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How Do You Know They Are "The One"?

Updated on November 11, 2017
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Maggie is currently attending Pennsylvania State University studying Psychology and Neuroscience.

Here's The Scoop...

So, I bet you all are wondering, "are they the one?" which must be why you clicked on this article. I am here to give you just a few key signs that they truly could be the one.

You feel happy when they are around...

Now, I know most of you are probably thinking, "yeah well, no duh", but hear me out. Happiness goes along with a pretty hefty hormone called, "dopamine" and the feeling of it rushing through your body can honestly compare to nothing else in the world. Remember when you got your first bike? Or the puppy you were begging mommy and daddy for? That sense of complete and utter happiness was the reaction from the release of extra dopamine. When they are in the room, you should once again feel that. They should make you smile, laugh, and love life.

You feel appreciated...

As a girlfriend, we all tend to do little things for our significant other, whether that be picking up their favorite drink when you make a Walmart run or leaving them the extra cookie in the bottom of the jar. Us girls tend to always think about the people we love. I know I do anyways. When you go out of your way, you deserve to be recognized for it. If they are willing to thank you and show gratitude, they truly do love you.

They will listen...

Listening is a big factor in love. When problems have arise and you go to them in hopes to fix it, they need to take it into consideration. If they dismiss you and do not try to fix things they cannot care. If it were special to them, they would be thinking of way to fix it from the moment it is brought to their attention.


Love is all about finding that common ground. You both may have to sacrifice at one point. Are they willing to sometimes sacrifice the little things? Maybe playing that extra hour of video games to take you out to eat? Maybe do you let them chose the place you guys go for once? If you see a future with someone, you have to know they will always have your best interest at heart, as so will you for them.

They want you to be the best you can possibly be...

They will push you to be great and push you to complete all of your dreams. They will not hold you back from achieving the goals you have for yourself.

After reading just these few key parts that could play into any long term relationship, I want you to do one last things before determining if they are actually "the one".

Take a moment and sit back, think about a few important things. Picture your future, do you see them in it? Do you see yourself happy and in love? Do you have any major doubts? Mind map those doubts, are they deal breakers or are they simply read flags? (Read my next blog to understand what both of those mean).

Speaking from personal experience, I ocne thought I was in love. I had not really thought about what kind of person he would help me blossom into. He held me back and did not really push me to be my best. There will be more about him and my struggles with his love coming soon...


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      Sandra Ashley 

      2 years ago

      As I was reading your article I making mental checkmarks. I think you hit the nail on the head.

      Some thing to think there a perfect time to know when he's/she's the one? Is two months too soon? Is two years too late and at that point, you're wasting you're time?

      Obviously I'm a romantic lol

    • dashingscorpio profile image


      2 years ago from Chicago

      Life is a (personal) journey.

      There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to love.

      Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      Each of us has our mate selection process/must haves list.

      Each of us has our "boundaries' and "deal breakers".

      Know yourself, Love yourself, Trust yourself.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The choice is up to us. Choose wisely!


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