A Notch on Your Belt
In this day and age of sexual assault we must ask the question: What are father’s teaching their boys about women? Are you teaching them that any way they have sex is ok? Are you teaching them to physically harm women in order to obtain sexual conquests? Are you teaching them that it’s okay to assault someone if she’s incoherent, drugged, or drunk? What is the conversation had with your sons about respecting women? Do they understand the women they encounter is someone else’s mother, child, sister, niece, or friend?
What are you teaching men that participate in gang-rape? What are you teaching your sons that they would participate or film an assault and upload it to social media? What are you teaching your sons regarding the value of women and their duty to protect women from their follow predators?
Who could forget Brock Turner? He raped an unconscious woman and attempted to flee the scene when two men discovered him in the act. The judge was concerned that a lengthy prison sentence would have a “severe impact on him.” The former Stanford University swimmer was sentenced to six months jail and given probation. It was reported that his father felt that Brock Turner should not have to go to prison for “20 minutes of action.”
If you need help regarding having this conversation with your son’s please read this article for further assistance:
The Bureau of Justice Statistics defines rape and sexual assault:
Rape - Forced sexual intercourse including both psychological coercion as well as physical force. Forced sexual intercourse means penetration by the offender(s). Includes attempted rapes, male as well as female victims, and both heterosexual and same sex rape. Attempted rape includes verbal threats of rape.
Sexual assault - A wide range of victimizations, separate from rape or attempted rape. These crimes include attacks or attempted attacks generally involving unwanted sexual contact between victim and offender. Sexual assaults may or may not involve force and include such things as grabbing or fondling. It also includes verbal threats.
Your Little Girls
Conversations With Your Sons
First of all-your actions and the way you treat women should set an example of how a man should respect a woman. If your son keeps watching you run through women for sport treating them as trophy objects on your arm, you are setting a bad example. Bullying your wife using intimidation, threats, physical statue or aggression is not the example to set for your sons or should be a way you conduct yourself. Share with your son that it’s important to be honest, as a man of character, about your feelings towards a woman. Teach him lying and manipulating women to get what you want is morally wrong. Teach him that is a woman does not find interest in your sexually you shouldn’t try to get her drunk or put something in her drink to get her to comply with your sexual demands. Teach him that filming assault while standing there makes you part of the crime and a crappy human being to not defend a woman being assaulted. Teach him that manipulating women into situations that compromise her safety is not ok. Teach him there is not honor in forcing a woman to have sex with you, conscious or unconscious. Sit him down with his sister and have that conversation about how he would feel if someone did something to hurt her? Teach him that women victimized are someone’s daughter, mother, sister, cousin, or friend. Teach him that if he’s see’s someone hurting a woman he shouldn’t film but try to go get help or stop the assault. Turning a blind eye to the situation while women are being drugged or influenced to drink beyond their ability is wrong. There’s nothing wrong with being that guy that takes her back to her dorm room and make sure she is safe and away from the perverts trying to set up the sexual assault. Teach him that women aren’t for sport and he should respect women not set out to hurt them.
Women aren’t notches on your belt.
Women aren’t created to fill your sexual desires
Women don’t exist for you to “take” and “do what you will with” ---this is not medieval times
Taking a woman’s body against her will, conscious or not, is not what MEN or DECENT HUMAN BEINGS DO
Women are not required to entertain your advances, interests, or desires
Women are more than sexual objects for your sexual needs