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Actor Joshua Fredric Smith Shares Role As Single Dad
Leading Actor Starring As Single Dad: Joshua Fredric Smith
Joshua Fredric Smith in his best role ever: dad
In a country that hears countless stories about single mothers' woes to chase after absent fathers, there is another, more quiet side of the spectrum. There are men like actor, musician, artist and single dad Joshua Fredric Smith who are fighting to be in their child's life. I had the honor to hear his very touching story as he opened up and shared the challenges he faces.
Joshua Fredric Smith stood out one day as I perused a mutual friend's news feed on Facebook. Smith's strikingly good-looking features piqued my curiosity (as a life-drawing artist) and being a warm-blooded single woman, I naturally sent him friend request. Over time, it was apparent that unlike your cookie-cutter actor who clouds their news feed with plugs of self-promotion, Smith's appearances online were celebrations of his darling little girl, London.
Her pictures adorn his timeline and evidently, her dad's striking ability has been passed down a generation. Now, I'm not exaggerating when I say that London's blue azul eyes are so mesmerizing, you can already imagine the many hearts she'll be stealing some day.
As Smith was quick to point out, "she already stole mine!"
Keen to spotting good dad behavior and observing Smith's unwavering enthusiasm for London, I could tell he had a talent far greater than his acting abilities. I sent a message asking him to be interviewed for an article on single dads and their dating situation, being the single parent dating examiner. He graciously agreed. Little did I realize the story would be of a different nature: one that involves the harrowing tale of a biological father's plight to be in his daughter's life.
"It's not about stardom or status. It's about having my little girl."
Sensing the anxiety about his pending case and by his request, I won't go into legal details. Suffice to say that Smith is indeed passionate about his daughter's best interest and future. He wants to continue being in it as the doting father he has been. With elevated spirit, Smith points out that my timing for coming forward to tell his story was "serendipitous" to the events he's been dealing with. For all single dads who walk in his moccasins, he wants to be the beacon of hope that the obstacles they face are worth every effort.
"I never thought in a million years that I'd have to prove I love my child."
"A lot of men give up. Any man who wants to be in the child's life is already halfway there. Some people don't have financial resources to fight for [custody rights]." His tone solemn as he states that this hardship could be the reason why many fathers give up and walk away.
"My love for London is what keeps her safe."
Smith advises other men who are facing similar struggles with the legal process of child custody and visitation to simply be honest. "Stick to what's important in relation to your child." Truth will set you free.
The courts favor both parents being part of a child's life with the belief that mother and father roles benefit them. With his daughter's best interest in mind, Smith says, "London will be so thankful I did this for her." I concur.
About London: "There will never be a bigger achievement. She is my life."
With the unity of his family and friends, Smith stresses the importance of having support set up to get through difficulties. Although his dating life has been on a standstill during the trial, Smith did reveal that "all of LA wants to baby sit London." Remember the striking good looks? Yeah, no one is immune to his one-year-old daughter's charm.
Once the drama unfolded, Smith joked about how the courts are inundated with available single women handing him their numbers. "I've had more action in court than anywhere. [But] I'm so emotionally involved with my daughter to do the 'dating' thing."
"My time with my daughter is solid gold."
Time spent with London includes enjoying zoos, strolls through the park, visiting museums and Smith's favorite of all, seeing her wake up with a big smile. "To see the joy on her face that she has her dad in her life— that's all that matters."
"Our time is priceless."
Most of all, Smith wants his daughter to have peace, family, love and confidence. He wants to see her find the right relationship because "her father did everything he could."
"She already has loving grandparents. I want her to be safe and have a happy, fulfilling life."
"I could say I want her to go to Harvard, but I'm doing diapers."
Good dad, good-looking, actor, musician, artist and funny. Once he clears a few hurdles, Smith should have no problem dipping his toes back into the dating pool.
On a final note, Smith wanted to add his views about dating. "As long as a woman adores that I love my daughter and understands she is a priority, then the rest will present itself. There [are] people out there that want their own children and family and that's perfectly fine. But there are others that would love to be a part of another journey and experience."
"Everything's going to be perfectly fine."
From my point of view, it already is. Smith is a ray of light that there are good men and good fathers among us. As I watch this man love his child, I can only say, "She is so lucky to have you." Although, I'm sure he'd say it was the other way around.