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7 Signs You,re Becoming A Grown Up
So I’m a 28 year old male and I have notice a lot of change in me over the past few years. The way I think, the way I feel, and just the overall way I look at life. It was a little weird at first because I honestly was like, WOW! WHO AM I?
I knew I was finding myself and all that good stuff. But I didn’t know at the time what was truly happening. It has honestly been a pretty rough journey as I’m learning myself. While hard at times I realize that lots of people feel the same way I do.
I’m pretty excited to share this article as I wish I had an article like this to read three years ago. In no particular order I will share 7 signs you know you're becoming a grown up.
You Go Out Alone
I could never understand how people go out alone. Going out to the movies or going out to eat alone was something I said I would never do. I thought how? Isn’t that lonely? But that couldn’t be further from the truth. Going out alone is a very mature thing to do.
I find myself going out alone more and more often. Yes it’s a way to be alone and think but it’s much more than that. It’s a sign that you are growing more comfortable in your own skin. I recommend that people go out alone more often. I realize that I notice a lot more when I go out alone. So going out alone is a sign you’re becoming a grown up.
You Want To Help More
Another thing that I notice, helping people became more of a priority to me. I have helped people before but this time was different, I wanted nothing in return. I started looking at helping people as my duty and that I could never do enough to give back.I somehow started to feel privileged, even though I was struggling to pay bills and live on my own I felt I could do more. I later found out that I was growing as a person.
You Are Cheap
Now maybe I wouldn’t call it being cheap but If you find that you don’t spend money on a lot of useless things, like expensive shoes and expensive cloths, you probably are becoming a grown up. You start looking at life differently. you realize that you don’t need to impress any one. If you are buying things to make yourself happy, fine. But if you are buying things just to prove a point, it’s not as cool as you may think it is “Just Saying”.
You Look At little Kids Differently
Now I’m not saying I hated kids before but I never really looked at them as the future like I do now. I mean think about it, I was just a kid myself. I don’t have any kids yet but I find myself being more involved in my niece and nephews life. For ex: I try to say more things to them and have an impact on their life. I listen to them more as I know now that they are the future of this country.
You Stop Blaming Your Parents
We all feel like maybe our parents could have done things a little better and we say things like “I will never do my kid that way”. But as you grow up you find that life is truly like a box of chocolates “Forest Gump”. Life is truly what you make it. You can’t spend your life blaming people for your problems.
I now realize that the way you start doesn’t matter but the way you finish is everything! I no longer waste my time with “Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda” My parents made their choices in life and now that I’m older I’m going to make mines, every young adult will face this reality one day.
You Stop Blaming The World
Knowing that the world owes me nothing has been a great lesson for me. We feel at times that no one cares "it’s us against the world". But once you become a grown up, you will soon learn that you have to be accountable for yourself.
Blaming the world is just a big cop-out and it only makes things worst. I haven’t figured it all out but this is definitely one of the keys to life. So once you start to feel this way then chances are you’re becoming a grown up.
You Watch Less TV
If you’re watching less TV then chances are, you’ve found something more worthwhile to do or your job works you like crazy! Watching TV less has been something I’ve changed a lot. I’ve found more productive things to do as I don’t look at life the same any more. Life means much more to me now and watching TV just falls a lot lower on that list of everyday needs.
You’re definitely becoming a grown up when you find yourself searching for more out of life. This is a great place to be because as you look for more out of life, you will eventually receive more out of life.
I hope this has maybe given you some understanding of why you may feel you’re going crazy as a young adult. We all have been there, and honestly I’m kind of still there at times! But I love it! Keep growing up, keep learning as you’ll never be too old to learn more!