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An Unsent Letter to My Ex-husband

Updated on July 18, 2013
In this wedding picture of my daughter; My son, me, my daughter, her groom, their father (my ex)
In this wedding picture of my daughter; My son, me, my daughter, her groom, their father (my ex)


To you Llewellyn,

Twenty years of being apart in which we only had seen each other twice; first when you visited our son in Angeles City in 2006 where you asked financial assistance from him for the surgery of your cancerous goiter and last, in 2008 when you attended the wedding of our daughter.

The miles apart and the length of years that separate us in which you are a distant past that should be left where it belongs should have been very convenient for both of us if not for the physical and legal evidence that until now keep haunting my present.

I had forgiven and had chosen to forget the dark days in that marriage because I acknowledge only what good that marriage has brought into my life.

Needless to say, the perfection of my true happiness in my old age is my children and grandchildren; they surround me and make my days fulfilling. Having them in my life is a gift far more precious than any wealth in this universe. I can only remember to thank you being the father of my extremely wonderful children.

I had given you my inheritance that my late father favored me more than my younger sister and our youngest brother. Fifty hectares of cultivated farm as a thanksgiving gift to you for being a wonderful father to my children; you were near to perfection as their father, not only because of your inherent high personal qualities but most important was the values and the pure fatherly love you had freely bestowed on them. They are now wonderful and responsible adults because in the first place, you and I had devoted ourselves and cooperated to build the strong foundation when they were children up to the time when they were teen-agers.

I give you most of the credits and so the reward of my inheritance that I give you wholeheartedly.

I should not be writing to you anymore if not for one thing. I am asking you to completely let go of everything that is between us. You got what you want (my farm) and I got mine (my children). I have no other children but the ones you sired. You got several from different women; I know of eight of them.

Let go of any ties between us, legal, imaginary, and tangible-intangible or of any sort and give way to me, to the manifestation of my dreams, to my personal happiness.

I now bless you and let you go completely. Go your way and I go mine.

My son and his fiance, my daughter and her two babies and my eldest granddaughter sitting beside me.
My son and his fiance, my daughter and her two babies and my eldest granddaughter sitting beside me.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Globe,

      Your two cents is actually a million dollars. That's why no matter how virtuous I am supposed to be I finally had let go...my only regrets is I didn't do it earlier...well maybe I was still not prepared. Thanks for your million-dollar comment.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Globe,

      Your two cents is actually a million dollars. That's why no matter how virtuous I am supposed to be I finally had let go...my only regrets is I didn't do it earlier...well maybe I was still not prepared. Thanks for your million-dollar comment.

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      Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

      Jynz,Patience has been said to be a virtue but I believe it has its limits as well.Life is already enough challenge the way it is.It will be unwise to let a bad marriage added to it.Challenges will be always be there for sure but there are ways to skew around them without getting yourself hurt badly.That's my 2 cents in.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Globetrekkermel,

      You have no idea...hehe...yes my patience is impossible to measure if I want to...people who don't know me think that I am irrational when I get angry...perhaps but to people close to my heart and life are lucky to have my company...I got loyalty beyond measure.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Globetrekkermel,

      You have no idea...hehe...yes my patience is impossible to measure if I want to...people who don't know me think that I am irrational when I get angry...perhaps but to people close to my heart and life are lucky to have my company...I got loyalty beyond measure.

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      Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

      Oh lala, jynz this man is a real class, isn't he? I would have not waited 20 years before booting him out! Lol ! you got a lot of patience , my dear. Lol!

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi catgypsy,

      Thank you for reading and appreciating my hub. I appreciate your encouragement for me and my children. God Bless.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Globe,

      As usual, it's good to hear from you; thank you for reading my humble hub. Yes, I have to spell it out "poignantly" as you put it. My children are the only children he has that are successful both financially and in life as a whole. His other children are either prostitutes or menial laborers for a living. My daughter just told me the other day that their father's new wife continues calling them (my children) for money; the alibi is that their father (my ex) is very sick and need their financial support. I called my sister whose ex-husband's relatives live in the place where my ex and his new family now live. My sister said that my ex is as energetic and healthy as a horse.

      This information pisses me off and so the unsent letter. It is unsent because my son assured me that he will handle the situation and that I have nothing to worry.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Globe,

      As usual, it's good to hear from you; thank you for reading my humble hub. Yes, I have to spell it out "poignantly" as you put it. My children are the only children he has that are successful both financially and in life as a whole. His other children are either prostitutes or menial laborers for a living. My daughter just told me the other day that their father's new wife continues calling them (my children) for money; the alibi is that their father (my ex) is very sick and need their financial support. I called my sister whose ex-husband's relatives live in the place where my ex and his new family now live. My sister said that my ex is as energetic and healthy as a horse.

      This information pisses me off and so the unsent letter. It is unsent because my son assured me that he will handle the situation and that I have nothing to worry.

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      Globetrekkermel 4 years ago from CALIFORNIA

      Poignant letter but straight to the point ,if I may say so. Is this guy retarded or what? LOL! Do you have to spell it out for him in plain english or the local dialect to read your lips and leave you alone? Hopefully, he will get it then. Keep moving girl, you got what it takes. how are you doing otherwise?

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      catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

      What a great letter. I admire your attitude. Good luck to you and your children.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi always exploring,

      Thanks for your comment. You're right, lots of courage and hurts too; but all is well that ends well. God Bless.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi always exploring,

      Thanks for your comment. You're right, lots of courage and hurts too; but all is well that ends well. God Bless.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      It takes courage to leave an unhappy relationship. Thank you for sharing..You have a lovely family. Best wishes....

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Doodlehead,

      Thanks. God Bless.

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi Doodlehead,

      Thanks. God Bless.

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      Doodlehead 4 years ago from Northern California

      Good for you!

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      Jenny Pugh 4 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA

      Hi MsDora,

      Thanks for the comment and the encouragement. God Bless.

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      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      I know the type of men who make better fathers than husbands. Glad you're happy with your children. The best to you going forward!

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