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Are Men Really Hard-Wired To Cheat ?
The media seems to be so overflowing with men in the public eye that are cheating on their spouses. Once the ball started rolling, other cases are popping up! What gets me are all the mistresses coming out of the woodwork when things go public. I guess everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame.
Yes, many men do cheat; it’s hardwired in their genes. Some don’t, they are few and far between. With the internet, and all the technological gadgets out there, many are finding it easier and easier to cheat whether it is emotionally or physically. The temptations are great out there, for men and women. Yet, the majority of cheaters are men. It’s a sad fact.
After researching the internet, I have found many books and documents targeted towards women: how to keep your man from cheating, how to attract a man and keep him, what to do, what to say, how to act, dress, chew your food and so forth! Yet, the books for men on how to do the same things are few and far between. I have found more info for men on how to attract and sleep with as many women they can on adult sites than real books on the subjects that are targeted towards women. It goes to say a lot I think (women on how to keep them interested and men on how many they can get into their beds, lol!!)
What I find sad is that we women have to do all the heavy lifting. We have to keep them interested, be funny, connect emotionally with them and all the other important things on a constant basis, ‘cause if you slip up, he will go elsewhere to find that connection! What about the men, they just lay back and are stimulated emotionally, physically all the time without lifting a finger! I’ve always wondered why, why the women have to so much. Yes, we take the advice, do the steps, and hope we don’t slip up. Sometimes, I wish I was a man. I know that men do not connect on the same levels that we do. You have to be careful with them, don’t push, don’t ask, don’t this, don’t that and if you show the slightest amount of neediness, well too bad for you!
With all the documents, books, articles I have read on relationships, what I myself and others I know have gone through, I understand men so much better. When I see women of all ages, including young girls on the internet proclaiming their love to men through applications like My Space, Facebook, etc., I cringe, thinking to myself, “now you’ve gone and done it, he’ll be taking off like a rocket!!” Men take much longer than women to fall in love; their point of attachment is much further down the line. If you push too much, become needy, he’ll be running for the hills.
Men want what they cannot have, they like conquests. If you give in too soon, all the fun is gone and they move onto the next one. If you keep them enthralled by always being just a bit unpredictable and that they have to work for your admiration and love, yes, they will stay with you. I agree that many couples seem to forget the important fact; men need that constant attention, the emotional connection. It’s not about being hard to get, but establishing the emotional connection they crave. You have to speak their “love language”. It doesn’t matter how pretty, sexy, intelligent or skinny you are. I’ve know women the opposite of all this and they have conquered the hearts of men. A good example is Prince Charles with Lady Camilla. He cheated on his much younger, prettier, sexier wife for the emotional connection that he needed and didn’t get from her.
If you look at the insect world, the insects living in communities like bees, ants and termites are all female. Males are bred and kept only for reproduction purposes, then die or are killed off. The females are workers, soldiers and nurses, providing food, protection and raising the young. They do it all. Should we learn from them? Lol!!
© 2010 K D Martel