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9 Clear Signs Your Partner is Cheating on You

Updated on June 24, 2020
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Farrah Young is a research analyst and carries out in-depth research on topics.

9 Ways to Know Your Partner is Cheating on You

A new love affair is always beautiful; the need to be with your love interest can overpower you to the point it is all you think of. However, even roses have thorns as love is not always amazing; with this heady feeling and joy comes the other side that's laced with uncertainty and sometimes a little pain.

Love is like a two-edged sword and one of the ways it can cause us pain is when our partner cheats. It can feel like the ultimate betrayal when you are loyal and true, but your partner has been having affairs with a few people behind your back.

While we all hope this doesn't happen to us, it helps to know the signs of a cheating partner, that way

1) They Become Really Protective of Their Phone

It's just logical that your partner would want to keep their phone and its content away from you since they now have things in it they wouldn't want you to see.

These cheating partners could start to password their phones or deny you access to it, even for a little while.

This is usually one of the most obvious sign your partner has got some skeletons and you should never let it go unchecked.

2) ) Their Chat History is Usually Cleared

A clear sign your partner is having an affair is that their chats with some members of the opposite sex would be cleared.

In the event you are able to bypass the password and access their phones, it's likely you'd have very little to hold unto as evidence since

3) They Take Their Calls in Secret

Does your partner excuse himself to take a call from a particular number? This could be a red flag worth looking into.

While excusing yourself to take a call is not such a bad idea, especially if the information to be shared or received is of the sensitive type or you are in a noisy place, it however, becomes a problem when it happens often and with a particular caller.

Cheating Sign to Look Out For

If your partner excuses himself to take or make a call to a particular number always, you should become worried.

4) They Revamp Their Appearance

People relax some after they have been with their partner a while. This is not saying they let go of their appearance, but then it isn't done with that deliberate care that characterised the relationship at the beginning. Of curse, they could dress up every once in a while to spice up the relationship, but most of the time they'd prefer to be more comfortable and themselves.

On the other hand, if your partner suddenly starts getting doled up and often too, you might have an issue worth investigating.

5) They Become Uncaring

And that's because their affection is tied someplace else. In some cases, your partner would still show you some attention, however the difference would be obvious enough to alert you to the fact all is not quite well.

6) They Become All Loving

This is on the flip side of becoming uncaring and research has shown that men are more guilty of this.

Knowing they are engaged in an act that is as wrong as it is hurtful, most men would, out of guilt, become a lot more caring to the point where your gut feeling gets confused.

7) They No Longer Care About Being Intimate with You

If your partner starts to give excuses anytime you try initiating sexual intimacy, then you should become worried.

While it's quite possible these excuses are genuine and nothing to worry about, they also could be a pointer to the fact they are getting some outside and therefore, not available to be with you that way anymore.

You should investigate this issue as best you can

Cheating Red Flag

A cheating partner will likely lose interest in becoming intimate with you.

8) They Have a New Kind of Glow

Remember when you both first got together and how excited you were most of the time? New love does this to us all.

It's happening again with your partner, only this time it isn't with you. They have a new love interest that has awoken the butterflies in their stomach and is making their blood pump faster again.

The glow could also be from the excitement of hiding and running around. All that sneaking around has a way of making the adrenaline pump to produce a kind of visible glow.

9) They Are Sometimes Unreachable

Yet another sign your partner is having an affair is that there will be those periods - sometimes lots of it when they become unreachable.

Their phones are switched off and they are never where they say they will be. Of course, there's always a good excuse for this absence, but soon it becomes glaring their actions are not aligning with their words and that you need to pay a little more attention to this.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Farrah Young


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    • tony55 profile image


      11 months ago from Nigeria

      Sometimes it is difficult to catch a cheat however signs include avoidance of eye to eye contact,rushing to the bathroom an unusual perfume. Phone to me is private it does not matter if you are husband or wife.

    • Isivwe Muobo profile imageAUTHOR

      Farrah Young 

      13 months ago from Lagos, Nigeria

      Good points. However, this are never this clearcut all the time. There are tines when you have to play the detective to get real facts as while a woman's guts is most times never wrong, it won't hold up in a some settings. Hard evidence will. Lol.

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      13 months ago from Chicago

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      If something doesn't feel right to you it's probably not right for you!

      In other words don't believe you have to "play detective" or bust your mate in the act. The minute you no longer (trust) your partner the relationship is essentially over. Unless you have a history of being insecure or paranoid there is no reason why you shouldn't trust your gut.

      Ignoring your "inner voice" and "red flags" can lead to regret.

      Last but not least you need to know if being cheated on is a "deal breaker" for YOU or not. If it's a "deal breaker" there really is nothing to talk about. The relationship/marriage is over as far as you're concerned. Quietly devise your exit strategy.

    • Larrycode profile image


      13 months ago

      Just figure things u aint doing right most importantly,sex life

    • Larrycode profile image


      13 months ago

      Not easy


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