Affection, Attention and Appreciation
Seems so simple
Wow, who doesn't have something to say about relationships? Well I'm no Oprah and I'm definately not Dr. Phil either, but do we really need to look outside of our own head to know what we lack in our relationships? It should be pretty obvious to us by now that when our partner says " Hey, what gives, you treat me like sh*t!" or more subtlety "I remember when we used to..."
So, what is it that your relationship lacks? I wrote the first three I believe jkeep a relationship fresh or at least interesting and through a question similar to this hub that was asked here, this hub was born. Now, aside from other drains on a relationship such as alcoholism, adulterous behavior or a dominating and abusive personality, to name just a few of the more serious social issues that are in relationships, what is the key ingredient every person on this earth desires?
Did you say respect or how about trust? These are very important for a healthy and lasting involvement with each other, but sometimes our ire gets in the way so severely, we lose focus on these positive attributes we dispensed so effortlessly prior and focus on the negative impact of a word or action, even when small and insignificant.
Relax though, we ALL have those moments, Try to find those trigger points that have or could potentially set you off and then you must approach your partner and tell them how you feel when he/she - says/does - that/those actions or words that set off your annoyance alarm, thereby causing you to shift from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde, you get my point I'm sure.
Now, for another key point for continued bliss and unity, we can't forget trust. Although I have heard of and experienced love such as this and given love without having complete trust in a relationship, the continuance of such behavior will only lead to a premature end or worse. Make no mistake, a relationship requires work and also compromise. If the yield is to be reaped in abundance then what is expected must be sown fervently in anticipation.
Build up and not tear down
A love that's bold or alone and cold
So, this is my say, I know there is much more to a marriage, friendship, partnership etc. than this, but it's a start. I hope this gives you that gentle nudge in a direction of reconciliation and pulls you away from that fugue of discontent.
It has to start somewhere and with someone and you're elected if you have found this piece. Please be sure to leave a comment for the next person for I surely don't possess all the answers and hopefully through some sort of dialogue and feedback this might bring about the desired change you and I so desperately seek for our happiness as well as our partner's happiness. Oh yeah, almost forgot that one, we do need to consider how we will affect our significant other and keep our mouths and actions in check for the sole purpose of keeping hope alive.
Please consider the following;
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Please continue to work through all these with love in your heart and truth on your lips for a sound and lasting future.