- Gender and Relationships
After Lovemaking is Made
The buildup to sexual climax is long for most women and much shorter for most men. The foreplay is a tease on the desires of letting it go as things get hard. Hard to hold back. Each touch at the right time, in the right place, sends an earthquake of desire through one's body. And then finally...finally you explode in all directions and hugs become tight grips as sexual nirvana is reached. Sweat drips off and then pours off as gyrations sway both bodies like a gentle ocean. Deeper and deeper. In a moment's time, there is a silent gasp. The pinnacle of release. Ahhh. No two humans could be closer in being one for these moments. As the seconds tick, the moment subsides further and further away from the nirvana state. The seconds now become minutes and the reality both had for a lost moment now returns. There are sounds.
Children outside playing. A dirt bike whining in the back yard. A lawnmower cutting grass. Both now lose focus. The world is knocking. Passion remains but not as it was, except for the thought or memory, thoughts turn from "your other half" to "was the lovemaking act balanced" or was one "faking" it. Insecurities. Other more alien thoughts arrive, "were they satisified"?, "I've got that report to do for work", "did the kids hear us"?, "damn, I've got OTHER stuff to do".
As the couple withdraws back from the sexual nirvana state experienced, each has a nice warm, fuzzy feeling about the other. Hmmm, very tasty it is. And while both would like it to linger on for at least a few more minutes, both know that remaining in such a state would be detrimental to each as there are other demands, things, people, that require their attention and just making love all day long is impracticable, as nothing of value will get done, such as:
Buying groceries, take the kids to soccer practice, buy clothes, meet with the roofer about a new roof, meet with the car mechanic about the engine, fix the damn computer, plant plants, learn piano, jog 5 miles and so on.
But the cool thing is even when doing these other things of real value, you reflect on the intimacy and smile at that warm fuzzy feeling! You grin at the thought. That is when someone will pull you back to reality with: "what's so funny?" or "why are you grinning, you're weird".
One has to remember where they are long after making love.