"Are You In A No - Win Situation"
"Are You In A No- Win Situation"
"Are You In A No - Win Situation"
Are you living in a marriage of convenience? where your spouse is no longer showing you love before you throw in the towel. You might even call it quits to save you and your children, if you were blessed with any. Let me say that I am not an expert by any means but I do know what worked for me. You will have to find out what will work for you. I want to tell you that, when you're in this kind of marriage where your spouse lose interest in you. It doesn't what the reason maybe you become hurt and disillusion about the relationship. When we are put in this kind of relationship, we tend to lose interest in things and especially in ourselves and appearance. Let me tell you that doing this is not an option, it only make things worse for the both of you. Now, I know that you're at a point in your life that you don't really care one way or another. You feel like your spouse seem to be into something else or someone else and has left you to deal with your pain and loneliness all alone. I want you to know that regardless of how bad things are for you right now, you have to snap out of it to get yourself back together again regardless of how bad your spouse is acting.
You have to start somewhere so, I want you go out and get your nails done, and maybe get a hair cut, color and style that you like. Everything you do will be done for you because you need to pamper yourself. I want you to keep yourself in impeccable condition, even if you don't feel like doing it. I want you to fix up your face with your make up and use a little colored lip gloss, even if you don't use lip stick. Start your day off, from the moment you get up, making plans to make your self pretty and get out of the house. Every day plan to do something special for your self because you are the # 1 priority now. Don't forget to wear your best clothes and use your favorite cologne or perfume, or if you're a man wear your favorite after shave or men's cologne. Make a date to always take your self somewhere, even if it's nothing but going to the movies or McDonald's by your self. You cannot take the kids, because it will sabotage the aura that I'm trying to set for you, that will make your spouse wonder where are you going and who you're going with. It's very essential that you disclose nothing to your spouse, tell them you're going out and you will be back, that is all they need to know.
When you're interested in getting your spouses attention, they will notice your changes and actions. Believe it or not, when you start taking care of yourself and doing things for you, that will make you feel good. You will realize you deserve better and start to enjoy life again. We also have those that have gain extra weight, so believe it or not; the best thing you can do for you and your health is to join someones community gym and go walk the treadmill 3-4 times week 30-45 minutes a day. There are other exercising equipment you can use, but start slowly and build up your stamina so you can walk a good while on the tread mill. These action at the gyms will take off unwanted pounds, plus boost your self esteem. When it comes to your daily meal time start cutting your meal portion in half, also cut out sugary drinks like sodas, especially diet sodas because they hamper your weigh loss. Get rid of carbohydrate's and eat more fruits and veggies, even raw one with a little lite ranch dressing.
You can drink green tea and maybe some low calorie juices, but mostly water. Make sure you get enough water in your diet. You also need to change your eating habits, you check books out at the library and then buy whole wheat products, like pasta, no sugar added cereal and whole wheat breads. Make sure you always take out some time for yourself. It's a requirement that you follow this advice to the letter and you will start to see result for your self. It's very important that you don't do this for a little while and the stop, you need to have this as a life time change and not get back into the self debilitating act of self destruction. The most important thing to do is get yourself back on the track of life and the more you continue to do things for yourself, the more happy and self assured you will become and you will have the strength to walk away, lf you have to retain your dignity and sanity.
Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copyright 2011