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A Father's Love: A lesson you will never forget
Life is full of mysteries. Love, is one of those incomprehensible forces that moves us to do great things. A man is not complete without knowing the greatest miracle that is to love their child.
The singular miracle of turning a kiss into a living breathing gift of life. Their own flesh and blood transformed into a breath of joy.
"How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child's board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted. "
It does not matter who you are, or where you come from, is in our nature to crave the love of our father. That paternal figure is a piece of the puzzle of who we are. It could be missing, it could be present but is indeed there.
For a woman (girl), is the genesis of how we relate to relationships. For a man (boy), is the moral compass that shows them how to live. Even if your own father was unable or absent to fulfill this, is in your hands to open your heart and show the next generation that is possible to mend and heal.
I grew up without my father. But everyone in my life knows, that I love him so that, I made the choice to find him and decided to show him that I bear no ill will. Actually now that I know him better, I love him even more. As I understood, that he, is only human, and sometimes life moves you toward a different place to grow as a person.
My parent were teenagers when I came to this world. Children raising children can be confusing and sometimes everyone pays the price, specially the kids. We are closer than ever, even if it took 19 years for that reunion to occur.
I have seen my father break down and sob for not being there. But what broke my heart the most is that I saw and felt his guilt over it. Over all the years missed and the milestones that he never witnessed.
For that I can only reassure him that every day is a new opportunity to share a special moment and create a new memory. I am so grateful that he is in my life, and that my children know their grandpa, who has now become their hero.
Above all learn how to forgive
Is imperative that we open our hearts to forgive...
Let this be a testimony to everyone that, we are all connected. And we are capable of changing our lives for the better.
To men I always say; don't let life pull you away from the blessing of raising your child. And there is no mountain big enough to keep you from being part of your children's life. Is a gift like no other, and time is ruthless. Today is all we really have. Hug your kids, and tell them you love them. Now.
To women; don't let your emotions come between your child and their father. This is probably the best gift you can give them. Be a teacher, be a peacemaker, be an ally. Bitterness is a bad seed among hearts. Everyone makes mistakes, including us.
To every one that has an absent parent; let go... Rid yourself of questions and judgement. So that your own children learn the meaning of true forgiveness. Start a chain of love. Be the first to love and cherish your family. Is just a heartbeat away from letting go of the past.
A father is the link between God and his children. Showing us that we are protected and loved...
When I was little, I dreamed of talking to my dad, and sing this song to him.