouver (Canada)

      I love this article. You are so right! I've shared it on my Facebook page.

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      Carlene 6 years ago

      You are an wonderful, loving person. I am honored to call you my friend. I love your positive outlook on life and your amazing ability to share that with others. Keep up the great work Mandee!

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      Mandeeadair 6 years ago from California

      Denise, thank you for reading and I too feel very fortunate to have my wonderful friends in my life.

      WannaBWriter, you are right friends are a treasure :) thanks for reading.

      Cheyenne, your amazing friendship helped inspire me to write this. Thank you for being such an amazing person in my life, I am lucky to call you my friend :)!!

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      Cheyenne 6 years ago

      Love ya! I am proud to call you my friend. Make that a sister-friend, that's what your true friends become. You are amazing and have a wonderful talent for expressing things.

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      Barbara Radisavljevic 6 years ago from Templeton, CA

      You've pretty well summed up what it means to be a good friend. Friendship is a rare treasure.

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      Denise Handlon 6 years ago from North Carolina

      Beautiful hub. I voted it up and Awesome. I've had thoughts of writing a hub about friendship. It is a worthy subject and so much to write about. I'm fortunate that I have good friends...and I feel sad for people I know who cannot make or keep friends.

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      Mandeeadair 6 years ago from California

      Ashantina and Edlira,

      Thank you for reading, it is so important for me to surround myself with people who are a positive part of my life, so treating them well is important :)! They make all the difference in my life.

      I do agree with you Edlira, it is important that friends are supportive during the GOOD times too...being happy for your friends when they are successful is a must. :) Thanks again for reading!

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      Edlira 6 years ago

      I agree, they all are ingrédients of a good friend. In my opinion a real friend is also happy when you are successful, no matter where in the success ladder they are themselves. Nice post.

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      Ashantina 6 years ago

      I think you made a v good point that in order to attract a good friend, you have to be that good friend yourself.. and what a difference they make to the overall quality of your life!! :)