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An Unsent Letter to My Ex-husband
To you Llewellyn,
Twenty years of being apart in which we only had seen each other twice; first when you visited our son in Angeles City in 2006 where you asked financial assistance from him for the surgery of your cancerous goiter and last, in 2008 when you attended the wedding of our daughter.
The miles apart and the length of years that separate us in which you are a distant past that should be left where it belongs should have been very convenient for both of us if not for the physical and legal evidence that until now keep haunting my present.
I had forgiven and had chosen to forget the dark days in that marriage because I acknowledge only what good that marriage has brought into my life.
Needless to say, the perfection of my true happiness in my old age is my children and grandchildren; they surround me and make my days fulfilling. Having them in my life is a gift far more precious than any wealth in this universe. I can only remember to thank you being the father of my extremely wonderful children.
I had given you my inheritance that my late father favored me more than my younger sister and our youngest brother. Fifty hectares of cultivated farm as a thanksgiving gift to you for being a wonderful father to my children; you were near to perfection as their father, not only because of your inherent high personal qualities but most important was the values and the pure fatherly love you had freely bestowed on them. They are now wonderful and responsible adults because in the first place, you and I had devoted ourselves and cooperated to build the strong foundation when they were children up to the time when they were teen-agers.
I give you most of the credits and so the reward of my inheritance that I give you wholeheartedly.
I should not be writing to you anymore if not for one thing. I am asking you to completely let go of everything that is between us. You got what you want (my farm) and I got mine (my children). I have no other children but the ones you sired. You got several from different women; I know of eight of them.
Let go of any ties between us, legal, imaginary, and tangible-intangible or of any sort and give way to me, to the manifestation of my dreams, to my personal happiness.
I now bless you and let you go completely. Go your way and I go mine.