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Retirement: A Day in the Life of a Retired Husband

Updated on October 6, 2014

Morning Ritual

Coffee Brewing
Coffee Brewing | Source
Cleaning out the pond with our youngest grandson
Cleaning out the pond with our youngest grandson | Source

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Our Retirement

I retired in December 2009, which has given me the opportunity to observe my retired husband's rituals, yes rituals, things he's established as his new 'working day'. He has been retired for nine years and has a routine not to be interrupted, especially not by me. Retirement is a whole new way of life, like learning to live all over again. In our house it's almost as if our roles have been reversed. Once I was in charge of the house and housekeeping, now he's the boss! Dishes, laundry, even mealtimes are now under his realm, the new King of the castle.

Retirement age is often a personal choice. Sometimes it's made for you, sometimes you make it yourself. It can range anywhere from 55 to now 66. In some places you can retire when you're 55 if you have enough years of work to go with it, in others the numbers change and you have to be 60 plus have so many all depends on where you work and how long you've worked there. Whether you make the decision to retire yourself or its forced on you retirement changes your life. Early retirement is not an option for many people and is something to be considered seriously. Your financial future (which hopefully involves years)can be based on the amount of your retirement income and that can often be based on early retirement versus waiting till full retirement age. In his case he decided to retire early, trucking just wasn't the same anymore the pressures, regulations, de-regulations, just off the board. The first year of retirement was rough and took a lot of getting used to but after that he slipped into the role of retiree.

He has a routine...which he set up for himself while I was working and he was home alone...He gets up each morning and puts on the coffee. While the coffee brews he goes out and gets the paper. He then sits down with coffee and paper and checks the obituaries to make sure his name is not there and to check and see if he recognizes anyone else listed there. He then reads the rest of the paper. Once he's done with that he checks out Jerry Springer for a while, yes, I said Jerry Springer. He thinks its funny! Did I mention the load of wash he threw in before Springer started?

After Jerry Springer he begins to plan his day and see what he can fit into his schedule. I will admit he does go over to our local American Legion Hall once a month to clean - which takes approximately three hours. He also goes to his father and mother's to help them with whatever they need. This can often be a daily chore since they are in their late '80s. Its amazing the amount of things you need to do when you're retired!

There are also car shows to attend and work at
There are also car shows to attend and work at | Source

Lunchtime Ritual

Our retirement home is the one we've lived in for the past 42 years. Home priorities include mowing the lawn. The lawn length is not allowed to exceed three inches lest it be considered too long. There is also poop patrol. We have a dog so he has to clean up after the dog at least twice daily. Other outside tasks are handled as they crop up. They can range from putting polyurethane on a bench to adding cement patch to cracks near the garage or trimming hedges that are beginning to lose their shape.

As lunch time approaches he begins to advise he is starting to get hungry. Anything will do for lunch, well almost anything. The first one or two suggestions are usually rejected. By the third suggestion the answer is usually, "I don't care, whatever you have." It's a ritual almost akin to a mating ritual but ending in eating.

Filling the birdfeeder
Filling the birdfeeder | Source

The Rest of the Day

The afternoon can contain anything from a two hour nap to cutting down trees with the grandsons. Chores also vary with the season....there's shoveling to be done and bird feeders to be filled in the winter and lawn mowing and pool chemicals and our ponds to take care of in the summer. He is always busy and always available for anyone who needs help whether its a family member or a neighbor.

Dinner is at my discretion and is always followed by Jeopardy. The rest of the evening depends. It depends on a lot of things; what's on TV that night, which one of the grandchildren has a band concert or a football game, who's coming to visit, who's birthday it might be, and any other assorted incidents that crop up.

The funny thing is he's busier now than he was when he was working! Every retiree we know (and we know more and more each year) agrees they don't know how they found time when they were working...of course they didn't find time but they quickly forget that.

Regardless of what happens and what gets done, whatever he wants to do is his choice, he can fulfill his own retirement wishes. After 35 years of driving a tractor trailer he deserves to finally be able to make his own calls, even if they don't include grocery shopping with me.

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      Effer you always find my hubs, new or are right we weren't friends 11 months ago but will be 11 years from now! Of course Larry is like Jim, we wouldn't have it any other way!!!

      Jaye, thank you for stopping by. Yes, Larry is a nice guy...always willing to help and be there for everybody...that's one of the reasons I keep him around ;)

      SS we are both very lucky to be together and enjoying life. Thanks!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I'm glad Effer shared this hub or else I might never have seen it. Your husband is far from a couch potato! Good for him and for you. Keep on enjoying the good life! :)

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      Jaye Denman 5 years ago from Deep South, USA

      I'm glad Paula shared this hub because I'd missed it earlier. I enjoyed a look into the daily retirement routine of your husband (and you). It seems to be a given that people are busier during retirement than they expected, but that's a good thing. Keeping busy helps keep both the body and the mind engaged and, hopefully, working well.

      By the way, your husband seems to be a very nice guy. Anyone who is there for his neighbors and friends if needed, not to mention his aging parents and grandchildren, deserves the label "nice."


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      Paula 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Til....I'm pleased that I found this older hub of yours. And as I scrolled your LONG list of hubs, I can see I have some serious reading to do, for all the hubs I never even saw. I'm such a lame brain..seriously. However, in defense of lame-brains everywhere, this was 11 mos ago and I doubt we had even tripped over each other yet, at that point....

      Anyway.....This is simply great. I should not bother to tell you how very much Larry's day is like Jim''d easily assume this.

      I love, LOVE retirement also. I see we have been blessed being able to retire with our health and our partners. For too many it doesn't happen that ideally.,...........UP & SHARED!

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      Mary Craig 6 years ago from New York

      Diana, thanks for the good wishes. Moonlake, wow, two jobs in summer! God bless. Glad you enjoyed my hub. Cogerson, it is a routine until somebody messes it up ;)

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      Cogerson 6 years ago from Virginia

      Great look into your husband's is good to see that he has a routine and that he enjoys it so much....and now you get to establish your times ahead for you two....awesome awesome....PS I did not even know Springer was still on tv.

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      diogenes 6 years ago

      Sounds like a great life...Bob

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      moonlake 6 years ago from America

      My husband is also retired but in the summer until about Oct he takes on two jobs both for potato farms. He also gets his coffee going in the morning reads whatever shopper is here but he never watchs tv until 6:30 and Wheel of Fortune is on by that time he has had his shower and pjs are on.

      Winter is awful that's when he starts to pace.

      Enjoyed your hub.

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      Diana L Pierce 6 years ago from Potter County, Pa.

      Very sweet. Happy Retirement.