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Is It Entirely A Man's Fault He Cheats?

Updated on July 23, 2017
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I grew up in a small town called Whitesburg, Georgia. As a poor Woodard girl, I had to make my own living and opportunities.

What's Love Got To Do With It

Insecurities

Many, if not most, men are creatures who harbor plenty of insecurities.

With technology being at everybody’s fingertips, infidelity is easier. Computers, instant messaging, texting and cell phones take what an innocent friendship, an acquaintance, business partner or work colleague to an affair.

I believe that most men do not dream of being unfaithful. I guess even the best of them does it? Hanging out with other men and women who are cheaters would defiantly become a factor. Flirting back with a flirtatious person is another factor. Therefore cheating is a two-way street, and for cheaters, it is a revolving door.

If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, you should ask yourself some questions before cheating: Why do you think about cheating? How will it affect your relationship with your partner? What is the worst-case scenario? Is it worth the cost?

FWB

Is it ok for unhappily married men to seek friends with benefits with another woman? It is more common than you think.

I think they should create a holiday for friends-with-benefits relationships. Because I feel like Valentine's Day is, maybe it's a day to stay home and cry.

— Elizabeth Meriwether

Should Women Share The Blame?

Unless the man is a complete jerk, I believe men cheat on women because the woman gives them reasons to do it. I believe most are faithful unless his mate shows him different. If his partner is not giving him what he wants, then he will go and find it. What is a man to do when his woman starts out hot and intimate then turn cold?

Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave.

— Martin Luther

Enchanting Romance

A Mistress Lifestyle

A mistresses job is to focus on helping and giving pleasure to men, at the same time as involving activities such as drinking fine wine, eating great food, listening to music and of course, having great sex. Mistresses take advantage of men’s uncontrollable or wandering needs.

These women are required because some married women have decided to cross their legs for an extended period and the husband has no choice but to arrange for some alternative. Other women have let themselves go — there is nothing less valued than a commodity that no one else wants. He can’t stand the sight of his partner and find cheating to be a solution.

These men look for women more desirable than their wives. These men get tired of being put down. They get sick of the arguments, so they go out to find someone to refuel.

CNN found that Hillary Clinton is the most admired woman in America. Women admire her because she's strong and successful. Men admire her because she allows her husband to cheat and get away with it.

— Jay Leno

Don't Be Misunderstood

Bottom Line, Become The Woman He Fell In Love With. Then You Will Have No Worries.

If you want to keep your man interested, you have to keep him intrigued. Take advantage of what he likes and pamper him a little. Make sure he feel like a man that is loved, and he'll feel like he's connected with you. He will secure that bond. Let him see you as a sexy woman.

  • Be more mysterious.
  • Be confident, look great. You can look your best, with a little effort. You don't need to be a model to look good.
  • Personal hygiene is important not only to look and smell your best on a daily basis, but it is sexy to a man
  • Smile more and lighten up on the nagging. No one enjoys an atmosphere of nagging, in any relationship. As a treat, do your man's task. Don't be so hard on him when he forgets something. Try to find some happiness.

If you trust him and he loves you, he won't want to give you a reason to revoke that trust. Bottom line, become the woman he fell in love. Then you have no worries.

The Sex Addict

Sex Addiction Is A Legitimate Mental Disorder

A person is defined as a sex addict when his behavior gets out of control and starts to have a negative impact on his life. These feelings and behaviors cause lots of shame, hopelessness, and confusion for the sex addict. These feelings are also frequently accompanied by denial, despite it being an unmanageable problem in the sex addict's life.

Sexual addiction takes up an enormous amount of energy, and you know you’re in trouble when your behavior causes relationship breakdowns, job problems, legal issues, and a loss of interest in anything non-sexual.

The first step is to talk to somebody, your general practitioner, your religious leader or a therapist.

But human nature dictates that there will always be cheaters. That's inevitable. Where there's money involved and glory, there are going to be people that cheat, and there will always be ways to cheat.

— David Millar

Women Get Jealous When Her Man Gives Others The Attention She Wants

No Excuses! He Is A Jerk

Some cheaters are simply uncaring jerks. They feel no guilt and no remorse. They get stuck in their social circle of sexual fantasies and multi-partners. Variety has ruined these men.

All my exes are serial cheaters. The Georgia/Alabamian wanna be, is a kind of sociopath cheater.

— Rosa's Concepts

Confrontation

What would you do if someone tells you, "your husband is cheating on you"?

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      Nancy Waldrop 8 months ago

      My man cheated on me because I'm a good girl and he wanted to be kinky and swing with other couples. I said no way

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      Allen Spradlin 8 months ago

      I do, I dream of cheating

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      dashingscorpio 9 months ago

      The goal of a cheater is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.

      Whatever is "missing" in their relationship doesn't rise to the level of ending the relationship or running down to the courthouse to file for a divorce. Most cheaters are not looking to replace one relationship with another. Essentially cheaters are looking to "compliment" what they already have.

      Having said that I believe there are 3 types of cheaters

      1. The Incessant Cheater

      This someone who has never been faithful long-term in any relationship. Their view of monogamy is equivalent to going on a very strict diet. It's not a matter of (if) they will cheat but rather (when). This type of cheater gets bored very easily and usually is on the look out for the thrill and excitement that comes with being with someone (NEW).

      There is nothing any woman could do keep an "Incessant Cheater" loyal.

      Their motto: Variety is the spice of life!

      2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater

      Unlike the Incessant cheater this one is not (proactively) looking to cheat. He may have a crush on someone or finds her extremely attractive. One day (she) flirts with him or gives him an indication that he could turn his private fantasy into reality. If this happens while out of town on business or in a bar setting his fellow male friends might egg him on to "go for it" as well.

      This cheater is guilty of being immature, exercising bad judgement, and caving in to temptation.

      Sometimes this type of cheater has been known to confess weeks, months, or years later to get the guilt off of their shoulders.

      3. The Discontented Cheater

      He/she blames YOU!

      Had you not started or stopped doing whatever they never would have stepped outside of the relationship. Ultimately they'll tell you that you took them for granted or stopped making them feel "special".

      Someone else came along smiled, flirted, paid attention, listened and so on.

      Nevertheless both monogamy and cheating are both choices that an (individual) makes regardless of circumstances.

      They chose to cheat on you as oppose to leaving.