Seven Reasons Why You Should Never Date a Divorced Woman
Some time ago, I wrote an article titled “7 reasons why you shouldn’t date a divorced man,” and I must say I was overwhelmed with the amount of responses this article received. When I wrote it, I was writing it based on my own experience in that matter, and it was relieving to see that over 80% of people who read this were either in the same boat as me or agreed with me. So that in mind I decided to investigate the other side of the coin, seeing I received a lot of requests to write a rebuttal on this subject. So before you continue reading this article, flip over to this page, so you get the gist of why I’m writing this article.
So I went and did my research and asked various men if they would ever date a divorced woman, why or why not and here are the seven most common reasons why men should stay away from a divorced woman:
Possessiveness – Most divorced women are super ridiculously possessive. Since their marriage failed, they don’t want a repeat performance, so they tend to assume the dominant role. So, they pick up a trick or two in their failed marriage and they use this to their advantage. Regardless of whether they or the spouse did the cheating, if infidelity was one of the reasons their marriage ended, then they will step up the game and make sure it doesn’t happen again even if it means sticking to you like glue and watching you like a hawk. Every female is a threat to them. Some even go to the extent of hiring a private detective just to satisfy their paranoia.
It’s always You Vs Ex – Divorced women NEVER get over their failed relationship no matter what. They may have the courage to say “oh I’m so over him,” but in reality, the fact that they have “divorce” stamped on their life resume is very battering to every divorced woman. So even though you’re the man in her life now, she will always find a way to differentiate you with the ex. Whether you’re having a nice meal, she will unconsciously say “oh my ex hated mashed potatoes, so glad you like it,” or you go shopping and she will say “my ex hated shopping.” In the beginning of your relationship you won’t notice it but gradually it becomes a pattern. “My ex did this, my ex hates/loves that, my ex is blah blah blah.” If her ex has found happiness with someone else, it doesn’t go down well with her. Even if she is happy with you, she will still want to find ways to infiltrate her ex’s life as it hurts her badly that another woman is successful with the ex and not her.
You are a Pawn - No divorced woman wants to live in defeat and so in order for her to move on and try to “handle” her failure, she needs you to achieve her success plan. Remember, she is hurting from the loss of a marriage and since she can’t just “revenge” without consequences, she needs to boost her ego and this is where you come in. You are the tool that shows she’s moved on and she doesn’t just take you as you are. She will dominate you, she will ensure she’s the boss. At this point, she commences war with the ex (whether good or bad) and she will always want to show him that she is doing much better than him and sadly you are just a pawn in her deadly game.
You will say “I do” whether you like it or not. Unlike a divorced man who shuns the idea of marriage again, for a divorced woman it’s the opposite. She doesn’t want that divorced title for the rest of her life. She will find ways to get you to do the unthinkable of you dropping your sorry knee and asking her to marry you, because she’s not having it being called a divorcee, and if you’re dumb enough to succumb to that, then you’ve just reserved a VIP ticket in her hell.
You are more likely to be dumped -Statistics show that over 75% of divorces are initiated by the woman. So if you, as the replacement of her sorry ex, are not fulfilling the job requirements, you will be given the boot faster than the speed of light. Women today have more power to end relationships unlike in the past where a woman was stuck to her husband for life regardless of the state of the marriage. When she sees that your not giving her what she wants, or you’re just not getting to the level she expects you to, then she will enforce a breakup as it makes her feel powerful and dominant.
Dating you is proof she’s not damaged goods yet. A divorced woman wants to prove that it was not her fault the first marriage ended. So instead of swallowing her pride and just living the single life, most women bow to social pressure. If she is at a certain age (especially over 40) most people will associate her as either a lesbian, or a manipulative wicked witch with a “B”, or a selfish pratt or a woman who can’t keep a guy and all sorts of assumptions. Though this may not always be true, most divorcees can’t handle the assumptions whether they are true or not. They don’t want to be alone as they are not used to life alone. So dating you, for her, is a sense of achievement and purpose, as that is her sole aim, not love and all that crap.
The Kids – I saved this one for last as kids are the deciding factor for anyone who attempts to date a divorcee with kids. Unlike a divorced man with kids, for a divorced woman with kids, the story is slightly different. Statistics show that children are more likely to bond with a male partner of their mother than the female partner of their father. So chances are you will get along with her kids, but she will resent you for it because to her, her kids reference her as number one and nobody else is allowed to content for their affection. She will not let you take that title from her even if the kids are crazy about you. You will see that suddenly she becomes beyond irritable every time the kids say something positive about you. She gets super jealous because she feels you are taking her kids away from her. She actually loves it if the kids hate you so she can act as the mediator, the bringer of peace in the relationship.
So should you date a divorced woman? My advice is a super gigantic enormous big fat NO!! Regardless of whether it’s a divorced man or woman, do not attempt to date them. For those of you that are already dating a divorced person and are happy with it, well good for you. But for those that are unhappy, or are attempting to date a divorced person, I urge you to flee as far away as you can. Yes single men and women all have their flaws but at least you are better equipped to handle their flaws than the flaws of divorced people.