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how to get a girl's attention

Updated on June 6, 2011

You want a good tip guys?

Stop trying. If you really want a girl to notice you then you need to stop trying. I'm going to go into a little bit of depth as to why that is. There are a lot of reasons why girls are attracted to guys. Most of it is psychological.

Back in the old days

Once upon a time, Men and Woman had specific roles to each other.

Before modern technology, men used to hunt and provide for the family. They used to be the only one to bring home food. They were the ones that went out with their spears in the air and  hunted fish, wild life, etc. Women relied on men to provide for them like that. They wanted to be with the best man who could provide and protect them from predators. The men today aren't like the men back in those times. Most men today are shy, polite and timid. Now, I'm not saying that if you are like that you won't get a girl, but it may be harder if you have those qualities.There's a psychology and a point to prove here. The point is, women are attracted to men who can provide and protect.

chances are, if you can provide then you can do other things as well

If you are the kind of man who can provide like your ancestors then you might have a few of these traits.

  • confident
  • Self reliant
  • Independent

You might also have a passive attitude. You probably aren't uptight or too organized. You probably aren't too clean either.

The one thing you might have on your mind is, "Making It." By that I mean succeeding in life. Whatever success means to you.

There are some questions that women can't answer. They can't describe the reasons they are attracted to a certain guy because they really don't even know. It's just a suppressed instinct.

I know we live in an equal society now where women can provide just as good if not better than men, but most won't deny they still want a man who can fight for himself--a man who doesn't need anyone's help.

So what does this have to do with not trying?

Simple. A guy who desperately tries to attain attention is needy. He gives off needy energy to the people around him. A guy who is needy may not be too confident in himself. In other words, he may not possess the ability to feel independent. He may need help in certain areas of life.

A man who is needy is unattractive to women.

Of course there is a lot more to it than that

There is such a thing as a nice guy, and women like them. Women don't go around looking for the douchebags that most other women end up with; however the reason they do end up with jerks is because they have certain attractive qualities that outweigh the bad qualities, such as independence, confidence, self reliance, etc.

Of course they will give the girls a hard time and cause unnecessary hearthache, but the girls will stay with them for various reasons.

Why don't you try being the guy who can think about others, be unselfish, and still be confident, independent, etc. Be the guy who puts the girl first, but doesn't lose the instinct to provide and be the leader. THAT is what girls are looking for in guys. Someone with leadership qualities.

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      7 years ago

      hay thats sweet i wish i can have a guy like you i love kids i treat them like they were mione own if they was not tanks you for it get in touch with me as soon as possible.

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      7 years ago

      Thanks a lot

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      eli grey 

      8 years ago from Philadelphia, Pa

      you may not have to try, but you have to be willing to do some things to stand out.I agree though that being confident and independent are key.


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