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7 Tips To Gain Confidence With Women

Updated on January 27, 2014

That's a win-win situation, right? It's a known fact that women prefer men who are confident. Here are seven real ways to increase your confidence level and thereby improve your dating life.

Tip #1Visualize Your Success

Did you know some world class athletes use visualization to help them succeed? High-powered CEOs do it as well. Visualization is a powerful tool that isn't reserved for the elite. It might feel funny at first, but it works. Spend time visualizing successful interactions with women and you will see the results. Imagine yourself asking someone out and then spending a fun evening on the best date you've ever had.

Tip #2 Stop Worrying About The Impression You're Making

Have you ever had a conversation with a beautiful woman and realize afterwards you have no idea what it was about? It's probably because you weren't invested in the moment. Instead, you were rehearsing what you were going to say the next time she took a breath. When we do this, we miss the unspoken interaction that happens between two people whether they are conversing or not. Forget about the impression you want to make and instead respond to each moment as it occurs.

Tip #3 Talk To Women Everywhere

It's okay to be shy, and it doesn't mean you won't ever have confidence with women. However, it's in your best interest to speak to as many women as possible. This is especially true if you don't have a lot of experience with women in the first place. Lots of us carry around visions of beautiful women being somehow 'different' when in reality they are flesh and blood, just like us. Make small talk with that cute girl in line at the coffee shop or that gorgeous girl who does payroll at work. You never know where it will lead.

Tip #4 Date More Often

Like many guys, you probably have a vision of that perfect woman you want to spend time with. Maybe she's already in your life; a coworker, someone at the gym or someone who lives at your apartment complex. She might be your ultimate goal, but in the meantime you want to date as many women as you can. Even going on bad dates will give you experience and that experience is what builds confidence with women.

Tip #5 Respect Yourself

Most of us can only give what we feel inside. That means if you don't respect yourself, you can't offer respect to others, and offering respect to others is a sure way to get a positive reaction from them. This positive reaction will build your confidence with women. Show yourself respect by improving your appearance and not losing your cool over the little things in life. Be the kind of person you admire the most.

Tip #6 Take Charge

Let's be honest: Women almost always prefer alpha males. Now, this doesn't mean you have to become a Navy SEAL or the next Richard Branson. What it does mean is that you make decisions. In the beginning, you might not make them confidently, but just the fact you're making them will make an impression. Decide what restaurant you're going to take her to and where you're going to go afterwards. Even if your plans change, the fact that you thought ahead will make her feel confident in your company.

Tip #7 Follow Your Dreams

This might sound like something out of a Disney movie, but it's a very real way to gain confidence with women and in life. Listen, you don't want to fall into the trap of thinking that a beautiful woman is going to solve all your problems. She's not. And, you don't want her to be the only thing you look forward to in life. Are you doing what you love career-wise? If not, take classes and redo your resume. Are you as fit as you want to be? Up your workout to five days a week, or add interval training or both. The point is if you are trying to build the life you have always dreamed of, you are going to feel a lot better about yourself and this is a great way to build your confidence and attract women.

Once you have gained more confidence with women, you will get to the next stage of asking a woman out on a date. Follow the link to get some tips for your first date:


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