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A Fun and Easy Quiz (and More) To Help You Learn More About Your Dates
It's All About "Breaking the Ice"
Without further ado, let us get straight to the matter of the quiz. Please know that I have given this quiz to many people over the years. It is a simple test with four easy questions that will actually secure some amazing and revealing results. It is a bona fide psychology test. The whole thing takes five to seven minutes to complete. You’ll need a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. If you don’t have anything handy to write on and you’re at a restaurant (with your date, of course), ask the waiter for a cocktail napkin.
Let me say, in my experience, men are very open to this quiz. Women, on the other hand, are sometimes slightly less open to being quizzed, but they're still pretty open nonetheless. The point is: Have No Fear. Go ahead and ask away. Your date gets to put on his/her thinking cap and you both get to have some laughs. What can be better than that?
Furthermore, your findings give you something hilarious to refer to down the road should the relationship continue to move forward. Honestly, I’ve never had anyone refuse to take the quiz. Everyone I’ve asked has been a good sport about answering the questions, and quite thoughtfully at that. I love that people will offer up a bit of themselves in this manner and so will you.
First of all, your date must use adjectives to answer each of the questions. Remind him (or her) that there are no right or wrong answers. Furthermore, I suggest you take this test yourself, before you even look to find out what each question signifies. Only then will you answers be honest and authentic. The questions are as follows:
- What is your favorite animal? Describe why using three adjectives.
- What is your favorite color? Describe why using three adjectives.
- What is your favorite body of water? Describe why using three adjectives.
- You find yourself in a white room with no doors or windows. How do you feel and describe why using three adjectives.
Give Your Dates a Few Minutes to Reflect
Let your dates take their time in choosing the adjectives they feel best describes the nouns they have chosen. The last question has already provided the noun (White Room) thus, only adjectives are needed for the fourth question. Remember, this quiz does not require super quick responses. If your date wants to think about their answers for a minute or so, that's perfectly fine. Only after your date has finished answering each question are you free to reveal the meanings of the questions.
The Meaning Behind the Questions
- The adjectives for the animal question signify how one perceives themselves.
- The adjectives for the color question signify how one thinks others perceive them.
- The adjectives for the body of water question describe one's feelings about sex.
- The adjectives for the white room question reveal one's feelings about death.
Pretty cool, wouldn't you say? (Funny story: One of the most unique responses I have heard for the “body of water” question was "a lifeless, murky pool.")
As an aside, I have found questions one and two to be interchangeable. Sometimes, a person perceives himself as the color adjectives more so than the animal adjectives, and vice versa. My advice is to just go with it. I have researched this matter and it appears the jury is still out on the animal/color thing.
Don't Be Overly "Judgy"
Another interesting observation I have discovered is that most people (who I know personally) have calm and reassuring adjectives for the “death” question. This never fails to amaze me. Apparently, most of my acquaintances are at peace with the idea of death. Is that awesome or what? However, I cannot say whether my findings apply to the general population. For example, my own “white room” adjectives were less than calm....they were more along the lines of “Get-me-the-heck-out-of-here-immediately-or-I-will-die.” Guess the joke was on me. Oh well, we are all a work in progress, after all.
My point is this: Don’t be too hard on your dates if their adjectives are not quite “up to par.” They may have potential coming out of their ears for all you know. Anyway, the quiz is basically another interesting tool with which to make dating more fun as you try to figure out which person is right for you. Think of it as a savvy method for getting some insight into the inner workings of your dates.
On the other hand, if you meet someone whose favorite body of water is “the bottom of a dark, bloody pool," I suggest you walk away, slowly, maybe even with your back to the wall.
Are You Good at Flirting?
A Word About Flirting
Flirting is the best ice-breaker in the world. I am sorry to say that most American women (according to International surveys) are really bad at it---mostly because we are fearful that the guy will get too "excited" about our flirting and get the "wrong idea" about how fast we want to move---which usually isn't that fast in our minds, but very fast in his. (Sigh). So anyway, the remedy to combat this fear is to flirt a little bit and in a subtle way. (Don't worry, he will pick up on the cues---it's what he lives for) Anyhoo, one might ask: How does one flirt "a little bit?"
