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Marriage Restoration Advice

Updated on January 15, 2018
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I.W has a B.S degree in Exercise Science. He works in Rehab Services at a Hospital. He also teaches Bible Study & offers spiritual advice.

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Praying for Your Marriage

In Hebrew Chapter 11:1 of the Holy Bible, it's written “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” So after you have submitted your marriage prayer to God, you should have the faith that He will answer your prayer! However, you should also bear in mind that He usually answers at a time when you least expect Him to answer your prayer. There are even times when you are going to feel like giving up, because you have been praying for a long time, and yet your marriage problems or any other problems in general have remained unchanged or seem to be getting worst. However, you just have to keep on praying - “Pray without ceasing”, never give up, until you have overcome your situation.

Two Reasons Your Prayers Have Not Been Answered

Sometimes, the answers to our prayers can get held up, simply because of the following two reasons:

1.We keep on going back and forth with our prayers. What I am trying to say here is that, after we pray to God, instead of leaving everything to him, we keep on trying to take matters in our hands or in other words, trying to solve the problem by ourselves. It’s like asking an automobile repair person to fix your car, then taking it back trying to take care of the problem yourself, or to fix it the way you think it should be fixed, when you don’t even know the first thing about fixing a car. He is going to step aside, and allow you to do whatever you think is best!

However, in the long run, what you are going to do is to make matters worse. Either you are going to mess up what the car mechanic had already resolved or you might end up creating more problems that are going to take additional time to fix.

2.There are times when we even block our own blessings, by allowing the devil to lure us into doing things we shouldn’t be indulging in, after we have already surrendered our problems to God.

A prime example, every day, as soon as you have finished your daily morning, afternoon or evening prayer, you start to fuss with your husband or wife. Essentially, what you are doing is catering to the devil. You are literally inviting him to take up residence in your home. It’s like saying, “Hey my boy Lucifer, why won’t you come over to the house and hang with me and my wife, you know we don’t mind you hanging with us, whenever you want to.”

Guess what? He will accept the invitation, and the minute you open that door and let him in, this is going to be the beginning of trouble, worries, pain and grief! You’re going to have a very hard time getting him not only out of your house, but also out of your marriage and life in general. The harder you try to go up against him, the harder he will fight back. Have you heard of the saying “Hell broke loose?” This is what will eventually happen - he is going to invite his army into your house, your marriage or your relationship.

Now, you’re being attacked not only by Satan, but also by his entire army. Whenever you find yourself trying to rebuke him, the moment you think he is gone, don’t be shock to see a hand waving at you, saying “Hey, I am still here, I’m not ready to leave, my friends - remember you invited me - you told me I was welcomed here anytime.”

It is written In James 3:6 that where there is strife, there is also confusion and evil work. No doubt, Satan is the essence of strife. What constant strife does, it not only creates division between you and your spouse, it can completely diffuses your faith. If you allow strife to remain in your household, what you are unconsciously doing, is building a bridge between yourself and God. When you pray, you are expecting your marriage problems to be resolved, but in order for this to happen, you need to have faith - not a diffusion of faith! Finally, if you would like your marriage prayer to be answered, then you don’t need to be separated from God, due to strife between you and your partner. You need to stay tightly connected to God!

Prayers To Restore Marriage - Be Very Careful!

© 2013 I.W. McFarlane


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      I.W. McFarlane 2 years ago from Philadelphia

      Hi Marquita, Thanks for stopping by. I am deeply sorry to hear about your dilemma. However, as a believer you are already blessed and highly favored. Just continue to pray and I will also pray for you both. Father God already knows all about this and He understands why!

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      Marquita 24 2 years ago

      Hello, I've been searching and praying for help with my broken marriage. Marquita228 comment I stumbled across ironically same name and situation.

      My husband decided to have a girlfriend and admitted to adultery . We are separated living in different homes .

      This has been a continuous act with my husband and lies. His heart is harden and he see no wrong in his actions. This is my first marriage and I trust God but married to a unbeliever adulteress makes it complicated . I have began the draft for divorce..

      I knew this message was meant for me to read . Please keep us in prayer thank you God bless

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      I.W. McFarlane 3 years ago from Philadelphia

      Hi David, divorce is known to cause people a tremendous amount of stress, pain and griefs. However, I see that you have decided to take not only the right, but also the "best" approach -- continuous praying! Yes, please surrender it all to God, and he will fix everything! Just be patient, and continue to hold on tightly to your faith.

      P.S. I will pray for you.

      **Hebrew 11:1 says: "Now faith is the substance of all things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

      God Bless.

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      David 3 years ago

      We are on the brink of divorce and I'm praying nonstop. I believe that God still performs miracles. Please pray for me too

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      I.W. McFarlane 3 years ago from Philadelphia

      Dear Marquita228, allow me to first thank you for reading this hub. I would also like to express my deep sympathy for you having to come to the realization that your husband did not marry you out of sheer "Love". I can only imagine what you might be going through, deep within!

