7 Tips to Date Colombian Women
If you fell in love with the country or just the ladies here are some tips on how to date a Colombian woman. Trust me, I have been in a relationship with one for over 4 years and since I am Colombian myself, I get them . . . like 60% of the time, and that is a lot mind you!
Ok, but before getting into details, what do you want in a Colombian girl?
Tip #1: Define What You Want in Your Relationship
And this rule is universal before you begin any relationship. If you got over your first one you must now know not to select a girlfriend based just on her looks and sexiness.
Leave that for casual encounters. If you want a true partner to build a relationship with and possibly a family focus on her personality and background story.
Sex and Hot Hips?
If a hot latina is your main attraction in dating Colombian woman, don´t fool around with building up a family. Sure, at first glance Colombian women are all hot and you can snatch one that is both smart, caring and sexy, but if “hot” is your prime objective I guarantee you will end up with the gold digger that will only bite your ear for a Visa to America or Europe and require a credit card to stay “fun."
You will find the easy sexy latina on various dating sites and just by the bikini photos you can tell what kind of women she is. Date them and be nice if you do. Most are desperate in solving their economic situation and usually have a young boy they had at a young age. But don't go into it believing she will be the perfect wife.
Is It the Latina Charm?
I would say most foreigners are charmed by the personality of Colombian women. I only know of Brazilian women to be even more charming and open to foreigners. I haven´t travel much to say women from other cultures are cold and dismissive, I do not think they are.
But there is some beauty and grace to people in tropical nations. The way Latinas dance, that mix of cultures between the Spanish flamenco, the tribal Africa and natives simplicity has a “I don´t know what” that makes you desire them… until they get mad.
If the charm you make sure to look under the appearances. Colombian women are charming experts and a gold digger can easily hide her true intentions. It all depends were you look for your date mostly.
Webcam and dating sites?? Hmmm. I would say most are opportunistic, but not all. My girlfriend came from a dating site and she is the perfect mother and business woman. But you can tell that if she asks constantly for money, a Visa and flaunts you in the process she is after no good. But if you can maintain a nice conversation on topics of interest, she is working or studying to progress on her own then that is someone worth dating. For me these are the true beauties.
So to sum it up just decide if you want a loving partner to build a life with or just a casual interaction and be smart whichever you choose.
Tip #2: You Better Learn How to Dance!
Oh yes! This is way at the top of the list if you want to impress any Colombian woman.
As a Colombian, I am a terrible dancer. If you do not learn to Salsa in your youth, learning it as an adult is a pain.
But no worries, you do not need to be the floor master. Just learn the basic steps and try to follow the rhythm of the songs. Focus on the drums for pace and just keep her tight to your body. We Latinos dance very, very attached, and this is why dancing is key in the seduction game.
Hey, and don´t think they will judge by how good or bad you dance, they care mostly on the attitude you display. You might not even know how the steps go and it wouldn´t matter as long as you move her around and make an enjoyable time or both. Foreigners are not expected to know how to dance fluidly so there is no judging…but lots of smiling and giggling and this will make you look cute and funny. Ahhh, something to your advantage.
And no sitting!! Nothing turns down a woman more than sitting on the table drinking all night. Personality is what most woman want… heck! That is what they all secretly are seduced to. Dancing terribly is better that not dancing at all.
Tip #3: Keep Talking to the Minimum on the Dance Floor Please
The music is loud so don´t go with expectations to talk about your hobbies and super job. Keep the chit chat to the basic “Ueepa!” “You are muy bonita” and short flirty lines. The club is a body language place, so leave the talking for the morning coffee.
Salsa dancing in the streets of Cali
Tip #4: Drink Aguardiente but Not Too Much
Aguardiente is like Colombia´s national drink. It is literally means "hot water" and I don´t know its other English names, but its basically alcohol from sugar cane. It's very basic alcohol and extremely strong, both of flavor and drunkenness. We drink it in tiny glass shots and do not even taste it as it doesn´t taste good. It’s like drinking antiseptic alcohol. Foreigners do not get it. But drink more than three and there is no beverage in the world that will make you smile more. The odd flavor won´t even bother you after it.
