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Aphrodisiacs: What’s Your Pleasure?

Updated on January 31, 2015

Wouldn't it be convenient if there was something to give our significant other that would guarantee a passionate, sexual interlude within moments of eating it, drinking it or smelling it?Maybe you’ve tried some of the more common and popular aphrodisiacs like oysters, bananas, or ginseng that claim to incite sexual desire. Were you counting down the minutes and waiting anxiously to be pounced on like you’ve never been pounced on before?

Most foods that claim to be aphrodisiacs are often based upon appearance (bananas) or texture (oysters). Spanish fly, derived from a green beetle in Southern Europe, might bring about a physical response in a male (it was used on farm animals during mating season, because it causes inflammation in the genitals) but, it has nasty, severe side effects including kidney and gastrointestinal damage.

An aphrodisiac is anything that stimulates sexual desire or increases libido. It should not be confused with something that will treat erectile dysfunction. With that understood, hunting for an herb, spice, food or some other type of ingredient that claims to be an aphrodisiac might send you into an endless search, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t something that will work. The trick to finding an aphrodisiac that works is to find one that is aimed specifically at your partner.

Understanding Brain Chemistry Makes Finding an Aphrodisiac Easy!

The part of the brain that is linked with libido is the Limbic System.  The primary part of this system is the hypothalamus, a gland that controls the body’s responses, both emotional and physical, to stimuli.  This is the gland that needs to be stimulated (at least in the beginning). 

In order for the hypothalamus gland to respond, it must receive input from the senses: sight; scent; taste; etc.   If you stimulate your partner’s hypothalamus, you’re probably going to get some results (action).

A sweet, tasty dessert and a bottle of wine could easily have romantic consequences. But, sometimes, simply shoving a favorite dessert under your partner’s nose or pouring a glass of wine might not be enough to spice up the bedroom. Think about your method of delivery, involve as many senses as you can, go the extra mile and really turn up the heat.

Men should think about including a rose with a sweet treat. Run her a bath. Give her a back massage and use some scented oil.

Women should think about putting on a lacy negligee and serving him a cold beer. Use an edible body spray or powder (his favorite flavor). Polish your fingernails. Polish your toenails.

If trying to find some time alone always seems to be a problem, focusing directly on the bedroom and adding some accessories like silky pajamas, silky sheets or a pair of soft, sexy gloves all feel good to the touch, heightens the senses, and could bring about a whole new experience.

By knowing what your partner likes and playing to his or her senses, finding something that is a true aphrodisiac and spices up your love life or spices up your marriage can be easier than you realize.


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    • Deni Edwards profile image

      Deni Edwards 7 years ago from california

      Thanks, Martie!

    • MartieCoetser profile image

      Martie Coetser 7 years ago from South Africa

      Great advice. Although I always thought it was mind over matter... or matter over mind... can’t remember which one it was :)))