Acknowledging, Surviving and Healing From Toxic People pt. 2
Toxic People Are Around
Toxic people outside the home can affect your life in the worse way. Besides Toxic friendships bringing you down, Toxic Co-workers or Toxic Bosses will affect your financial life.
Examples of Toxic co-workers or Toxic Bosses in your workplace would be:
~Toxic Co-Worker comes off as friendly but steals your ideas or talks badly behind your back.
~Toxic Co-Worker is threatened by your skills and instead of improving their skills, they attempt to take out competition by getting you fired by making you sound and/or look bad in front of the management.
~Toxic Boss plays favorites and you are not one of them because you do your job and don't kiss their butt.
~Toxic Boss would use your skills but don't give you the credit you deserve.
~Toxic Boss won't give you hours or shifts because they want you to be what they want you to be, even after you politely explain why you are unable to take on so much work and responsibility at the time.
~Toxic Boss will abuse their power.
~Toxic Co-Workers care for only about themselves.
Besides workplace Toxic People, there can be Toxic People at home or even related to you. That's right, even family members can be Toxic for you.
As a song title by Metallica would say, "Sad but true."
Toxic Family Members are usually obvious to spot because they own you by blood so they are allowed to mistreat you "because they know what is best" when they do not take the time to get to know you. Toxic family members just want to control you.
Alright, we knew this was coming up... physical abuse in the family.
No child should ever go through such trauma, but tragically this is still a huge problem in unhealthy core families.
All the Trauma from emotional, mental, verbal abuse with manipulation by Toxic People in life stays with you.
If you find yourself in a Toxic Relationship(s) with friends, co-workers, bosses, family members and/or spouse(s); please be careful and be safe.
Set boundaries for yourself to stay safe, either verbally out loud to the Toxic People or silently to yourself by keeping yourself at a distance for safety. Hopefully, you can keep yourself safe. Boundaries can be quite difficult or (in lucky situations) easy to set up for your mental, emotional and physical well-being.
Remind yourself to take care of yourself. You are important. There is only one of you.
Suggestions I have if you are able, give yourself distance from the Toxic Person/People. Depending on your situation, distancing yourself could be Physically staying away from them by any means necessary. Socially distancing yourself from them online, on messenger, over the phone or not going to locations where you know you will see them (Their work, stores near their home)
I believe one of the hardest distancing yourself from the Toxic person/people is emotionally or mentally not letting yourself go deeper into the 'dwelling hole of emptiness and worthlessness' that is created inside ourselves from being around the toxic people for long periods.
Side Note: Due to the Pandemic of Corvid-19 with lockdowns, Quarantine, and Isolation requirements your situation could be easier with setting boundaries away from the Toxic Person/People or it could create a traumatic in-home cage of turmoil.
Protecting yourself is very important to keep yourself safe, healthy and sane.
I know there are people with Children involved in these situations and times where it feels like no escape. Keep strong. Your children are innocent and have you as their only protector/guardian in these situations.
Currently, most jobs have less toxic people in the office due to Quarantine.
-Working from home can give you time to de-stress yourself from the Toxic person/people from your workplaces.
-Being told by state officials to isolate yourself can be beneficial for keeping yourself from seeing the toxic friends or toxic family members or toxic boyfriend/girlfriend.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Ash