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A friend in deed

Updated on September 24, 2013



We are taught early in life to share with others, to be polite, to show respect, to listen and obey and to always be a friend to someone. It is friendship that helps shape us as individuals and enables us to mature and find comfort and happiness in our lives. We should never feel alone in the world as we need to feel accepted and loved by others and to reach out and bond with as many people as we can. Life is all about growing, developing, changing, experiencing, sharing, uniting, bonding, caring and establishing friendships. We all need to open up and express ourselves and the ones we usually do so with aside from our parents and family are our friends.

When we are feeling down it is always nice to have a friend in your corner who will listen to you and help you to get past that difficult time. It is equally important for us to comfort a friend when they are hurting. We all need to help pick each other up in times of sadness and great challenge. We sometimes take our friends for granted not meaning to but it happens. It is when we really need them that we tend to lean on them.

There is a song that I love that really sums up what friendship is and the song is truly a treasure which I'm sure is a favorite for most of us. The song which I'm sure most of you have heard is "Lean on me" and I can listen to this song just about anytime. The song has a feel good sense about it and it touches me and helps me realize the importance of friendship.

My father always told me that when he married he had found his best friend. I know my mom and dad loved each other and they were best friends throughout the years until unfortunately death took mom away from my dad and all of us way too soon. Dad was loyal to her until the very end and also thereafter.

As a child growing up I had made some nice friends but as time passes and life takes shape we lose touch and we all go about living our lives. When we lose touch with our friends it is initially difficult but as time passes we learn to get along but a part of us misses the days we shared fun times together.

I have been fortunate to find some friends who are still part of my life and I value those friendships and believe that such friendships are truly special. I have sought my special friends at the most difficult times in my life and they always were there for me and comforted me in times of despair.

I also have been blessed to have a wife and son who I love very much. My wife is my best friend and my son is my "little buddy". It is the best thing in life having a child and my son makes my life truly wonderful. He is going through some difficult times right now and we are seeking the appropriate medical care for him so he will hopefully get back on track and make progress so he can be his absolute best and make friends and find happiness once again.

I have also been going through a very challenging time myself and have been in the hospital several times in the past 6 months and currently not able to work. I am trying my best to heal from my severe depression and thoughts of suicide which sadly are a pattern in my family which is alarming. I am also struggling with being transgender and friendships have much greater significance when you realize they are still friends and accept me for who i am. That really means a great deal to me and I wish to reciprocate in the best way I can by sharing my appreciation through my writings and paying tribute to them in my own special way because I have come to realize that I am quite unique and a caring person who only wants to share my true self with my family and my friends as Emily.

I wish my son a life full of joy, happiness, great success and many friendships and that one day he will come to understand and accept me as Emily and know that I am still his "dad" and always will be.

I am now in the fight for my life.

Emily Iannielli

Emily speaks of her life and being transgender

Lean on Me - Bill Withers


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    • fucsia profile image

      fucsia 7 years ago

      True friends are rare and precious. I wish your child to find them. Thank you for sharing a little of your story

    • ediann profile image

      ediann 7 years ago


      Thank you for your encouraging words and your friendship. You are very kind to us at this difficult time. Our son means everything to us and we are doing all we can to help him get better. We are grateful for caring people like you.


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      bayoulady 7 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

      I didn't realize he wasn't home right now. Asperger's is so unpredictable.My prayers to your boy and his wonderful parents. Hugs to you all!