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A New Take on the Born Again Virgin

Updated on February 11, 2019

How Past Sexual Relationships Hinder Your Relationship with Those You Love

Once you lose it, you cannot regain it. This is true regardless of how you lost your virginity. Man or woman, it is all the same. Once it is gone, it is gone. Why? Because losing your virginity is more than just a physical phenomenon. It is a spiritual phenomenon. It is a passage from one state of being to another. It is a time when you become one flesh with whomever it was that happened to take your virginity. You might have really believed that the boy or girl you gave your heart to was in a love relationship with you. Yet you found out later that true love relationships are built on more than just that initial physical attraction. Marriage relationships are the only legitimate relationships that are sanctioned by God in which a man and woman can have mutual sexual relations.

Now this will probably upset many of you. Some will jump up and down and say "that's not fair!" "I was drunk, it was not my choice!" Understand, I agree with you, it is not fair. However, I have been working with victims for several years now, and I have seen that the consequences of both consensual and forced sexual activity go far beyond the physical act and even the emotional implications. Sexual relationships are spiritual relationships.

The sexual relationship is part of a larger spiritual law. In the second chapter of Genesis, it is written that "a man shall leave his father and mother and cling only unto his wife. And the two shall become one flesh..." That becoming one flesh is a spiritual union. It is such a strong concept that it is practiced in occult ritualism to bond young girls to a consort. It is a funny thing that the people who deny the power of the sexual union are normally Christian. But why? For one thing, Christians have come to believe that when they accepted Jesus the Christ as their Lord and savior, they suddenly became immune to the laws of cause and effect that God ordained to be from the beginning. Christian doctrine, depending on the denomination, often teaches this immunity and leads people to believe that they are no longer required to repent of their sins. This in itself leads many down a path of destruction.

The term soul tie or soul ties is the best description I can think of that aptly describes what occurs when two people come together in a sexual relationship. The secular world does not seem to take this seriously. However, if one has had more than one sexual partner in their lifetime and has not broken the ties between them and the other partner, it appears that each successive relationship suffers because of the others. In fact, both partners have a tie to each partner they have been with. It is easy to see that if one has had multiple sexual partners, their soul is fractured and scattered in many different directions. Dr. Neil Anderson addressed this phenomenon in his book, The Bondage Breaker.

Unbroken soul ties formed by unhealthy and violent relationships, either past or present, are a major hindrance in the lives of many people. A very good discussion of the implications of soul ties can be found at .

When working with the victims of sexual abuse, we recognize that once the person is sexually abused, it turns on that person's sexuality and it cannot be turned off from that point on. Some people, normally children, are fortunate and are able to get through the trauma and go on to lead normal lives. Yet the soul ties remain with the perpetrator. It is really no different than catching a sexually transmitted disease from a rapist. It is an unfortunate consequence of a horrendous crime. Yet the spiritual law that applies to all must still be satisfied. Another excellent discussion of the implications of Genesis is .


You can once again be a spiritually renewed virgin

Jesus is the answer. As God who was made flesh and dwelt among men, he and only he was the perfect sacrifice that overcame the power that sin has over all of our lives. SOUL TIES FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS CAN BE BROKEN. You can be whole again.

Successful relationships in the future begin with a renewed relationship with your creator.

Do you want to be free?

Do you have the desire to be free?

Will you commit yourself to being spiritually free?

If the answer is yes to any of the above, your first step is to talk to a christian counselor or friend who can share the truth of the Gospel of Jesus with you.

Ronnie is a seminary educated minister with twenty three years of ministry experience in various venues. He has extensive experience in working with victims of sexual abuse and domestic violence. His passion is to help victims on a level that is rarely addressed but is most vital to their recovery from past traumas.


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    • mabmiles profile image


      8 years ago

      Yeah this is true, I really appreciate this hub.

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      11 years ago

      Nice Hub...glad your on here!

    • talented_ink profile image


      11 years ago from USA

      I completely agree with you that pieces of us are left behind with any sexual partner that we encounter even though many would refute that. It reminds me of a story I've been told about people being able to smudge your window with their fingerprints.


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