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The Top 7 Things Men Want Most From Women

Updated on May 22, 2018

Why Are Women and Men Different?

Women have an XX chromosome makeup and always produces an X chromosome ovary for reproduction. Just like other male mammals that inhabit this world, a man's genetics consists of an X and a Y chromosome and always produces an X or a Y chromosome sperm to decipher the sex of the embryo. A female fetus produces smaller amounts of the androgen hormone and larger amounts of the estrogen hormone than a male fetus, which makes features different. During puberty, hormone growth stimulates androgen production resulting in the development of greater distinctions between the sexes, female and male. Men are also different than women in terms of height, weight, and body structure. There are 107 baby boys for every 100 baby girls born. There will always be differences.

Things that men and women want from each other are also different and is not what the other one is trying to give them. Women tend to give men what they themselves want. For example, women like to talk and think that men do too so they try to give them just that. Men are not like women, and they usually don't like to talk very much, Women need to give men what they want, but in their form. Men want to hear and feel love, not just saying the phrase. Men want things in their own way, which is also different than women.

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What Do Men Want Most From Women?

Every man has things that they want in life and out of life, which may include but is not limited to toys, tools, and even certain wants from a woman. The wants that every man has may seem difficult for women to understand and complex to figure out, but the reality is that they are just like what a woman wants except in a different form. Every man wants to feel good about themselves and about the relationship that they are in, especially from a woman. Satisfying a man's different wants may seem impossible, but it is exactly what women want with different levels of importance and not as many of them. Every man has wanted something and sex is not high on the list!

The answer is obvious and it's not a trick question. All men want is to be happy and to feel respected and loved, just like women do. While men are taking the time to give women what they really want, like money and talking, women should also be taking the time to give their man what they really want. The relationship will increase in strength and trust, without even doing much but make the other person happy. The bottom line is that what men want most from women is what women want from men, as in to be happy in their relationship and be happy with the one they love. This article contains a list below of what men what most from women, published by a woman, but seen from a man's perspective. This list may not be accurate for all men because not one man is the same as another.

1. Do Not Ruin the Big Game.

This is true for any sport at any time. Men are really weird about sports and especially when it's "the big game." They claim almost every game is the "big game." Women don't even intentionally ruin it, they try to enjoy it too. Then questions and talking can become distracting. Or even an attitude of decreasing patience or boredom can lead to an unpleasant time for both people. Ruining the big game can cause an attitude worse than a child's and can even prolong into a week's long disagreement. Besides, the disagreement is not worth it, but it's really not worth all of that grief and strife. Think of this time as a time for yourself, as in to do enjoy what you like doing. "Big games" include:

  • Definitely the Superbowl.
  • Also the World Series.
  • The Stanley Cup Playoffs.
  • PGA Tour.

Do Not Do This!
Do Not Do This!

2. Make the First Move More Often.

That's right. Sometimes men don't want to have to do all the work, all the time. Men have to deal with rejection more often than women do, so men often think it's hot and sexy when women sometimes make the first move. This doesn't mean make all of the moves, but just enough to break the ice, start chatting, and express interest. A gesture as small as saying "hello" can be more than enough. Being bold in this way demonstrates confidence and also attracts curiosity. Women always think that puckering lips and batting eyelashes are enough but the truth is that is not something that is noticed. Women who make the first move have more success on the dating scene because they go after what they want, instead of waiting around for it.

3. Lots of Cuddles.

Men need to cuddle more because it is important to enhance their relationship and their sex life at the same time. New studies have found that women have the only importance of cuddling to be enhancing their sex life as they became increasingly sexually satisfied. Men will have a more satisfying relationship, as a whole, and it can remain happier for longer periods of time. Men may have evolved somewhat in this area.

4. Praise and Approval.

Just like a puppy needs praise and approval when potty training to reinforce and increase good behavior, men need the same thing and for the same reasons. Praise and approval can get a man to do almost anything. As we all know, men have infamously weird egos and they need to be delicately taken care of. Praise and approval can go a long way, plus make men feel loved and accepted. When men are in a better mood, it can have noticeably different effects.

5. Trust and Independence.

Another fact is that men like and need some alone time to themselves. This usually involves time in their man cave, with the television, and some beers. This may or may not involve his best buds. Men want trust and independence most from women because it is the way they are built. Women would enjoy spending all of their time with their man, but men need time apart. Men want trust that when they are apart, they are not doing anything adulterous. Men also want the independence to go with it that can allow them to do what they want, within reason, and not be questioned or interrogated. This is a sign of respect for men, which is also on this list.


7. Attention.

This is not as high on the list as it is for women. Men need attention too, just not as much and in a different form. Men need women to be good listeners and give them the space they need to express themselves. This means avoiding all distractions for the moment and listening to him with undivided attention. Giving feedback is good but within reason. Just let this be his time and let him decide how to spend it and what to spend it on. This is the best form of attention for men because it can also benefit respect for him too.

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    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      8 months ago from New York

      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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      2 years ago

      Too complicated.

      In general, women are smaller, slower, weaker and a massive liability and annoyance for men most of the time. Men will tolerate immense suffering and self-denial just to reduce the annoyance, with no affect on the other debilitations of women.

      Men effectively want three things from women.

      The rest men can provide amply for themselves.

      1. Sex - frequent, quality, random.

      2. Feminine companionship (emphasis on "feminine")

      3. Family (heirs)

      That's pretty much it.

