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Actor Joshua Fredric Smith Shares Role As Single Dad

Updated on May 4, 2013

Leading Actor Starring As Single Dad: Joshua Fredric Smith

Look at the animated smile: that's not acting.
Look at the animated smile: that's not acting. | Source
Those eyes are bluer than the deepest ocean, and could melt the hardest heart.
Those eyes are bluer than the deepest ocean, and could melt the hardest heart. | Source
Caption: "You just can't complain when you have this to be thankful for. Look at that charisma!" - JFS
Caption: "You just can't complain when you have this to be thankful for. Look at that charisma!" - JFS | Source
Joshua Fredric Smith proves there's more to life than being an actor, or really, really good looking. It's called being a good dad.
Joshua Fredric Smith proves there's more to life than being an actor, or really, really good looking. It's called being a good dad. | Source

Joshua Fredric Smith in his best role ever: dad

In a country that hears countless stories about single mothers' woes to chase after absent fathers, there is another, more quiet side of the spectrum. There are men like actor, musician, artist and single dad Joshua Fredric Smith who are fighting to be in their child's life. I had the honor to hear his very touching story as he opened up and shared the challenges he faces.

Joshua Fredric Smith stood out one day as I perused a mutual friend's news feed on Facebook. Smith's strikingly good-looking features piqued my curiosity (as a life-drawing artist) and being a warm-blooded single woman, I naturally sent him friend request. Over time, it was apparent that unlike your cookie-cutter actor who clouds their news feed with plugs of self-promotion, Smith's appearances online were celebrations of his darling little girl, London.

Her pictures adorn his timeline and evidently, her dad's striking ability has been passed down a generation. Now, I'm not exaggerating when I say that London's blue azul eyes are so mesmerizing, you can already imagine the many hearts she'll be stealing some day.

As Smith was quick to point out, "she already stole mine!"

Keen to spotting good dad behavior and observing Smith's unwavering enthusiasm for London, I could tell he had a talent far greater than his acting abilities. I sent a message asking him to be interviewed for an article on single dads and their dating situation, being the single parent dating examiner. He graciously agreed. Little did I realize the story would be of a different nature: one that involves the harrowing tale of a biological father's plight to be in his daughter's life.

"It's not about stardom or status. It's about having my little girl."

Sensing the anxiety about his pending case and by his request, I won't go into legal details. Suffice to say that Smith is indeed passionate about his daughter's best interest and future. He wants to continue being in it as the doting father he has been. With elevated spirit, Smith points out that my timing for coming forward to tell his story was "serendipitous" to the events he's been dealing with. For all single dads who walk in his moccasins, he wants to be the beacon of hope that the obstacles they face are worth every effort.

"I never thought in a million years that I'd have to prove I love my child."

"A lot of men give up. Any man who wants to be in the child's life is already halfway there. Some people don't have financial resources to fight for [custody rights]." His tone solemn as he states that this hardship could be the reason why many fathers give up and walk away.

"My love for London is what keeps her safe."

Smith advises other men who are facing similar struggles with the legal process of child custody and visitation to simply be honest. "Stick to what's important in relation to your child." Truth will set you free.

Find a fathers rights organization to help you here. Learn about paternity rights in CA here.

The courts favor both parents being part of a child's life with the belief that mother and father roles benefit them. With his daughter's best interest in mind, Smith says, "London will be so thankful I did this for her." I concur.

About London: "There will never be a bigger achievement. She is my life."

With the unity of his family and friends, Smith stresses the importance of having support set up to get through difficulties. Although his dating life has been on a standstill during the trial, Smith did reveal that "all of LA wants to baby sit London." Remember the striking good looks? Yeah, no one is immune to his one-year-old daughter's charm.

Once the drama unfolded, Smith joked about how the courts are inundated with available single women handing him their numbers. "I've had more action in court than anywhere. [But] I'm so emotionally involved with my daughter to do the 'dating' thing."

"My time with my daughter is solid gold."

Time spent with London includes enjoying zoos, strolls through the park, visiting museums and Smith's favorite of all, seeing her wake up with a big smile. "To see the joy on her face that she has her dad in her life— that's all that matters."

"Our time is priceless."

Most of all, Smith wants his daughter to have peace, family, love and confidence. He wants to see her find the right relationship because "her father did everything he could."

"She already has loving grandparents. I want her to be safe and have a happy, fulfilling life."

"I could say I want her to go to Harvard, but I'm doing diapers."

Good dad, good-looking, actor, musician, artist and funny. Once he clears a few hurdles, Smith should have no problem dipping his toes back into the dating pool.

Listen to Joshua Fredric Smith's music here. See his artwork here.

On a final note, Smith wanted to add his views about dating. "As long as a woman adores that I love my daughter and understands she is a priority, then the rest will present itself. There [are] people out there that want their own children and family and that's perfectly fine. But there are others that would love to be a part of another journey and experience."

"Everything's going to be perfectly fine."

