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True Love: A Pearl of Great Price
Pearls are such simple gems, yet they are so exquisite. A strand of pearls worn around the neck always adds to a woman's elegance and personal loveliness. Some would say they indicate wealth or richness of life. A pearl is a metaphor for what is valuable, admirable, and natural in life.
Pearls are formed through irritation and as a defense system against potential destruction. At the center of each pearl is a tiny nucleus which is surrounded by multiple layers of inorganic nacre, an iridescent substance, built up over time. It is amazing that out of pain and suffering such a thing of beauty is produced.
Love is like a pearl. It is built up over time through many and varied trials of life. The layers of knowledge that come from understanding caused by our sufferings, pains and groans in life situations, become strong and produce a shimmering object of beauty: true love.
Writing Pearls Of Love
A Closed Heart
In order for a pearl to form, the oyster's shell must be open and exposed to outside parasites and intruders. It is aware of the dangers, but it is realizes the importance of being a part of the living world. It gets its nourishment and growth from remaining open.
When we open our hearts to others we risk the danger of being rejected, hurt or damaged. Once you have opened your heart you have exposed yourself to this risk. You are vulnerable to outside impressions and to many you cannot control. A damaged love experience will cause a heart to close. Let's face it, it is much easier to close your heart than to remain open and suffer another painful relationship.
Nasa defines a black hole as a place in space where gravity pulls so much that even light can not get out. Because they are so tightly contained you cannot perceive their existence, they are invisible. It's gravity pulls upon itself so that eventually it will cease to exist.
Similarly, a closed heart absorbs what is around but does not respond to the environment. The true emotions and beliefs of a closed heart are not perceived, invisible to the outside. Love will cease to exist if the heart remains closed.
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An Open Heart
An open heart reveals treasures developed through years of trials. The pearls within are valuable and of great price. They shine with incomparable beauty. As the oyster forms a pearl due to irritation, the heart forms pearls because the pain was taken and coated with spiritual nacre.
No one can truly say the painful experience is worth it at the time. We only reveal we are searching for comfort and not exactly sure where the path will lead. We take the ache and seeks ways to heal the anguish.
Wise hearts will seek out positive techniques to coat the pain. They will wrap it in methods pursuant to healing, the type of healing conducive to growth and understanding. An open heart responds to those around it. It seeks out light and will reflect the light outwards so that all can see what radiates within. It is visible.
The danger of having an exposed heart is that it is unguarded at times and vulnerable to attack. Yet, because it is strong, due to its growth through grief, agony and sorrows, it is able to survive further incidence and injury. It is a risk, but worth the beautiful pearls that will come forth from the possibility: a stronger strand of true love.
The Value of Love
“Again, the Kingdom of Heaven is like a merchant on the lookout for choice pearls. When he discovered a pearl of great value, he sold everything he owned and bought it!” —Matthew 13:45-46
When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. Her husband entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize. —Author unknown
Faith (love) is the silver thread upon which the pearls of the graces are to be hung. Break that , and you have broken the string . . . the pearls lie scattered on the ground. —Charles H. Spurgeon
Collect as precious pearls the words of the wise and virtuous. —Abd-el-Kadar
Polishing The Pearls
True love takes time and energy to perfect. It does not happen overnight, as most of us would prefer. If anything is lasting and of value, it comes at a price. You must seek out ways to build or "polish" it, knowing that it is not going to be an easy task.
Communication is key in any relationship, even more so in one of true love. Conversation should happen daily. Keep it positive, encouraging and learn to keep an open mind to what is being said. Listening while conversing is another trait helpful in building a strong relationship.
Find ways to let the other person know you love them. Simple things are the sweetest and most romantic. A fresh cup of coffee, hot tea, or simple treat by the bedside in the morning when they wake up saves time, but more importantly, let's them know that you are thinking about them. Write a poem, sing a song, take a walk together. It's all in being there for them, letting them know you care.
Keep the fires burning! Having a weekly date night is so invigorating and adventurous. Surprise is always exciting and it counteracts what predictability does to a relationship. Have you ever eaten dinner in the bedroom under a tent while pretending you are on a Caribbean beach? Or, how about forgetting the chores one night and take in a movie?
Keep your love a mystery. Keep it passionate. The more you polish your pearls, the stronger the strand of true love.