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A first time sex (painful, sweet and forever painful)
Hope she never gets to see her pic, but then doesn't know how to use computers
I have a very good friend, Sandra by name, that came to me with a very serious problem and I have absolutely no idea on how to handle it, I don’t think I can. In fact I am very sure that there is no way about the matter but won’t mind advice in comments.
Sandra is about 16, very pretty, young girl with the body of someone at least 25. She started getting asked out by men much older than her when she was 14 so she kind of prefers those kinds of men than boys of her age group. She let them fill her ears with sweet words, fill her purse with money and her room with pampering and flashy gifts, cards and love letters. Then she told me she was having the time of her life ( wasn’t among the men but I did enjoy my share of whatever she got)
She later told me she has met a guy that she is madly in love with and they dated and after 2 weeks together, she decided she was going to give him her flower. The day after she did it she came and actually gave me a little description of how it was. She said it was ‘painful then sweet’. For a funny reason I just couldn’t get those 2 words out of my head.
She never saw the guy again, went into depression (symptoms of heartbreak), and gradually came back. Seven months later (guess the first relationship was a painful lesson for her because she stayed away from men, except those who were good friends and started dating her age group), she was making plans to travel to Canada get her university education there and amongst the things they required from her was a clean health report. She went and did the entire test required.
2 days ago she called me and just as I was about to congratulate her (I had faith she was going to get it. I couldn’t foresee anything going wrong). I heard her crying and I decided to console her that she can always try next year and even try our school here till the can finally go. She wailed louder and I wasn’t sure what to say. When she finally got herself a bit, she told me she did the blood test and was found positive for HIV. Her parents have disowned her and asked her to leave their house for bringing disgrace to them. She’s staying at a friend’s place who she hasn’t told because she is afraid she may get thrown out. She’s so down now that she was calling me to tell me goodbye because she wants to commit suicide. I remember when she said painful and the sweet and in my mind I sadly added ‘and forever painful’. I was devastated.
I have begged to wait and I’ll be hurrying back home in 3 days to see her. She believes I’m coming with answers to her problem but I don’t have a clue on what to expect, say or do. Please anyone with any idea on how to handle it should please put it in comment. Told her story so you’ll see it from my view and by some miracle, have a life saving answer.