From my point of view, it already is. Smith is a ray of light that there are good men and good fathers among us. As I watch this man love his child, I can only say, "She is so lucky to have you." Although, I'm sure he'd say it was the other way around.


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      Matias 2 years ago

      While I have recently pekicd up quite a bit of traffic from South Africa, I am not dad to the Josh who has recently published a book. Not yet at least! I think you might want to head .

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 3 years ago from Southern California

      I wholeheartedly agree, Sarah. It breaks my heart more than words can say to see loving fathers shut out from their child's life. I read about Jason Patric as well and the laws make no sense to me. Even less when the biological mother denies her child the opportunity to enjoy both mother and father. Hopefully, more people will become aware of these issues and a reform for family court is well overdue. Thanks for commenting.

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      sarah macneil 3 years ago

      This is a problem that is becoming common place, and a father has every right to see his child as long as he is providing emotional and financial support for that child. Look at the case of Jason Patric.....another classic example Fathers have rights too. Jason and Joshua should be able to see their children even if they are no longer romantically involved with the mothers.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 3 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting, Ron Wallace. Understanding begins with having compassion and educating yourself. Well said, and hopefully more people will become aware if we help teach them.

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      Ron Wallace 3 years ago

      @Terry & Marie - you are out of touch with reality. You should research a topic before you make claims. This story is commonplace now in our society and needs fixing before more and more children are hurt. I'd link you to a million examples, but html is not allowed here. I suggest you google the topic and learn. Or at least search out the Father's Rights Movement on Facebook. In the end, it is about the children and this article is wonderful in bringing a little light to a problem that is just plain wrong. Thank you, Joshua and wonderful1, for sharing

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 4 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks for stopping by with your comments, Joshua Fredric Smith. Best wishes for a happy outcome in all of your challenges. The world needs more men like you.

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      Joshua Fredric smith 4 years ago

      Hi ...

      For those of you defending me here thank you !!.. For those of you who don't seem to get it ,

      I'm still fighting for my daughter and she was allowed to be relocated and completely alienated from my life ...

      It's easy to assume things when you're in a business where ego and vanity are what matters ...

      But what about those of us who come from simple stable lives ,, having living parent still married after 35 yrs and would do anything to protect our children ...

      I can say first hand it is a board system and all you have to do us tell a lie and throw a wrench in the game ....

      It's a sad day when love and compassion get you kicked out ..

      Some people are simply angry because it didn't go they way they planed .

      What matters is the children and there perspective in how two people should interact and work together ...

      It's all about our kids ..

      So , make your opinions and leave them at that ..

      Opinions .

      I have nothing but gratitude for this article and all the support for " our " daughter .

      Joshua Fredric smith

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 4 years ago from Southern California

      There are no facts to be found in an article written about observation and personal experiences from a single father. It is not about their court case, and it should be kept in discretion, in everyone's best interest.

      The only attention intended for this article was to bring light to the plight of single fathers fighting for paternal rights.

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      Marie Lopez 4 years ago

      @Terry... I must agree with you. There is something not right at all in this article. It doesn't make sense or add up. I think that wonderful1 should do her due diligence fact finding before she writes articles. Maybe talk to the mother and/or ask for his court paperwork before things are written like this. In my opinion, I think this person is just eating up the attention from this and could care less about his daughter.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 4 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you for sharing, kim. Although I feel like it depends largely where you file for rights, dads usually get the short stick. In my case, the judge ignored lies and failures of my ex to follow court orders. In Joshua's situation, I can see how the courts naturally assume the mother has the best interest of the child, meanwhile a dad often has to prove he's worthy of being in his child's life. Everything is relative.

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      kim 4 years ago

      my husband is that kind of father and his ex tried keep him away for no other reason than she is selfish and didn't want to share their son. there are women who do that all the time, it is not uncommon. he is not a womanizer and he had to fight to prove he loved his childand was a fit father. he also had to spend amounts of money that not all dad's would be able to spend to get equal time with his child in a bias court system.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 4 years ago from Southern California

      Thank you for stopping by, terry. We all see what we choose to see, but you should reread the beginning: I've never met Mr. Smith in person. And just because you don't know of these situations doesn't mean they don't exist. Paternal rights are just as important as maternal ones. My purpose is to bring light to it so that more people become aware of injustices.

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      terry loveless 4 years ago

      Interesting article because I don't know of a woman out there that would have a baby and want to get rid of a father that is so loving and caring. Looks like to me this man may be full of nonsense. Love isn't keeping the baby safe. The financial resources looks a bit odd also. From reading this article it appears that he might be a womanizer jumping from house to house or bed to bed. Looks like he is using this love baby to get recognition. I see the author is a woman and that Mr. Smith has met in a club and used charm to his advantage probably. Something is not right in reality about this article. I guess it gets the author and want to be celeb publicity is how I sum up this article. A father doesn't have to fight for rights if things are done right in the 1st place. Just my opinion.

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      Sheila Varga Szabo 4 years ago from Southern California

      Thanks, misterbungle. I'm rather proud of this one.

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      misterbungle 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Great article!