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A Friend or Friends

Updated on August 18, 2014

Friendship

Friendship for most people is a combination of affection, loyalty, love, respect, and trust. Most important of all is you have to be truthful and honest to them.

The general traits of a friendship include;

Similar interests, values, mutual respect, equality and an attachment to each other, and in order to experience friendship, you need to have true friends. The emotional safety provided by friendship means not having to weigh your thoughts and measure words. True friendship is when someone knows you better than yourself and takes a position in your best interests when in a crisis. Friendship goes beyond just sharing time together, and it will be long lasting.


What to find from a Friend or Friends

Have similar interests. This probably ties us closer to our friends than many would like to admit. When your interests are totally different and can find nothing to enjoy jointly, time spent together tends to rapidly diminish or may just remain as an acquaintance. Not that we can't still care deeply about the person with whom we no longer share common interests. Keep in touch with that person. Friend/ Friends think the same and always have a common ground.

Have similar values. If values are differing from each other, it's difficult for a long time friendship to survive. Find out a person's principles, standards of behavior and judgment of what is important in life

Have Equality. If one friend needs the support of the other on a consistent basis such that the person depended upon receives no benefit other than the opportunity to support and encourage, while the relationship may be significant and valuable, it can't be said to define a true friendship. Equality is when things are the same in some particular way.

Most of my Friends

What is a true Friend or Friends?


True friend/friends will always think of your well-being

True friend/friends lend a helping hand

True friend/friends won't ask you to compromise your principles.

True friend/friends will not ask you to change for their benefit.

True friend/friends will be a good influence.

True friend/friends will encourage you to live up to your best potential.

Of course, we may have friends who fit all these criteria and maybe more. There still seems to be an x-factor, an attraction that draws people together, friends that will glue you together, more often instantly just like striking a match. There is this spark and you sense that you have known them for some time. When you find these people, they’re like priceless gems, treat them well. They're like finding a home and peace

Where to find True Friends

Most important is to become a true friend yourself. Can you be one? You don't have to make yourself into what you think others would find attractive from you. Simply be yourself without a negative attitude. Learn how to listen and be heard. Smile and be happy.

To find friend/friends you have to be sociable, circulate, when invited to parties do not hesitate, go if there is nothing important to do. If you have travelled and lived in a certain area for years, you’ll find friends. Old school mates, I think this happens a lot to so many. Workplace, a few are bound to be close to you and remain friend/ friends for a long time. There may be circumstances that you’d find them in a place you’ll expect the least.

My University Friends

Conclusion on Friend or Friends

True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, to find one real friend or friends, they are like finding a precious gems; take care of them and treasure them.


When people show loyalty to you, you take care of those who are with you. It's how it goes with everything. If you have a small circle of friends, and one of those friends doesn't stay true to you, they won’t stay in that circle for very long.

A true friend will not find it difficult to tell you and correct you when you're wrong. A true friend will confront you with your problem and as quickly as to inform you of facts that you can't see yourself. This should not make you feel bad because that is what true friendship is, to be able to help you and help you to understand. Ask yourself why, simple answer is because they care a lot. Just remember to learn how to reciprocate.

My Conclusion

I LOVE MY FRIENDS! I was in England for 33 years, met and made friends there; I have a few individual friends and groups of friends, from different workplaces, neighbours that have moved. Now, with the internet and social media sites; I am in touch with those miles away to exchange latest stories, write anything we could discuss and send pictures.

Here in the Philippines, I have old schoolmates from various schools from elementary to high school and University. We have small get together, see each other for birthdays, occasional overnight sleep out even if we are all married and we can openly discuss anything, have fun, pour our hearts out and discuss personal matters too.

Who would want more?

My sisters

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