ADD SOME MAGIC TO YOUR SEX-LIFE

'Your lips speak soft sweetness, your touch a cool caress I am lost in your magic, my heart beats within your chest'.

Let's face it, sex lives can become mundane especially if they have become predictable, the same thing every time, time after time. That in itself can be a major reason why couples are having less sex. Often it has simply become boring, too much fuss, so why bother?. It is never too late to spice it up, never too late to bring back some special magic.

Here are some ideas, to bring back some sizzle to your love-life, to bring back that passion that once made making love so special between you both. Don't let lack of time be your reason for preventing the two of you expressing your love to each other. Make the time, as a great sex life, can keep couples together longer,as they share their intimacy with each other.

Sexy Lingerie :

• "A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears."
  Thomas Carlyle

Lingerie is guaranteed to get a great atmosphere flowing. All women dress up for work, for a night out. Why not dress up sometimes for bed?. The market for lingerie is huge. You can get some great buys out there,and with the huge online market at your fingertips shopping for lingerie is exciting. It does not matter if you aren't that perfect size 10. Most lingerie shops cater for all sizes. Sexy is 'all sizes, a woman of any shape can be a sexy goddess if her attitude is right. Remember ladies a man in love looks at you as the most gorgeous woman in the world even in those intimate moments , it is women who focus on their imperfections not the man.

Clothe yourself in sexy satins and silks, for that special treat, and I guarantee it will create a special magic. He will love it. We have to remember men are very visual creatures, they love to be able to see you, it adds to their arousal. The imperfections you tend to perceive of yourself are the last thing a man is looking at during those intimate times. So relax, see yourself as the beautiful creature you are, and flaunt it.

Fantasy Roles :

• Dressing up in fantasy costumes can be magic

All this one requires is a little imagination, you don't have to be a 'Golden Globe' nominee to do this one. Role playing is great fun, if both parties are willing to give it a try. Dress up as a nurse, an exotic belly dancer, an assertive police-woman, a shy schoolgirl, whatever you want to be. Both parties take on a new, exciting identity, you get to be anyone you choose to be for the duration of those special moments. 'Make believe' can be pure magic, it breaks you out of the norm as you take on your fantasy character."Excuse me sir I need to take your temperature."

Night-time Picnic :

• An outdoor feast of love and pleasure

Pack yourself a picnic basket, including a bottle of fine wine,two champagne glasses, add a soft rug and pack yourselves in the car. Find your own piece of heaven in a secluded spot, you often don't have to drive far from home. Making love at night beneath the stars, is a wonderful feeling. Bathed in the moon's soft glow and free from life's continual distractions, it is an experience you don't want to miss.

New Venues :

'I can remember when the air was clean and sex was dirty.
George Burns'

If your bedroom has been your only nesting ground, night after night, for what seems like centuries, it may be time to add the 'Portable Sex Factor'. A new venue can certainly spice up your love-life, it breaks the boredom of the familiarity of a predictable sex-life. Take it somewhere new, indoors or outside, doesn't matter, just do it.

Body Painting :

• Let your brush work its art across each others skin

Body painting each other is fun, creative and in a intimate couple scenario, it can very erotic. Grab yourself some non-allergenic, non-toxic paint, that can be easily washed away. Set aside a special time, for your kinky art work session, preferably at night when the moon is high. Take it in turns, to dab your brush across each other's naked skin, painting designs or clothing on your partner, an experience the two of you will never forget.

An Erotic Poem :

• Let your lover's heart spill forth with lust and desire

Write your partner an erotic poem or a raunchy note. For those not quite adept at writing poetry do not let it be an excuse not to spill thy passion upon thy perfumed paper. Slip your finished note in their pocket, or rest it on your lover's satin pillow. How long has it been that you told your partner how you feel about them? Be creative with your words, don't hold back, raunchy writing is a real turn on for a lot of people out there.

Stock Up The Library :

'I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds'...Joan Rivers

There is no shame in learning new tricks, tips and love making techniques from the experts. There is some really great books out there to sink your teeth into, I can guarantee you when you think you know it all, there will always be something to learn. Anything that can help you and your partner develop the most intimate loving relationship together is a god send. Reading books on love making together is fun and a great boost for your relationship, you can learn of new things together and try new things out together as you go.

Body Slide :

• Sometimes the most silly, uncomplicated, spur of the moment things turn out to be the most memorable. You won't know til you tried it.

I think this speaks quite for itself. It sounds quite bizarre I know but trust me it is amazing. The sensation is divine while being heaps of fun for you both.

Copyright © 2009 Deb Murray