      Women expect men to sacrifice themselves. Men are "supposed to" get married, be a provider and protector to women. Men are to serve women.

      But most women today are utterly incapable of understanding all that men sacrifice in his monogamy to her and in order to provide for her reality. Further, women are completely disinterested in this, for it would reveal a moral call for reciprocity - that while sure, men should serve women, women must also serve men.

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      Deborah Demander 

      2 years ago from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD

      Interesting article. I'd agree that the most important thing to men is not sex, but respect. I try to do most of those things for my husband. I'm working on not nagging, but finding alternate solutions to things I need done.

      Thanks for writing.


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      ubrish ali 

      4 years ago from Pakistan(Asia)

      I think affection grows love between girl and boy.

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      4 years ago from New York

      Thanks for reading and commenting on my hub.

    • Emmyboy profile image


      4 years ago from Nigeria

      Hi Cristale, I like how you expressed your opinion in this hub, most especially from a man's perspective.

      I will like to add that sometimes, I feel like a different man altogether because I still need one more very important something from a woman to add to your list.

      Can you guess what it might be? Oh yes I want a woman with brains! YesMan said it's food but me I say it's intelligence. So add it to your list, at least, for my sake, okay?

      Thank you!

      Meanwhile, I like that picture in this hub that has the word RESPECT! printed on it! I guess you know why, do you?

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      4 years ago from New York

      Thanks for reading my hub and thank you so much for your insightful comment.

    • lilylipgloss profile image


      4 years ago

      A nice article, and nice to read something that is not anti man for a change that's been written by a woman. I agree with much that was said, and like most woman (well those of us that don't really consider ourselves to be feminist's) I try my best to make my man happy with many the things mentioned here. Men are better at some things and woman better at some other things, I see no need to compete or feel need for one upmanship. I think its called being a team

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      4 years ago from New York

      Thank you for checking out this hub!

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      4 years ago

      I think cooking is the one I find the most attractive. Girls, the way to a man's heart is through his tummy. Trust me on that, I'm a guy.

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      5 years ago from New York

      Being loved, for a man, is important! I knew it!

    • onlygrace profile image


      5 years ago

      I am agree with you, all the list you mention above is very fit to me. Especially when it is about getting respect from a woman. Somehow for a man, being respected means being loved.

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      6 years ago

      lol, what men want most from a women, WRITTEN BY A WOMEN ( no offence, but everytime i read what women write about men, its always angry stereotypical judging againts us, that men only want sex and food )

      but i'm agree with 70% of the list..

      though i'm agree with most of this, writing sex as no.1 what men want most from women is just not true ( no.1 maybe for single men who have goals getting laid , but for men who is in relationship, sex is not really that important to be no.1 priority, really, i write this as a male, as an alpha male who really love sex )

      but respect , appreciation, and affection, i will place them as no.1,2,3... ( and i will add love ( yes we men want to be loved for god sake!!!!!!!!) and care)

      a happy husband is not husband who get sex with his wife everynight ( with his wife faking orgasm most of the time, like all of women out there ), but husband who have a wife who support, respect, care, love, and appreciate them......

      if you think this way of a men, as an emotional creature, not just sex craving pigs, i bet you will make your man happy..... i bet all of my money

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      6 years ago from New York

      Thanks for reading and the insight!

    • Neil Sperling profile image

      Neil Sperling 

      6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Pretty well summed up..... I do agree with Rebecca2904 .... acceptance, appreciation and respect..... Sex is not number 1 - even though there are moments that it is the only thing that matter... only moments LOL - You are bang on re: nagging... and also for your point "have some me time when I first get home" ..... :-)


    • Rebecca2904 profile image


      6 years ago

      I agree with most of the things you've said to some degree, but I do kind of disagree with the 'men want sex all the time' being in the first place. I do agree that men love sex (and so do women!) but I think when a man is a committed relationship then what he will want most from his partner is companionship, support and for her (or him) to basically be his best friend. Obviously when a single man's on a night out then he's going to be wanting to have a good time with his friends and hopefully go home with some 'fit bird' at the end of the night, but when a man's in a relationship, the sex will just be the icing on the cake after eating a delicious meal (i.e. the companionship.)

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      6 years ago from New York

      I agree!

    • Chandryclaire profile image


      6 years ago

      Thank God men and women are different. Otherwise, it would be so boring. I do not understand why women are always trying to change a man to be more like them vice versa. We need to respect and appreciate our differences even if it is really annoying. I think that when we stop trying to change the person, that person relaxes and is much more pleasant to be around.

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      6 years ago from Michigan

      I tend to consider myself odd for a man, but I suspect your list is pretty good for many. Personally, I would move affection up pretty far on the list. I have gone a LONG time without affection or number 1 on your list and can actually live without the one, but find what I really miss are the small affections. Kisses, hugs, holding hands, etc. I think the value of this tends to be underestimated. I always especially liked small affections in public. A little peck on the cheek, for instance, as a way of basically saying, "ya, this is my guy."

    • Cristale profile imageAUTHOR

      Cristale Adams 

      6 years ago from New York

      I made a disclaimer for that purpose. This is just a guess of what men want most from women, but each man is different, I know.

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      cleaner 3 

      6 years ago

      you are very close in your assumptions. but a lot of theses are just typical stereotypes. great write though.


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