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A Father's Love: A lesson you will never forget

Updated on June 11, 2014
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Anan is an online blogger and private consultant since 2009 in the areas of relationships and interfaith spirituality.

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Life is full of mysteries. Love, is one of those incomprehensible forces that moves us to do great things. A man is not complete without knowing the greatest miracle that is to love their child.

The singular miracle of turning a kiss into a living breathing gift of life. Their own flesh and blood transformed into a breath of joy.

"How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child's board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted. "

Voltaire

The promise

Ain't I so cute!
Ain't I so cute!
This is the only picture I have of my parents together.
This is the only picture I have of my parents together.
My first steps.
My first steps.
My father, his wife and my younger sisters in 2010. ( I am the one just behind him)
My father, his wife and my younger sisters in 2010. ( I am the one just behind him)

It does not matter who you are, or where you come from, is in our nature to crave the love of our father. That paternal figure is a piece of the puzzle of who we are. It could be missing, it could be present but is indeed there.

For a woman (girl), is the genesis of how we relate to relationships. For a man (boy), is the moral compass that shows them how to live. Even if your own father was unable or absent to fulfill this, is in your hands to open your heart and show the next generation that is possible to mend and heal.

I grew up without my father. But everyone in my life knows, that I love him so that, I made the choice to find him and decided to show him that I bear no ill will. Actually now that I know him better, I love him even more. As I understood, that he, is only human, and sometimes life moves you toward a different place to grow as a person.

My parent were teenagers when I came to this world. Children raising children can be confusing and sometimes everyone pays the price, specially the kids. We are closer than ever, even if it took 19 years for that reunion to occur.

I have seen my father break down and sob for not being there. But what broke my heart the most is that I saw and felt his guilt over it. Over all the years missed and the milestones that he never witnessed.

For that I can only reassure him that every day is a new opportunity to share a special moment and create a new memory. I am so grateful that he is in my life, and that my children know their grandpa, who has now become their hero.

Above all learn how to forgive

Is imperative that we open our hearts to forgive...

When babies have babies.
When babies have babies.
The day that my father met my kids.
The day that my father met my kids.

Let this be a testimony to everyone that, we are all connected. And we are capable of changing our lives for the better.

To men I always say; don't let life pull you away from the blessing of raising your child. And there is no mountain big enough to keep you from being part of your children's life. Is a gift like no other, and time is ruthless. Today is all we really have. Hug your kids, and tell them you love them. Now.

To women; don't let your emotions come between your child and their father. This is probably the best gift you can give them. Be a teacher, be a peacemaker, be an ally. Bitterness is a bad seed among hearts. Everyone makes mistakes, including us.

To every one that has an absent parent; let go... Rid yourself of questions and judgement. So that your own children learn the meaning of true forgiveness. Start a chain of love. Be the first to love and cherish your family. Is just a heartbeat away from letting go of the past.

A father is the link between God and his children. Showing us that we are protected and loved...

When I was little, I dreamed of talking to my dad, and sing this song to him.

For you Dad, this is the fruit of your journey

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Ruth, thank you.

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      Ruth Lanham 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for this hub.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A great story and I look forward to many more.

      Eddy.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Hello visionandfocus!

      I completely agree. No one can expect a child to behave like an adult even though they think they are grown up. My parents were only fifteen when they got pregnant. I was raised by me paternal grandmother, so I was very aware of how difficult was for them to cope. But I am glad that we all grew as a result of that. I have a 16 year old son, and I can't imagine him with that kind of responsibility. That is why education is so important. Blessings.

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      visionandfocus 4 years ago from North York, Canada

      What a beautiful hub! You're so right about "children raising children". They cannot be faulted for taking the "easy" way out when they really don't know any better. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and beautiful.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Hi coffeegginmyrice !

      Unfortunately my father was not there to walk me down the aisle, or to see my first two children come to the world. That scared me deeply. I could only talk to him on the phone. That is why I flew over a 1,000 miles so he could be present at my sons birth. Which for him was a blessing,since he has 6 daughters and 4 granddaughters. The birth of my son was a very special event.

      Those videos are among my favorite. They embody what life is, and what we can learn from it. Blessings.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Hi shininiggirisheyes !

      This was my intention, to remind people how crucial this bond is. And to never take it for granted.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Thanks Irc7815 !

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      HI teaches!

      I feel blessed beyond belief. If i would have let my mothers bitterness corrode my intention, my children and I would have been robed of this relationship. Now I not only got my father back, but also established a relationship with my other five sisters. Blessings.

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      Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

      How lovely sharing your daughter-father relationship and love, ananceleste! Daughters have this special closeness to their fathers, as sons to their mothers. A daughter feels a powerful protection of a major role model in her life- her father. A son seeks the most caring and loving protection in his life from his mother.

      The first video made me cry on and on. I had that moment after graduating college, got my first stable job and was waiting for my application to Canada that I have to be brave to tell my pa...that "thing" that a father fears to know. The hugs, embrace and tears on this video of a daughter and father duplicate my time. That is why it has touched me to heart. I am very close to my pa and I am a papa's girl.

      Awesome and beautiful hub!

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      Shining Irish Eyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Beautiful heart warming message and I am so happy you took the brave step and found your Dad.

      I often reminisce on the wonderful luck bestowed on me to have been raised by such a wonderful man as my Dad. He was my best friend and I think of him every day.

      Blessings to you.

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      Linda Crist 4 years ago from Central Virginia

      Anaceleste, whata beautiful tribute to the father/daughter relationship.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Ananceleste, this is a touching post. I am glad that you and your father were able to establish a connection later in life. It is true, a mother can do so much to build a relationship, regardless of her feelings, she must help her children to value their father's love. Excellent advice. Voted up and across.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Hi Luisa!

      Thanks for sharing this experience with me. Blessings.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Thanks gspielman;

      I am so glad that guys are reading this. Enjoy your children, make good memories and love them with all your heart.

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      Anan Celeste 4 years ago from California

      Thanks Deb!

      I am glad you stopped by.

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      Louisa Rogers 4 years ago from Eureka, California and Guanajuato, Mexico

      This is so beautiful and heartwarming. I admire so much your open-hearted acceptance of your father with all his frailties. And you are so right that what a woman can do is not get between her children and their father. Thank you!

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      Greg Spielman 4 years ago from Delaware

      Yet again your writing is awesome, and speaing from a dad perspective everything you say is right. Great writing and I enjoyed reading your Hub.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      I meant to say I am sharing

      Debbie

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Oh How wonderful this is.. I can feel your heart.. and your fathers.. I can feel your tears.

      God Bless you my friend

      Debbie