ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

A Boys Guide To Understanding Girls

Updated on January 24, 2011

Every girl has felt totally, completely, and utterly confused by a boy at least once in their lives. So im guessing the same goes for men. If you're a guy and need a few quick inside secrets about girls or just a quick behind the scenes look into the mind of a girl, this blog is for you! Here are 10 secrets that every guy should know. Lets get started..


If you are interested in a girl and she tells you that "she's not really looking for a boyfriend or any kind of relationship right now"... forget about it. Every girl wants a boyfriend that she likes no matter what or when or where (unless she's just getting out of a relationship). Girls are never not looking for a boyfriend. If we like you, we do. If not.. we throw this line at you. You can decode it to it's literal meaning: "I would rather just be friends with you because you don't have what I'm looking for in a boyfriend". Girls are never not looking for a boyfriend.. it's like a primal instinct in our genes (although some of us play it off, we all want to find love)


We want you to call, text, ask us out first. We want to be the girl in the relationship and we want you to take charge and be the man. If you want to talk to a girl, text her, call her, do whatever you have to do just don't wait for her to come to you. If she is nice and worth your time, she won't leave you hanging. So you really have nothing to lose, go for it!


Yes, it's true. Women like bad boys. But that doesn't mean we want to be treated badly. We're attracted to adventure, and adreniline, and danger not rudeness. We want a bad boy that treats us nicely.


We really do care about personality.. In the end, every girl wants a boy that treats her nicely and makes her feel special. We just want some attention.. to know that you’re thinking about us. Plan something fun, dates can get kind of mundane. Just put some thought into it. We want to feel cared about. It doesn't have to be expensive, maybe just a blanket, candles, and a bucket of ice cream for a night on the beach. You can melt any girls heart with a date like that.


Be honest. Say what you feel and say what you mean. Show some character! Don’t beat around the bush, don’t lie, don’t hide things, don’t cheat (obviously) and you can earn any girls trust. We just want to know that we can count on you. Trust is an important part of any relationship, and without it you might never be able to even start one. Commitment is big for some girls, and if they feel like they can't trust you.. chances are they won’t commit to you.


We want a best friend in our boyfriend. Meaning we want to be able to have fun with you wether that means hanging out on the couch watching tv, playing video games, going to a movie, going to a movie and it getting sold out, going to the beach, getting caught in the rain at the beach, or trying a kickboxing class for the first time together, we want to know that as long we are with you, we’ll have a good time.



We don’t want you to waste our time. If you like a girl, tell her now. If you don’t, tell her now (but nicely). If you want to see other people, tell her now. If you want to go out with her, ask her now. Don’t think guys are the only ones that can move on fast, most girls can too. If you like a girl, don’t make her wait forever. Take some initiative and make your move, before it’s too late.


If a girl is quiet or pushes you away, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. Quite the opposite actually. She might have the biggest crush on you but she’s too shy or nervous around you to be herself right away. She wants you to make her feel comfortable so that she feels like it’s safe to open up to you. Girls want a guy that’s open and accepting. If you've done everything you can to make her feel comfortable and she still hasn't loosened up, it's a sign to move on.


If you have a big ego, tone it down. It’s hard for a girl to fall for a boy that’s head over heels in love with himself.  No matter how hot, smart, funny, talented, athletic, or charming you are.. be humble.  There is no way around this.


Chivalry is key. If a girl is unsure about a guy, chivalry might be the one thing that can win her over enough to give him a chance. It’s quite simple really. Just bring out the gentleman in you. Hold the door open, tell her she looks pretty when she gets dressed up for you, buy her flowers on Valentine's Day, hold her hand, and kiss her goodnight. Little things like this, a girl will remember forever.

I hope this helped you get a better understanding of what most girls are looking for in a guy and what they really want. Theres always a few exceptions, but these 10 secrets.. I'm almost positive that any girl would agree. Getting your heart broken isn't the end of the world, it's always better to put yourself out there and get hurt than to never say anything and live the rest of your life wondering "what if". If it doesn't work out with a girl, then it just isn't meant to be. What ever is meant to be, will.




    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    • profile image


      14 months ago

      I luv this article. I'm quite geeky but somehow I attract a lot of attention from girls. I'm tired of hurting their feelings and I felt that I needed to learn more of them.

    • Jay Rando profile image

      Jay Rando 

      5 years ago from England

      Just wanted to drop by and say this is a fantastic hub, i relate to both guys and women quite easily and their differences through counseling.. and even though i am not a woman its really easy for me to understand everything that a woman wants here even as a guy, i like the fact you blew up the whole bad boy thing by explaining 'bad' as to be playful rather than actually being a bad person which guys always often think is the meaning. Great job :) Voted awesome.

    • kenneth avery profile image

      Kenneth Avery 

      7 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      La Vita, Let me use these adjectives in describing THIS hub:

      1. Great

      2. Fantastic

      3. Outstanding

      4. Amazing

      5. Precise

      You are a Great talent. You have to be God-gifted. I voted up and away on this hub for it's honesty, simplistic way of weeding through the mazes of politically-correctiveness. Great writing style. I wish my grandson would read this. He is shy, but he does like girls a lot. He is 8 and I want HIM to respect ALL women at all costs. And not be run over. That is possible even in 2011. Thank you for sharing. I am now a fan and a follower, if that's okay with you. Sincerely and Respectfully, Kenneth Avery, from a rural town in northwest Alabama, Hamilton, that reminds you of Mayberry, the town that was in the Andy Griffith Show.

    • PR Morgan profile image

      PR Morgan 

      7 years ago from Sarasota Florida

      Good info!...and hub...up and useful!


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)