Are Teenage LDRs Bad?
Long distance relationships (LDRs) between people who have never met in person are controversial to begin with, but when it's between teenagers it's even more so.
So what's the deal? Why are so many people against them?
A common argument against LDRs is that it could be a scam or an opportunity for traffickers to kidnap teenagers. Many argue that teenagers are more vulnerable ton this trickery because they're young. I think quite the opposite. Teens nowadays are more equip to detect scams and stay away from unsafe situations due to their knowledge of the internet. Think about it, someone who was born in a world where was always there for them has more experience and sense surrounding the internet.
Others say you don't know someone unless you talk to them in person, but odds are someone who has decided to date someone else has known them long enough to get a grasp on their personality. If not, that's a whole other issue. Long distance relationship don't just consist of messaging each other all day either. You can video chat, play games together, and of course, safely meet up with each-other once in a while. Emphasis on safely. That means
- Making sure you have video-chatted before or they provided a picture of themselves holding up 3 fingers
- Meet in a public place
- Always bring a parent or guardian
If they are uncomfortable with any of these things that's a giant red flag
The last thing Ive heard from people is that it simply doesn't ever work out. They say someone may cheat or one person may get tired of not having that physical aspect of the relationship. While it is true there are some scummy people out there who will cheat and lie, you run the same risk when dating someone you know in person. Also, yes, some people, especially hormonal teenagers, can't handle not having a physical aspect to their relationship, but not everybody. Most people are self aware about whether or not they can handle that and its their responsibility to not get into a relationship they know they will be unsatisfied with.
Falling in love with someone far away is one of the most painful but, rewarding things I've ever done. It takes patience, discipline and real love for an long distance relationship to work. It's truly beautiful how some teen LDRs work out and they deserve the same respect as any other relationship.
No, teenage LDRs are not bad at all.
If you are in a long distance relationship with somebody remember to be safe and careful. Don't let your love blind you.
Do you approve of teenage LDRs?
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