      However, one thing I would like you to know, is that sometimes when we pray to God, it's not that He is ignoring us! Rather, it's simply because He is working on something better for us! He is a loving person, and it's not His wish or desire to see us suffer.

      What I would advice you to do, is to keep on praying, because there's nothing too technical or damaged that God can't repair! At the same token, you must not only be patient, and have "Faith", but also, try to be open-minded while you wait. In other words, be willing to accept the outcome (restoration, no reconciliation, or separation).

      I know it's easier said than done, but we should try to get into the habit of asking God to grant us favors according to "His" wishes or desires, rather than ours solely! If we do this, we will be more willing/prepared to accept the outcome of our prayers. God always knows what's best for us!

      P.S Psalm 124:8 says: "Our help is in the name of the Lord, who made heaven and earth."

      God Bless.

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      marquita228 3 years ago

      I used to pray to God for him to restore my marriage but my husband told me he married me out of concern and compassion. He never said he did it because he loved me. I want to pray for restoration but it seems as if my marriage is too gone and too damaged.

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      I.W. McFarlane 3 years ago from Philadelphia

      Don't be scared Anna! Trust in the Lord and be of good courage, and He will take care of all your worries and fear. Just take everything to Him in PRAYER, and have faith that He is going to fix everything for you, according to His will!

      P.S. 1Peter 3:7 says "husbands are to give honour to their wives as the weaker vessel. Together they are heirs of life!"

      God bless.

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      anna 3 years ago

      I am scared and hoping my marriage doesn't end. Thank you for a great read. It helped me to feel better and it is right on. I also find it sweet that you respond to all the comments. it shows you really care.

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      I.W. McFarlane 3 years ago from Philadelphia

      Hey midget38, thanks for stopping by. Yes, if you continue to fuss at each other, you're essentially catering to Satan's tricks and deceits. He is happy whenever things are going his way. Remember, his intentions are to steal your happiness and joy and to destroy anything that's working well for you! God bless.

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      All solid points! I like number 2 especially. We should not fuss after our husband/wife after we have asked for forgiveness from God.

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      I.W. McFarlane 4 years ago from Philadelphia

      You are certainly welcomed Christopher. I am happy to know that you have stumbled upon "this simple marriage prayer" ... sincere and straight to the point!

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      christopher hayes 4 years ago

      I am truly grateful that I found this marriage prayer. I never really knew how 2 pray very well and certainly not about my marriage. Thus prayer has began 2 teach me how 2 pray my own heartfelt prayers 4 my marriage. Thank you

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      I.W. McFarlane 4 years ago from Philadelphia

      :-) Thanks for your thoughts on this midget38. You are absolutely right about this. Many people don't even realize that the dominion they have given the Devil over their lives!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      It's very much like the Screwtape Letters. We don't realize that we are being made use of by the Devil.

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      I.W. McFarlane 5 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thank you so much for leaving an encouraging comment no body :-). You have mentioned one of the key ingredients that we simply cannot afford to eliminate from our marriages, and that's "Unconditional Love". I like to refer to this as "Christian Love." Thanks for your input.

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      Robert E Smith 5 years ago from Rochester, New York

      Very solid advice mackyi. I enjoyed it very much. I have put some of this in some of my articles too. This is a very short article with very important material in it. If people would listen to this, I believe that 85 to 90 % of the divorces would never happen to Christians. The compliment thing that goes with what you said is unconditional love that includes forgiveness. Giving the problem to God is one thing but loving during and after the problem is another. Many see problems as marriage killers. God doesn't always see it that way. We need to see things as God sees them. Nice article powerful.

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      I.W. McFarlane 5 years ago from Philadelphia

      Hi torrilynn, thanks for stopping by. Each time you have been through the test, you will always have a testimony to share. No question about this ,prayer does help to solve a lot of our daily problems in life - This I can certainly attest to! Thanks for further reinforcing my thoughts on prayer. Your comment and vote are both highly appreciated.

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      torrilynn 5 years ago


      I feel that prayer does help to solve a lot

      thanks for this article

      it was inspiring and very well written

      Voted up

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      I.W. McFarlane 5 years ago from Philadelphia

      Thanks a great deal for stopping by my dear friend Ms Davis. Yes, at times most of us are guilty as charged, concerning the occasional habit of going back and forth in our prayers. In regards to the adversaries and the attacks - this we have to be really mindful of ! We have to be on our guards at all times.

      Thank you also for your additional input. I will definitely read your article.

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      Dora Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks for the good counsel here. I agree with you concerning going back and forth in our prayers and the attack by our enemy. Also, I invite you to find another way we block our prayers in my article: Why Bad Thoughts Thrive .. . on What We Pray.


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