7 Reasons Women Breakup With Men
Top Reasons Women Break Up With Men
If your wife or girlfriend has recently left you or is thinking of breaking up with you, you might find yourself confused, wondering what went wrong.
Men are particularly surprised by a breakup when everything seemed to have been going so well. Sure, the two of you may have had your ups and downs, or currently be going through a rough patch, but then again, what couple doesn't? Is there a relationship out there that doesn't have a little bump along the ride?
If your breakup happened during a time of relative peace and calm in your relationship, your partner's desire to breakup may be particularly surprising.
Being broken up with can be one of the toughest times in our lives. You are left wondering what went wrong or more importantly - how you didn't see it coming and what you could have done to prevent it?
You might also wonder how to get her back; what strategies to use and when would be the perfect time to do so without coming across as clingy or worse, broken.
Sometimes someone we love just out of the blues breaks up with us. This leaves us confused, wondering what went wrong.
There are always pointers to the fact all is not well with a relationship and we can always get to see this if we only look closely.
As a woman, I have had my fair share of breakups. I have also initiated a few when I felt the relationships were heading nowhere. I also have a few girlfriends and, from sharing secrets and trading experiences, have come to discover a handful of reasons women breakup with men.
Many women work very hard to make their relationship work, and occasionally they like the man to show a little appreciation through small gestures. If you went a long time without doing this, this might have contributed to the breakup.
Here are Five of Such Reasons
1. They Were Looking for a Little Bit of Excitement and Got Carried Away
Sometimes women stray temporarily from their man when trying to test the waters outside of the safe harbor of their relationship.
When a relationship is so safe that it is boring, many women feel like they are missing out on that sense of excitement they feel a relationship should have. This might make her decide to flirt with another man or even go out on a "harmless" date with him. One thing leads to another and she suddenly starts to fall for the new guy. Not because he is any better - but mainly because he is just someone new, different and exciting.
So if you experience a breakup you can't find the reason to, this just might explain it.
Luckily, most of these women carried realize their mistake on time and try to make their way back. However, most times its often too late and they end up missing out on the guy that truly loved them
2. They feel Under Appreciated:
Women also like to feel appreciated by the man they are with. Many women work very hard to make their relationship work, and occasionally they like the man to show a little appreciation through small gestures. If you went a long time without showing appreciation to your woman this might have contributed to the breakup.
Women need attention and if she feels you aren't attending to her needs, she may likely initiate this breakup to go seek the attention somewhere else.
To guard against this, understand affection and care are basic needs for a woman and try to give these often. You might also want to find out your woman's own unique love language and love her the way she wants.
3. They Feel Ignored:
Women love to know they are the center of your universe; they want to know that the men in their lives care deeply about them.
Often, simple reminders like flowers or small gifts help women feel this love and care. If you have neglected to make her feel this way, her pulling away from you may be a result of that.
4. They Think the Grass is Greener on the Other Side
We have all - men and women alike - fallen prey to the "grass is greener on the other side" syndrome. It is so easy to look at other couples, other people, and feel they seem happier, more attractive, more normal, more exciting, more . . . well, you get the picture.
Sometimes, a woman might fantasize about being single again or about dating a particular man. Of course, often when women breakup with their longtime companion, it is not long before they are pining for that special person again.
When they become single and head over to that greener spot, they come to realize that things only appeared greener on the outside and the same couple they envied from afar, while actually happy, might have their own unique sets of challenges.
The way forward then, would be to encourage her to water her own lawn. You also should do everything within your power to water the lawn so it gets so lush and green, it becomes the envy of others.
5. The Breakup is a Way to Get Your Attention
Sometimes a woman may breakup or threaten to break up but all they are really doing is signaling for help.
In these cases, they want their man to pay more attention to them, treat them better, or act more lovingly. They may breakup temporarily or say they are going to as sort of a call to be treated better.
If your partner is guilty of this, don't be upset because, while not exactly recommended, this practice actually does work sometimes.
Also, you should never ignore her because behind her actions is likely someone who truly is prepared to breakup for good and walk away if the situation doesn't change.
Here are Two More Reasons Women Breakup with Men
These two reasons have been separated because from experience they are somewhat different and cause the most pain.
6. You Cheated on Her
No one likes being cheated on and certainly not women. Being cheated on is a very painful experience that can throw you into a dark spot.
A lot of thoughts and emotions would run through your mind and you'll find yourself questioning your worth.
A woman is most likely going to breakup with you if you cheated on her, especially if you're a repeat offender.
To guard against this, you might want to put yourself in her shoes and wonder how you would feel if the tables were turned.
7. You Want Her to Breakup with You
A few men get tired of a relationship but hang on, tired of causing their partner pain by initiating a breakup.
What you fail to realize though, is that you're causing her more pain by sticking around when you clearly don't live her anymore.
A fairer option, would be to calmly and as painlessly as possible, breakup with her. Of course, she would be hurt and might even lash out at you, but in the long run, you'd have done the more respectable thing and with time, she will get over the pain of the breakup.
If you think your woman is about to breakup with you - or if she already has - and this is not something you want, do not fret as the situation may not be as bad as you think.
There have been a few situations that turned out to be just a wakeup call.
Also, you you should know that you can manage a situation and nip any potential breakup in the bud before it actually does happen.
Women are always willing to talk, you just have to be ready to listen; pay attention to her words and effect the changes she wants.
You should understand also that while you might actually be showing her love, if you aren't doing it the way she ways, then sadly, it's considered you aren't doing anything.
There are five love languages out there. Find out hers and love her exactly the way she wants. Do this and watch the woman you love glow in happiness at your actions.
© 2019 Farrah Young