If she drinks aguardiente, which is normal, try to do so as well. This means she is a fun girl. But watch it, if you are not accustomed to strong drinks you might end up outside of the club sitting on the corner trying to throw up. Even if it doesn´t get to this, the headache the next morning will be horrible. This doesn´t happen with vodka or even tequila.
So drink aguardiente but make sure to space out your shots in long terms, especially by the end of the evening. And dance a lot to wear down the drunkenness. Do not stay still or it will be the worst. Drink lots of water after every shot because you will be dehydrated by the end of the evening and eat something before bed. It helps a lot.
Tip #5: Say Nice Things About Her Personality and Beauty
Latinas will appreciate any nice comment about her as long as you have proven yourself as a nice and enjoyable person. If she smiles with both lips and mouth, she is yours. Just do not overdo it and no rushing.
Colombian girls can be hard to understand. Sometimes they seem to dress to incite and they are very sensual in their gestures. Compared to other cultures, physical contact is very normal and they might stay close to you. But do not interpret this as in invitation to bed them, try it and you will ruin everything.
It is a game of give and let go that they play, they might even kiss you on the first night out but forbid any more advances and can even be more cold the next day. They are like that. They want to be chased.
Tip #6: Colombians Are Hard Core About Hygiene!
We just do not understand why Europeans would not shower any given day. We shower every day and most people shower twice a day. We have keen noses and we can tell if you showered.
And dress well. Leave the tourist shorts at home, shave well and dress your best when dating.
This is very important. Girls notice shoes first, I don´t know why, but they do. Have them clean and proper.
A few other tips about Colombian woman on youtube
Tip #7: Not Everything Is Perfect. Be Prepared to Face the Most Jealous Women in the World
Oh yes, and I do not only say this from personal experience. I have heard foreign friends with Colombian girlfriends complain about how jealous they are from other women they talk with, even if they are just friends or a waitress taking your order.
They see every other girl as a rival and react by giving you “the look” and talking a bunch of nonsense. This is unavoidable and it will happen more often if you are dating middle class women. They are very possessive.
The important part here is how you react, and the Golden Rule is not to let her have her way. Hey, if you got female friends and she wants you to get rid of them then maybe you are with the wrong girl. Do you really want to be with someone who controls who you can have as a friend? If she cares about you she won’t interfere with your private life. Just do not pay attention to her tantrums and don´t react in an angry way either. Just continue on, she will give up eventually and then you can talk it over and make her come to sense when she is not moody.
But it is almost impossible not to end up with a jealous girl. She will watch were you eyeballs move, check your cell phone, require your Facebook and email password… now you know, and do not let them have their way.
Tip #8: Meeting the Family
We Colombians have large families and keep close ties. This must be the strongest cultural disparity compared with Americans and Europeans. If you plan to take the relationship to the next level, you need to be liked by the family, and not so much dad or mom, but grandma.
Being liked by grandma is a huge, huge plus. She is the one that makes the “He would be a perfect husband” call. So be nice to grandma and require to meet her. Take her a gift, preferably a sweet from your country. They love it.
Dad would like to hear from your line of work and your studies. He wants a nice stable future for her daughter.
Mom is happy if dad, grandma and her little daughter are happy. She would become your best supporter in the relationship.
Don´t think that by being a foreigner Colombian families will shun you. On the contrary, blonde hair and tallness are considered as good genes to have around (although no one talks about it), and the best dinner conversation with the uncles and cousins would be how advanced your country is “The roads are perfect and everyone drives nicely… there is no homeless people on the streets… education and health are entirely free… our toilets clean themselves.”
And those are my dating tips to date Colombian women. I would like to hear if you are dating one or dated one. I know you got a story to tell.