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Another view of Polygamy- A taboo lifestyle

Updated on July 30, 2012

When we, as a society, think about the word polygamy we are conditioned to think about one man with multiple wives who all live together. They typically take turns with time with the husband and the women see themselves as sisters. In these types of relationships or families the sexual aspect is only between the husband and one wife at a time. However, there is a subculture in today's world where polygamous households have a different few of it.

These families have one husband and multiple wives but the wives are just as much involved sexually with each other as they are with the husband. This subculture is just as secretive as tradition polygamous families due to the taboo nature of their lifestyle. As with other families, each member has responsibilities and duties pertaining to the household and any children in the home. The difference is in the type of emotional connection that the women have with each other. Rather then having a sister-type bond they view each other in a more romantic way.

The world we see

Many people who don't understand the dynamics of a polygamous relationship are often disgusted by the thought of it. The reaction to that disgust is usually shame and causes more people to bury their lifestyle even deeper.

Yes, in the United States, polygamy is illegal. That's why you can typically find a man who is married to one woman but has multiple women living in the home. The mindset or idea is that he is married to each of the women but only in the eyes of the law is he married to one. Even in the subcultures that have polygamous attributes the families still hold some sort of ceremony or celebration to symbolize the entrance of a new wife into the relationship. This serves as the "wedding." This rituals are generally kept small with no outsiders. This is because of the nature of the relationships.

We are told to be accepting of others beliefs and differences throughout our lives, and yet, there is a whole culture and subculture that hides its values and families from the world. Most understand very little of the lifestyle they choose to lead and still judge so heavily on it. The world is full of people who have different ideas of what family means, they love just same as anyone else but have to hide because they are "taboo."


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      Ghost32 5 years ago

      Looks to me like you and I are very much on the same page on this issue.

      There is, at least in my thinking, another extremely powerful and positive aspect of a polygamous household--whether it's one guy and multiple gals or one gal and multiple guys. And that is:

      What happens when the people in the house get OLD? I don't mean ready to retire from ye olde day job, but old enough that they start sickening and dying off, one by one. What THEN? Okay, if they think getting scooped off to a nursing home and dying out of sheer "THIS IS B.S.!" syndrome after 2 to 5 years, fine.

      But what if that's not an option in their minds or because of their finances?

      Well, in olden days, the failing folks lived out their final days at home, dropped dead at home, and Life went on--because there were multiple generations living under one roof. Many cultural groups, even in the U.S., still do that.

      That said, I'll admit I'd not have wanted to be living under my parents' roof after I was old enough to hit the road, nor would I have wanted to host them in MY house during their waning days. BUT...let's say (for your readers; I know you're already ahead of me) we have a little mini-poly 3-person group NOT all in the same exact age range: 1 man age 80, 1 woman age 65, one woman age 45 (just for example).

      Man drops dead one night of Senile Old-Fartness. The girls mourn TOGETHER, duh, then (when the time is right) set out to replace the dead guy. They find a cool 40 year old dude, add him to the mix...and the beat goes on, time without end.

      THAT seems a lot more functional emotionally, not to mention more cost effective, than the way so many 1+1 couples do it today where one partner dies, the other mourns ALONE...and then lives on ALONE for however long.

      Voted Up Plus.