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Accepting and Letting Go of the past to embrace the future

Updated on January 30, 2011

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Even before I begin, I would like to say thank you for taking a step towards getting better, in life its all about choices. We may not be able to control what happens to us, but we can choose how we approach the situation and how to deal with it. For me, this is a heart felt topic because I find myself struggling alot with letting go. As time goes by, I have learned afew things that help me through my struggles and i hope they will help you too.

Regardless of whether its a relationship, a friendship, an incident from the past or a loss, everyone has had a period of time in life where letting go has been the hardest thing to do. After being in a long distance relationship for three years, I felt it was time to listen to my inner voice, and to follow to my heart when I learned that there was someone else in the picture. Even though I convinced myself it was time to move on, i really did not realise how hard it was going to be to let go of someone I deeply loved. Life became a task and I felt like I was existing and not really living. The only way to let it out was crying myself to sleep and keeping myself in isolation.

Through PRAYER i was able to express myself and it does not have to take much time or too many words because God already knows what you are dealing with and he is waiting for you to surrender it all to him. Tell him you desire to get better and allow him to heal your broken heart. When you pray, it is easier to come to terms with the problem which leads us to something very important ACCEPTANCE.

I had to accept that I was hurt and broken. At the same time I had to accept that bad things can happen to good people, and according to Gods word "when i am weak, then i am strong". I still find myself struggling at times but healing is a continuous process and letting go is never easy. The difference is that even when i find myself thinking about what happened, I have that peace of knowing that everything happens for a reason. Taking responsibility allows you to face the situation with a desire to overcome and move forward.

The devil is a liar and his plan is to destroy. Always remember to pray for strength and guidance when it comes to dealing with such a situation. Ask God to mend your brokenness and purpose to let go. Let go, and let God be in control of the pain and the hurt. It is not easy and it will not be easy but there is so much relief in overcoming our struggles. Never give up. Keep the faith even when the light at the end of the tunnel seem so dim. Start each day with a purpose to get better. Allow yourself to heal and embrace each new day with a positive spirit. Pray, Accept, Let go, Heal and remember tommorow is another day :)

Be blessed.


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    • baygirl33 profile image

      victoria 6 years ago from Hamilton On.

      Good advice,but hard.We have been together nearly 60 years and now I'm alone.Now I question the value of prayer since we prayed every day and still he's gone.

      I'm trying to be adult about the whole thing,but I prayed for him to be here a little longer and those prayers were not answered. So now I must pray for the regrets to go away or somehow heal?

      I know we are not in control of these things and I'm hoping to just get used to it as each day goes by.

      Thanks for sharing.

      Anyway,thanks for sharing your thoughts.