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Cheating and Affairs while married: A letter to my husbands mistress
Where do I begin?
I'm uncertain whether or not to congratulate you on the biggest achievement anyone with a low moral standard could ever strive for - breaking up a home.
Yes, I would never give you all the credit because I know that my husband had his fair share in the deal but woman to woman, knowing we were married why would you stoop that low?
I look into the eyes of my 10 month old son and my mind races forward to 5 years from now when the questions start. He's going to want to know why mommy and daddy aren't together... what do I tell him? You're the smart one. I'm so stupid that I couldn't see my husband’s infidelity for almost a year while married and living with him so I definitely can't figure it out. You're the one of higher intelligence; you tell me how I answer him?
How do you do it?
How do you wake up every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re a good person knowing what you've done? How do you sleep with a married man and tell yourself you’re in a relationship? How do you come into our home, see our son’s toys sprawled on the floor and not feel an ounce of remorse for destroying his home? What kind of person are you?
I pity you
I pity your ignorance. You're immaturity. Your lack of empathy. I pity you because you’re a worthless lost cause. Don't you know that you're not special? Don't you know that if he cheated with you he'd cheat on you?
While he was sleeping with you he was messaging other people trying to hook up with them and get them to do what you were doing for him already - entertain him. I saw the messages; it was right before his texts with you - the ones that revealed your affair to me. It could have been any of the women he messaged but you just happened to be the one easiest enough to jump into the sack with a married man.
Now that it's all in the open you're still in denial. Don't you see that you're just another side to him? While you're raving about being in a relationship with him he's texting me, begging me to take him back and telling me what a fool he was to mess around with you. He's telling me he misses me and that you're nothing to him. You were nothing to him. You were just the easiest to get with. If it wasn't you it would have been someone else so yes, I won't give you all of the credit - you're not even worth that.
In a nutshell
You came into our lives and damaged our family by taking what wasn't yours. We had our ups and downs, our hard times and our bumpy roads but we were a family and you destroyed that. You may have wounded us BUT you would never be able to kill my son and I. We are stronger and we will be okay. We begin the process of rebuilding ourselves; putting our lives back together and finding the happiness we deserve.
Yes, my husband played his role but you, my dear will one day get what you deserve. When your world falls apart beneath your feet and the air feels so tight that you can't breath - you aren't as strong as I am - so I want you to think about me with your last breath. Kharma will catch up to you.
I'd like to say THANK-YOU for being the person to open my eyes to my husband’s lack of loyalty. If he didn't have you to mess around with I would have never known the shallowness of his moral standards or lack of maturity and commitment.
You may have destroyed a marriage but you saved an individual who deserves so much better.
May life give you everything you deserve!
"Vengeance is mine" - says The Lord, "I will repay!"
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