I'll tell you.
In flirting, subtlety is everything. The trick is to come off as a desirable grown-up, (who'd have thought) rather than a silly tween. The corny come-on lines might be OK for a teenager, but they really don't work for adults. In other words, please forget every corny pick up line you've ever heard unless you're an old married couple and you want to give your wife something to roll her eyes about.
Bad and Good Flirting
Here are two bad examples: "I'm not a painter, but I can picture me and you together" or....."What time do you have to be back in heaven?"
Two words: Horrifyingly cringeworthy. Don't do it. I beg you.
Instead, all you have to say is: "That's a beautiful tie" or, "I love the color of your shirt....is that your favorite color?" And if you're a man? You guessed it: "That dress looks really beautiful on you" or, "You have beautiful hands---they're so expressive." Who knew that giving a compliment can be flirting?
Briefly touching his or her forearm, shoulder, or knee is another easy and effective way to flirt. Even tilting your head, smiling, and saying something pleasant such as, "You're really interesting. You make me think about things in a different way. I really like that." All these examples are short and sweet, but more importantly, they get the point across---that you're interested in this charming person sitting across from you.
If the above examples are a little too tame for your tastes and if you're a woman, rest assured, no man will mind if you come on a little stronger. You just have to be careful that you are not signaling to your date that you want to end up at his place (and in his bedroom) right after dinner---unless that is your goal, in which case, you don't have to be subtle at all. However, getting sexually involved to quickly nearly always backfires on the woman primarily because she becomes more emotionally invested in the "relationship" much sooner than he does once sex has occurred.
As for men, they should never flirt too excessively in the beginning stages of dating. Hard-core flirting actually makes women uncomfortable; she begins to feel as though he views her as a potential conquest. That's a real turn-off for the ladies.
If I had to pick one flirting tip which works for both men and women, it would be this: Look at his/her mouth and then his/her eyes, two or three times in quick succession. Then give him a half-smile with one corner of your mouth, making eye contact for a full second or two. This lets him know that you may be interested in kissing those beautiful lips of his or hers one day soon.....or maybe later on tonight.
The Top Five Countries That Have the Most Flirtatious Women
Italy & Argentina
A Fun Question
Here is a relevant and fun question created by eHarmony, a respected online dating site:
• Suppose your life is a movie. What is the title of the movie and who would play you?
This question is unique. More importantly, the answer you get gives you some insight as to how your date perceives him or her self. A person who is especially witty will come up with a hilarious answer. A more serious individual will lend the question some gravity. It’s all good. You’ve found out some things about this individual you didn’t know before. Yipee!
Which Tree Do You Like Best? ( Don't Peek Below and Don't Over Think It)
Here Are Your Tree Answers!
- Generous and moral, you reach for the skies and aspire to be the best.
- Honest, responsible and balanced, yet you also love having fun!
- Smart and thoughtful, you are actually a great thinker.
- Insightful, philosophical, and unique, you are truly one-of-a-kind.
- Self-reliant and strong, you have nerves of steel.
- Your aura is warm and bright. Kindness and love mean everything to you.
- Happy, calm, and non-judgmental, you are a sincere and empathetic person.
- Charming, energetic, and adventurous to the point where you sometimes shock people.
- You are very forgiving. Furthermore, you have a very healthy, optimistic outlook on life.
Hopefully, this article has pinpointed a few ways to help you know more about your dates. When all is said and done, the only way to learn about people is to spend time with them, asking relevant but fun questions---as well as engaging in other entertaining activities. Truth be told, most people love talking about themselves anyway, and now you've secured some useful and interesting tools with which to allow them do just that. And, if at the end the night, you find that your heart is still fluttering ever so happily, so much the better. You might have found yourself a keeper! Only time will tell.